No, I'm not going to have another kid so that I can have a boy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m not having another kid just to “give DD A sibling”. She’ll get a fish, then a puppy when the times are right.

Oh an no, DH doesn’t feel sad that she’s a girl. Admittedly, he wasn’t sure what to do with her at first. But now, he has his second hand zombie hunter and dance partner all in one adorable package. I’ve been replaced and couldn’t be more enchanted by my little “AP”.

AP?

[Anonymous]

You need to own it. “I LOVE being a girl mom!” I used to get this as the mom of an only. We’d exclaim, “We are one and done!” and typically people wouldn’t argue with that. Some pushy people would protest, but we would repeat ourselves until it became awkward for the other person.

[Anonymous]

"I am trying for a puppy next"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm pregnant with my 2nd. Another girl. I've been asked a bunch of times if I'm going to try for a 3rd to have a boy or if I wanted another girl. I really don't care what the sex is, I just want a healthy baby. Very annoying. Vent over!

I think a lot of the signaling subconsciously comes from you. Just act thrilled that you are having another girl and no one will ask this! I had two girls (and wanted two girls) and I don't think anyone ever asked me if I was going to try for a boy, and if they did, it didn't bother me. In fact, if I had a third, I'd sincerely hope SHE was a girl too.

Nope. I wanted two girls and got two girls and told everyone I was thrilled to have girls and I still got asked if we were going go try for a boy. Not one single part of me wanted a boy, so there was nothing subconscious coming from me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: I think it’s just small talk as well. I usually get “well, you have one of each so you don’t need a third”.

+1. I'm always tempted to say I didn't need any children. I wanted them.

[Anonymous]

I get asked this all the time and also have two girls. I just tell people I'll hope for a grandson but I'm done with having anymore kids.

[Anonymous]

Got two boys and happy as we are , but people can't seem to get over it and keep asking about me wanting a girl, trying for a girl, etc.

[Anonymous]

I have three boys and people say they’re sorry for me all the time. People are jerks...I’m really happy with my boys.

[Anonymous]

Try having three boys. The comments I get from people about how much they pity me drive me bonkers. The worst is when they say how sorry they feel for me in front of my kids!! It’s so rude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, thank you all! My pregnancy hormones are raging lately. I think that's why I'm so annoyed.

Yes you are right to be annoyed. When people act like we can control any of this, it's annoying. I have one of each and even though I am done, I still bristled at the assumption that I *should* be done. Because apparently the only real reason to have a 3rd wasn't just feeling like you wanted a 3rd kid, but you had to try to have the opposite sex child.

I know several families of three same sex siblings, so that strategy does not work out well.

[Anonymous]

You are really going to have to look internally to figure out why this bothers you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have three boys and people say they’re sorry for me all the time. People are jerks...I’m really happy with my boys.

+1

Or they ask if I will try again for a girl. As if my baby had disappointed me before he was even born because he grew a penis. And I wanted to talk about it on the metro to strangers.

[Anonymous]

We have three girls and are asked whether we will try for the boy! We are DONE AND DONE!

[Anonymous]

My parents had me, their third girl, because they were trying for a boy. They hadn't picked out a girl's name and this story was repeated often as I grew up. It wasn't helpful. I knew I was a disappointment from the moment of my birth.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you run with an annoying group of people. I just had my second girl. I think I maybe got that question twice in 9 months?