It's official: Gen Z are not delaying marriage til 30s anymore, young weddings are cool again

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Very pretty conservative reporter married a year after college at age 23.

Hillsdale College alum

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think a lot of what this is of how the tone of what is aspirational is changing. For a little while cool was living alone in a big city, having an important job and being high powered and busy. “Girlboss” was used unironically and the idea of being an overtly feminine white collar job lady was celebrated.

Then people got burnt out by this and started celebrating and new (but retro) ideal woman. Sweet, calm, focused on her health and baking and living a “soft” life. Marrying young and living a white picket fence lifestyle has become glorified more than in recent years.

In either case, I would hope real life women aren’t basing their lives around what is cool on tv or, now, what is trending on tiktok.

Smart Gen Z women don’t see it as one or the other. While Gen X and millennial women didn’t think twice about sacrificing and delaying marriage and kids for a career, Gen Z women want the high status career & a husband and single family house by their 20s.

[Anonymous]

The soft life trend coincides with the wave of work from home dubious “laptop” jobs. The Gen Z ideal is marrying early and buying a trendy modern farm house in a premier location while you’re both pulling in six figure salaries via WFH gigs. The thought of being an unmarried girl boss or bachelor at age 30+ while still renting in and relying on dating apps in a city is mortifying.

[Anonymous]

Men can have sex without marriage and cook/clean after themselves and kids go to daycare. Women are breadwinners, have birth control and doesn't have to care about family/religious pressures.

Gen Z marriages are marriages of equality and partnership. They grew up with therapists, liberalism, internet and global culture. They want partnership, WFH and work-life balance. They can get married at 22 and have more maturity than a 32 year old millennial.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think a lot of what this is of how the tone of what is aspirational is changing. For a little while cool was living alone in a big city, having an important job and being high powered and busy. “Girlboss” was used unironically and the idea of being an overtly feminine white collar job lady was celebrated.

Then people got burnt out by this and started celebrating and new (but retro) ideal woman. Sweet, calm, focused on her health and baking and living a “soft” life. Marrying young and living a white picket fence lifestyle has become glorified more than in recent years.

In either case, I would hope real life women aren’t basing their lives around what is cool on tv or, now, what is trending on tiktok.

Smart Gen Z women don’t see it as one or the other. While Gen X and millennial women didn’t think twice about sacrificing and delaying marriage and kids for a career, Gen Z women want the high status career & a husband and single family house by their 20s.

At least that’s what you’re trying to sell on social media.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Very pretty conservative reporter married a year after college at age 23.

Hillsdale College alum

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think a lot of what this is of how the tone of what is aspirational is changing. For a little while cool was living alone in a big city, having an important job and being high powered and busy. “Girlboss” was used unironically and the idea of being an overtly feminine white collar job lady was celebrated.

Then people got burnt out by this and started celebrating and new (but retro) ideal woman. Sweet, calm, focused on her health and baking and living a “soft” life. Marrying young and living a white picket fence lifestyle has become glorified more than in recent years.

In either case, I would hope real life women aren’t basing their lives around what is cool on tv or, now, what is trending on tiktok.

Smart Gen Z women don’t see it as one or the other. While Gen X and millennial women didn’t think twice about sacrificing and delaying marriage and kids for a career, Gen Z women want the high status career & a husband and single family house by their 20s.

At least that’s what you’re trying to sell on social media.

Exactly. And I suspect all those GenZers will end up here whining about their lives and relationships like everyone else in any other generation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think a lot of what this is of how the tone of what is aspirational is changing. For a little while cool was living alone in a big city, having an important job and being high powered and busy. “Girlboss” was used unironically and the idea of being an overtly feminine white collar job lady was celebrated.

Then people got burnt out by this and started celebrating and new (but retro) ideal woman. Sweet, calm, focused on her health and baking and living a “soft” life. Marrying young and living a white picket fence lifestyle has become glorified more than in recent years.

In either case, I would hope real life women aren’t basing their lives around what is cool on tv or, now, what is trending on tiktok.

Smart Gen Z women don’t see it as one or the other. While Gen X and millennial women didn’t think twice about sacrificing and delaying marriage and kids for a career, Gen Z women want the high status career & a husband and single family house by their 20s.

At least that’s what you’re trying to sell on social media.

Why does young love trigger you? I wish you well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I come from a conservative culture where women marry young, including affluent ones.

