anyone here TTC'ing for #2?

[Anonymous]

Just wondering how many, if anyone, here are TTC for #2? I got PG last spring and m/c, after 9 mo of TTC. Back on the horse again, and it appears that cycle #5 after my m/c is another failure.

This is really hard and really frustrating. I now have 7 (SEVEN!) close friends and family expecting in the spring next year. (I wish they would have shared the water they were all drinking!) Honestly, I know this sounds selfish, but I'm not sure how I will get through it without being PG. Especiallly since I would have been due on the front end of that baby boom, in February, had I not m/c.

We have an amazing and adorable 3 yo DD. This is just taking forever and I had hoped they would be no more than 3 yrs apart. Now we're looking at at least 4 years apart. And counting.

Sigh.

[Anonymous]

First I am so sorry.

I miscarried almost 2 months ago and know how you feel, especially since I know more people than you do giving birth around the time I was due! It sucks!
Anyway, I just got my first period after my m/c and wondering if I should listen to ob and wait to get another one or just try now. I have an 18mo dd already.


Good luck!

[Anonymous]

we're looking at more than 5 years apart, which saddens me. However, DH dragged his feet, and now he is willing, and I am 42. My concerns about age difference are practical. Even if I got pregnant today, these kids won't be in the same school at the same time.

[Anonymous]

13:23 Thanks. FWIW, my m/w (who is in a practice of OBs) said she just wanted me to wait for my first cycle, then we could start trying. So technically, we've tried for 4 mos now.

Yeah, and it doesn't help that I've had two friends and a family member give birth in the last 2 months too.

Ugh.

[Anonymous]

Trying for #2. Children would be 3 yrs apart. If I am so lucky to have another one, I don't care about spacing. So many women I know would just want my one beautiful dc and dh. I'm grateful for what I have and hopeful for another one.

[Anonymous]

Are you doing ivf? What chances are the doctors giving you at 42? I am in the same boat.

Anonymous wrote:we're looking at more than 5 years apart, which saddens me. However, DH dragged his feet, and now he is willing, and I am 42. My concerns about age difference are practical. Even if I got pregnant today, these kids won't be in the same school at the same time.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I've been trying for more than 18 months for #2. Numerous failed fertility treatments - I don't respond to the drugs, so we're just trying on our own right now. If I get pregnant on my next cycle, they will be 4 years apart. Not likely to happen, but I keep trying. I also didn't want them more than 3 years apart in school, but at this time it is so unlikely that it'll happen that I no longer worry about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you doing ivf? What chances are the doctors giving you at 42? I am in the same boat.

Anonymous wrote:we're looking at more than 5 years apart, which saddens me. However, DH dragged his feet, and now he is willing, and I am 42. My concerns about age difference are practical. Even if I got pregnant today, these kids won't be in the same school at the same time.

I am curious too -- another 42 year old who is on the fence.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you doing ivf? What chances are the doctors giving you at 42? I am in the same boat.

Anonymous wrote:we're looking at more than 5 years apart, which saddens me. However, DH dragged his feet, and now he is willing, and I am 42. My concerns about age difference are practical. Even if I got pregnant today, these kids won't be in the same school at the same time.

I am curious too -- another 42 year old who is on the fence.

NP here. I'm also 42, TTC #2. #1 is 6. I'm on my first IVF cycle; docs have given me what I think is an inflated figure of 25-30% chance. However, I got pregnant 10 mos ago and had a m/c and also have historically responded well to the drugs (was doing IUI previously). Not really holding my breath, but still hopeful...

[Anonymous]

same boat - i have a 5 year old and am 41 and three failed ivfs this year, including miscarriage and ectopic. i dont care anymore about age gap, just want the next one asap

[Anonymous]

Trying for third child, not going as well as it did with the first two, and of couse makes me wonder why. I feel like I "broke" somewhere along the line. I used to work just fine, but now I don't know.

[Anonymous]

Trying for the last four months and I've had two chemical pregnancies in that time frame. I have a 17 month old. I'm starting to get very discouraged and depressed.

[Anonymous]

I"m also going into month 4 of trying and like PP I'm getting very discouraged and depressed. It wasn't this hard with #1 (although I'm older and much more tired than before #1...). I"m on the fence about intervention. We definitely don't have the money for anything.

[Anonymous]

Although I definitely want another child, I think at this point if it doesn't happen for us naturally, we'll just stick with what we have. I don't think I could handle the insanity and expense of assisted reproduction.

Here's wishing all of us the best of luck, no matter how we're going about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:we're looking at more than 5 years apart, which saddens me. However, DH dragged his feet, and now he is willing, and I am 42. My concerns about age difference are practical. Even if I got pregnant today, these kids won't be in the same school at the same time.

My husband dragged his feet too and ended up agreeing when I was 43 and our son was 7. Pregnancy (twins) happened a year later and our kids will be 8 years apart! I still thank God they are coming though and our son is very excited to at last be having siblings. I get that the age difference is not ideal but I hope that as they grow older they will get closer.