Is being called or thought of as a bad mother...
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... (or father) the worst thing anyone could ever think about you?
It would be for me. I don’t care if someone thought I was a bad attorney or even a bad friend, but a judgment of being a bad mother would definitely hurt. |
Anonymous
I know I’m not a bad mother. My kids, family, and friends are happy with my mothering. So I wouldn’t care what someone else thinks. |
Anonymous
What if a friend or family member thought you were a bad mother? I don’t care what strangers think but I would care if a friend or family member thought I was a bad mother. |
Anonymous
Family and “friends” can be just as toxic as random strangers. |
Anonymous
| Lolz. I’m objectively a good mother so I’m pretty sure I don’t care what others think. |
Anonymous
I can’t imagine any situation in which my actions would lead my family and friends to truly think I’m a bad mother. If someone I knew said it just to try to hurt me or smear my name, I wouldn’t care. My behavior and my children’s lives stand as testament to my good parenting. |
Anonymous
| Yes. Without question it would hurt more than anything. Coming in second would be the thought that I was a bad daughter. |
Anonymous
To me this is kinda like those people who worry about curses. Why would you ever care what someone thinks if you know you are a good mom and a good daughter? You have at least some doubt and that’s all the opportunity needed. |
Anonymous
| Depends who said it. In most case I wouldn't care. |
Anonymous
| No, it is a badge of honor in the sense that you are not striving to be a perfect, helicopter, Tiger mom. |
Anonymous
| Only if I really, really valued the person's point of view on parenting. But the average person? Hell no. What do they know. |
Anonymous
Np here. If they did, I would consider it a reflection of some disordered thinking on their part. I’m a good mom. Not perfect, but good. Other people’s opinions on the subject just don’t matter to me. |
Anonymous
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Please! There are no bad mothers on DCUM!
OP must be new here. Whatever we do is perfect. |
Anonymous
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Sometimes being thought of as a bad mother is the best thing you can do for your kids. Having thick skin is part of parenting.
I will totally take the hit for my kids and be the bad mother rather than have anyone think of them as bad kids. And I will let them think of me as a bad mother in their teens and early twenties because sometimes I think young adults need a scapegoat for their mistakes in order to take a chance. |
Anonymous
| You can't control what other people think or say so this seems like a really bad metric to consider. |