All my peers wanted to get married young and many did. At the time it was upsetting to me I couldn’t find someone.

Instead I focused on my career and educated and traveled the world. I met my husband. I’ve lived in a few large cities. Now I’m so glad I didn’t marry young. I’ve lived a more exciting life and didn’t give up my 20s for kids in diapers. Looking back I can see the main reason my peers wanted to marry was $. They didn’t have a lot of career options so a man was a plan.

The big risk having kids going is that it disrupts a woman’s career and earning potential. Since I had kids in my 30s I had 6 months plus of accrued leave for each child and stayed in the workforce. My peers who had children at 26 dropped out of the workforce. I also made enough money when I had kids to hire a nanny and night nanny. This wouldn’t have happened at age 27.

I don’t know a single woman who has done well professionally and married very young. It’s not impossible but I know hundreds and don’t know a single one.

I’d actually rather choose to remain single forever and not have kids over having kids young and not having a career or financial freedom.

Great anecdote. Spouse and I married at 24, had kids in 20’s, are educated, have great careers we enjoy, and have lived in a few large cities (not sure why you think this would be interesting or an accomplishment) in three different countries.

We also prioritized raising our kids rather than outsourcing to a nanny AND a night nanny (!). Sounds to me like you had kids as a box-checking exercise to complement your amazing professional success.

You sound insecure about your choices.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think a lot of what this is of how the tone of what is aspirational is changing. For a little while cool was living alone in a big city, having an important job and being high powered and busy. “Girlboss” was used unironically and the idea of being an overtly feminine white collar job lady was celebrated.

Then people got burnt out by this and started celebrating and new (but retro) ideal woman. Sweet, calm, focused on her health and baking and living a “soft” life. Marrying young and living a white picket fence lifestyle has become glorified more than in recent years.

In either case, I would hope real life women aren’t basing their lives around what is cool on tv or, now, what is trending on tiktok.

Smart Gen Z women don’t see it as one or the other. While Gen X and millennial women didn’t think twice about sacrificing and delaying marriage and kids for a career, Gen Z women want the high status career & a husband and single family house by their 20s.

At least that’s what you’re trying to sell on social media.

Why does young love trigger you? I wish you well.

Social media isn’t real. You’re pushing bullsht.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think a lot of what this is of how the tone of what is aspirational is changing. For a little while cool was living alone in a big city, having an important job and being high powered and busy. “Girlboss” was used unironically and the idea of being an overtly feminine white collar job lady was celebrated.

Then people got burnt out by this and started celebrating and new (but retro) ideal woman. Sweet, calm, focused on her health and baking and living a “soft” life. Marrying young and living a white picket fence lifestyle has become glorified more than in recent years.

In either case, I would hope real life women aren’t basing their lives around what is cool on tv or, now, what is trending on tiktok.

Smart Gen Z women don’t see it as one or the other. While Gen X and millennial women didn’t think twice about sacrificing and delaying marriage and kids for a career, Gen Z women want the high status career & a husband and single family house by their 20s.

At least that’s what you’re trying to sell on social media.

Exactly. And I suspect all those GenZers will end up here whining about their lives and relationships like everyone else in any other generation.

The data indicates those who pair earliest have the best marriage success. When you pair late you have lots of trauma and baggage, you’re set in your ways, more likely the two of you might be settling, and you missed out on building a life together as you hit milestones together in your 20s. Plus potential fertility drama, which destroys many marriages.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think a lot of what this is of how the tone of what is aspirational is changing. For a little while cool was living alone in a big city, having an important job and being high powered and busy. “Girlboss” was used unironically and the idea of being an overtly feminine white collar job lady was celebrated.

Then people got burnt out by this and started celebrating and new (but retro) ideal woman. Sweet, calm, focused on her health and baking and living a “soft” life. Marrying young and living a white picket fence lifestyle has become glorified more than in recent years.

In either case, I would hope real life women aren’t basing their lives around what is cool on tv or, now, what is trending on tiktok.

Smart Gen Z women don’t see it as one or the other. While Gen X and millennial women didn’t think twice about sacrificing and delaying marriage and kids for a career, Gen Z women want the high status career & a husband and single family house by their 20s.

At least that’s what you’re trying to sell on social media.

Exactly. And I suspect all those GenZers will end up here whining about their lives and relationships like everyone else in any other generation.

