| I'm back dating again. I invited a guy inside to Netflix and cuddle. He only kissed and no overt moves. Is he not interested in me? |
| Or he respects you. |
| I find your assumption that men only want to get in your pants offensive. Maybe he doesn’t want to rush things. Maybe he’s a gentleman and didn’t want to pressure you. |
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How many dates had you been on?
How many times had you kissed? Did you make moves on him? I can see the opposite post. First date, I invite the guy in for coffee and to watch Netflix and he is all over me, like he expects sex just because I went on a date with him. The responses would all be how he is an asshole, sexual assault etc. |
He was probably bewildered by your parlous slaughtering of the actual phrase. |
| Why don't you make the moves instead of him? A lot of men are cautious due to all the #metoo stuff |
Actually, OP put a twist on it. Normally it’s Netflix and Chill. Not cuddle.
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Um, yes. That butchery is what I was referring to. |
Point being OP got exactly what she asked for. Intended or not. |
Yeah, but if she said “cuddle” instead of chill that’s a clear signal that you’re not interested in the “hookup” part. Chill = anything from making out to sex Cuddle = cuddle |
Exactly. Which is why I said that OP for exactly what she asked for and maybe he respected her. He wasn’t bewildered. He was listening. |
Simple. Men are thrown for a loop regarding what they should do. |
| I bet the guy hasn't had sex for a long time, and is nervous. |
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Ages of you two?
Guy here. I was like this when I was younger and still under the Disney fantasy of romance, respecting women, wanting to appear different from other guys in not going after it, etc. I cringe just writing this. All of the action I missed by being brainwashed me. But even back then I still would've at least felt you up. |
| 3rd base or no? |