Coffee shop employee

[Anonymous]

This one worker always goes out of her way to say hi to me and talk to me. You think she's interested?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This one worker always goes out of her way to say hi to me and talk to me. You think she's interested?

Of course she is.

[Anonymous]

You haven't even asked out that pre-school single mom yet, and now you're going to torture us with your pathetic longing for a barista?

[Anonymous]

They work for tips, dumbass.

[Anonymous]

I think it's okay to ask a coffee shop employee out ONE time, respectfully, and if she says no receive it gracefully and keep it brief and coffee-focused thereafter. If you think you're the kind of guy who would make it weird if you continued to show up in her place of work by staring at her, making bad jokes about the time you asked her out, asking her out again, etc - DON'T DO IT.

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You haven't even asked out that pre-school single mom yet, and now you're going to torture us with your pathetic longing for a barista?

You sound jealous. I am sure he will get around to you eventually.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You haven't even asked out that pre-school single mom yet, and now you're going to torture us with your pathetic longing for a barista?

You sound jealous. I am sure he will get around to you eventually.

Well, I'm a guy, but I'll keep an eye out for a timid weaksauce beta male who keeps making lame conversational gambits but never musters the courage to ask me out.

[Anonymous]

I'm an alpha male. Me flex muscles at her every morning OP. She laughs at you. Me take her back to my place for coffee and more.

[Anonymous]

Sit and enjoy your coffee sometime. Chances are she is friendly and engaging with many regulars.

[Anonymous]

There's always that creepy old guy hanging around the coffee shop who is convinced the 20-something employees "are interested".

You're 30 years older than her. She's not interested.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They work for tips, dumbass.

Are tips at the coffee shop now the norm? Sometimes I tip if I use my card and the option comes up on the screen but other times I typically don't. Just like I don't tip at fast food restaurants (e.g. Shake Shack) or in general if I am getting take out or carrying my own food from the counter.

That aside, I had a barista who would frequently smile and make conversation with me AND give me free stuff (e.g. extra shots, large size when I ordered medium, extra cookies). I assumed she didn't give all customers free stuff and interpreted that as a sign that she liked me, but maybe she was angling for bigger tips too?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They work for tips, dumbass.

Are tips at the coffee shop now the norm? Sometimes I tip if I use my card and the option comes up on the screen but other times I typically don't. Just like I don't tip at fast food restaurants (e.g. Shake Shack) or in general if I am getting take out or carrying my own food from the counter.

That aside, I had a barista who would frequently smile and make conversation with me AND give me free stuff (e.g. extra shots, large size when I ordered medium, extra cookies). I assumed she didn't give all customers free stuff and interpreted that as a sign that she liked me, but maybe she was angling for bigger tips too?

Is the gas station next?

[Anonymous]

If they make some funky latte, I'd consider a tip. If they pour coffee into a cup for me or, even better, just had me a cup so I can fix my own, NFW am I tipping you for your overpriced coffee.

[Anonymous]

Op - if you are here asking, you are either in HS or you don't stand a chance even if she thinks you are cute. If you are too timid to find out for yourself if you are interested then she will be turned off by you by the 3rd date,