Is there any generation that's not whining here about their lives and relationships?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I come from a conservative culture where women marry young, including affluent ones.

All my peers wanted to get married young and many did. At the time it was upsetting to me I couldn’t find someone.

Instead I focused on my career and educated and traveled the world. I met my husband. I’ve lived in a few large cities. Now I’m so glad I didn’t marry young. I’ve lived a more exciting life and didn’t give up my 20s for kids in diapers. Looking back I can see the main reason my peers wanted to marry was $. They didn’t have a lot of career options so a man was a plan.

The big risk having kids going is that it disrupts a woman’s career and earning potential. Since I had kids in my 30s I had 6 months plus of accrued leave for each child and stayed in the workforce. My peers who had children at 26 dropped out of the workforce. I also made enough money when I had kids to hire a nanny and night nanny. This wouldn’t have happened at age 27.

I don’t know a single woman who has done well professionally and married very young. It’s not impossible but I know hundreds and don’t know a single one.

I’d actually rather choose to remain single forever and not have kids over having kids young and not having a career or financial freedom.

Great anecdote. Spouse and I married at 24, had kids in 20’s, are educated, have great careers we enjoy, and have lived in a few large cities (not sure why you think this would be interesting or an accomplishment) in three different countries.

We also prioritized raising our kids rather than outsourcing to a nanny AND a night nanny (!). Sounds to me like you had kids as a box-checking exercise to complement your amazing professional success.

You sound insecure about your choices.

Do I? How so?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think a lot of what this is of how the tone of what is aspirational is changing. For a little while cool was living alone in a big city, having an important job and being high powered and busy. “Girlboss” was used unironically and the idea of being an overtly feminine white collar job lady was celebrated.

Then people got burnt out by this and started celebrating and new (but retro) ideal woman. Sweet, calm, focused on her health and baking and living a “soft” life. Marrying young and living a white picket fence lifestyle has become glorified more than in recent years.

In either case, I would hope real life women aren’t basing their lives around what is cool on tv or, now, what is trending on tiktok.

Smart Gen Z women don’t see it as one or the other. While Gen X and millennial women didn’t think twice about sacrificing and delaying marriage and kids for a career, Gen Z women want the high status career & a husband and single family house by their 20s.

At least that’s what you’re trying to sell on social media.

Exactly. And I suspect all those GenZers will end up here whining about their lives and relationships like everyone else in any other generation.

The data indicates those who pair earliest have the best marriage success. When you pair late you have lots of trauma and baggage, you’re set in your ways, more likely the two of you might be settling, and you missed out on building a life together as you hit milestones together in your 20s. Plus potential fertility drama, which destroys many marriages.

Does it? I thought it was the opposite. Mainly because the older you marry the more likely you are to be educated, which is a predictor of marriage success.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I come from a conservative culture where women marry young, including affluent ones.

All my peers wanted to get married young and many did. At the time it was upsetting to me I couldn’t find someone.

Instead I focused on my career and educated and traveled the world. I met my husband. I’ve lived in a few large cities. Now I’m so glad I didn’t marry young. I’ve lived a more exciting life and didn’t give up my 20s for kids in diapers. Looking back I can see the main reason my peers wanted to marry was $. They didn’t have a lot of career options so a man was a plan.

The big risk having kids going is that it disrupts a woman’s career and earning potential. Since I had kids in my 30s I had 6 months plus of accrued leave for each child and stayed in the workforce. My peers who had children at 26 dropped out of the workforce. I also made enough money when I had kids to hire a nanny and night nanny. This wouldn’t have happened at age 27.

I don’t know a single woman who has done well professionally and married very young. It’s not impossible but I know hundreds and don’t know a single one.

I’d actually rather choose to remain single forever and not have kids over having kids young and not having a career or financial freedom.

Great anecdote. Spouse and I married at 24, had kids in 20’s, are educated, have great careers we enjoy, and have lived in a few large cities (not sure why you think this would be interesting or an accomplishment) in three different countries.

We also prioritized raising our kids rather than outsourcing to a nanny AND a night nanny (!). Sounds to me like you had kids as a box-checking exercise to complement your amazing professional success.

You sound insecure about your choices.

Do I? How so?

Mainly the unnecessary dig about “amazing professional success.”

Also the references to raising our kids and outsourcing. Women who talk that way are usually very critical of working moms and there is something else going on. I was raised by a mother like this. Now I can see it was deep insecurity.