No, I'm not going to have another kid so that I can have a boy

[Anonymous]

I'm pregnant with my 2nd. Another girl. I've been asked a bunch of times if I'm going to try for a 3rd to have a boy or if I wanted another girl. I really don't care what the sex is, I just want a healthy baby. Very annoying. Vent over!

[Anonymous]

Yes and I'm not going to try for a girl.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm pregnant with my 2nd. Another girl. I've been asked a bunch of times if I'm going to try for a 3rd to have a boy or if I wanted another girl. I really don't care what the sex is, I just want a healthy baby. Very annoying. Vent over!

I think a lot of the signaling subconsciously comes from you. Just act thrilled that you are having another girl and no one will ask this! I had two girls (and wanted two girls) and I don't think anyone ever asked me if I was going to try for a boy, and if they did, it didn't bother me. In fact, if I had a third, I'd sincerely hope SHE was a girl too.

[Anonymous]

Mom of 2 boys and I get asked all the time if I’m going to go for another so I can have a girl. I don’t get it. I’ve never expressed anything less than being thrilled with my two little boys. And even if we went for a third it could be another boy (which I would be happy with)!

I think it’s just small talk from people who don’t know what else to say.

[Anonymous]

I think it’s just small talk as well. I usually get “well, you have one of each so you don’t need a third”.

[Anonymous]

People just comment on whatever you say. It doesn’t even matter what you say.

[Anonymous]

I have two girls, and people asked me all the time if we were going to try for a boy. Nope! We're done.

I know people think they're just making conversation, but it
is pretty rude to ask.

[Anonymous]

I have 2 teenage boys, and am over 50. People still ask me if I regret not having a third that might have been a girl. What exactly do they expect me to answer to that? It's just small talk, but not great small talk. I usually tell them that we had two boys because we could stick with man to man coverage and going to 3 kids would have meant a zone defense....


In other words, relax. It's just not a big deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mom of 2 boys and I get asked all the time if I’m going to go for another so I can have a girl. I don’t get it. I’ve never expressed anything less than being thrilled with my two little boys. And even if we went for a third it could be another boy (which I would be happy with)!

I think it’s just small talk from people who don’t know what else to say.

Same. Love when they do it in front of my boys, who are now 5 and 8 and can totally understand it.

[Anonymous]

My first and second were a girl and a boy, and when I was visibly pregnant with our third, I got a lot of, but why, you already have one of each? People say dumb stuff all the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have 2 teenage boys, and am over 50. People still ask me if I regret not having a third that might have been a girl. What exactly do they expect me to answer to that? It's just small talk, but not great small talk. I usually tell them that we had two boys because we could stick with man to man coverage and going to 3 kids would have meant a zone defense....


In other words, relax. It's just not a big deal.

OP never said it was a big deal. She briefly posted, then said "vent over."

[Anonymous]

OP here, thank you all! My pregnancy hormones are raging lately. I think that's why I'm so annoyed.

[Anonymous]

Father of 3 girls here. 2 are identies. Occasionally asked if I wished I had a son.
I say "Likely the next 'one' would be a litter of 3 more girls, and I'm already getting gray. I'm done."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: I think it’s just small talk as well. I usually get “well, you have one of each so you don’t need a third”.

Yep. I have a boy and am about to have a girl. I think roughly every other day someone announces "So you are done, now, right?" If I don't feel like talking I say "yep!" or if I'm feeling more conversational I'll say, "Oh, I don't know. I just take it one kid at a time." It's annoying, but I know people are just trying to make conversation.

[Anonymous]

I’m not having another kid just to “give DD A sibling”. She’ll get a fish, then a puppy when the times are right.

Oh an no, DH doesn’t feel sad that she’s a girl. Admittedly, he wasn’t sure what to do with her at first. But now, he has his second hand zombie hunter and dance partner all in one adorable package. I’ve been replaced and couldn’t be more enchanted by my little “AP”.