| My wife and I have been struggling with a sexless marriage for years. We have been married for 15 years and as soon as we got married sex has been around 2-3 times a year. If course she says it's not me and always has some excuse. I've told her for years I've wanted sex at least once a month or at least some occasional hand relief {which she never does). Other than when she wanted a kid she magically had more sex. We have a 5 year old. As soon as the kid came we didn't even have sex for 2 years. We were on a 8 month spell and she wanted sex tonight. I flat out told her no. I said if we're not going to have sex once a month I don't want sex at all. She just got pissed at me and hasn't talked to me since. She denies me weekly, but I do it once and all hell breaks loose. If it wasn't for the kid. I'd be gone. |
| Is there a question here? |
| She’s asexual or closet lesbo. Which is it? Then move on. |
| Go to counseling immediately. You have big problems |
| this can't be that big a problem or you'd have left 14 years ago. |
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Change now before you waste another 14 years. Don’t stay for the kids sake.
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| So you want to have more sex with your wife but when she initiated, you said no because you don’t have enough sex with your wife. Not sure how that is going to result in more sex for you. |
Because he doesn’t want to have high expectations and then have her change her mind again. That would make him feel even worse. |
| She wants another kid. Don't have unprotected sex. |
| She's furious because shes afraid she missed her ovulation window. |
| She wants a kid |
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OP get out. Your wife withholding sex for 15 years is not in any way healthy for any of you. If she doesn't see sex as part of marriage other than for procreation, she should have made that very clear before she was married. The resentment and frustration you already have and that will continue to build is going to have an impact on your physician and mental health, your ability to be the dad you need to be, and your overall enjoyment of life.
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Is being selfish / self-centered - caring mostly about her own wants and needs her overall personality?
It doesn't sound like she treats you with much respect. |
Or OP is terrible in bed. This was the case with my ex. Not a problem with my second DH. |
this. Or she’s already pregnant from lover. |