How late in the week do you accept dates?

My prim and uptight and miserable mother told me Tuesday, but the guy who'd ask me out on Tuesdays for Fridays was abusive and insulting.

The guy who would ask me out on Thursdays was kind and funny and a hard worker and I married him.

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03/12/2019 12:37

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If OP is a guy - my answer is, ask as early as possible. A week or at least by Tues or Weds. But if circumstances prevented you from asking earlier, ask later than Weds anyway rather than forego a date.

As a woman, in the days of texting, things move so quickly. If I was free, I'd probably say yes as long as he asked by Friday.

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03/12/2019 12:40

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Doesn't matter at all. If you want to go and are available once he asks, then accept.

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03/12/2019 12:45

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Anonymous wrote:Doesn't matter at all. If you want to go and are available once he asks, then accept.

+1

This smacks of one of those weird arbitrary “rules” that people put out, and then wonder why they are perpetually unhappy and single.

There are lots of reasons in a fluid life, that someone may not ask you out until later in the week. You can either take it as you’re Plan B, or take it that the moment their time freed up, for whatever reason, they decided they’d like to spend that time with you instead of someone else.

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03/12/2019 12:49

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Op here. I'm a guy. I tried to ask her out earlier, but I don't think she realized I was asking her out.

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03/12/2019 12:57

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. I'm a guy. I tried to ask her out earlier, but I don't think she realized I was asking her out.

Make sure you're clear in your communication.

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03/12/2019 13:03

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I'm a guy. I tried to ask her out earlier, but I don't think she realized I was asking her out.

Make sure you're clear in your communication.

I asked her what she was doing next weekend in reference to this Saturday. She then told me exactly what she was doing. Didn't ask why I wanted to know and proceeded to move onto another topic.

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03/12/2019 13:04

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Based on my experience, if you have a date with a woman at 8pm Saturday, she is willing to accept a date at 7:55pm Saturday with some other guy if she thinks it's a better deal.

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03/12/2019 13:04

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I'm a guy. I tried to ask her out earlier, but I don't think she realized I was asking her out.

Make sure you're clear in your communication.

I asked her what she was doing next weekend in reference to this Saturday. She then told me exactly what she was doing. Didn't ask why I wanted to know and proceeded to move onto another topic.

But did you ask her out? Doesn't sound like you did. . . .

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03/12/2019 13:06

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I'm a guy. I tried to ask her out earlier, but I don't think she realized I was asking her out.

Make sure you're clear in your communication.

I asked her what she was doing next weekend in reference to this Saturday. She then told me exactly what she was doing. Didn't ask why I wanted to know and proceeded to move onto another topic.

But did you ask her out? Doesn't sound like you did. . . .

Evidently not. I need to try again.

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03/12/2019 13:15

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Sounds like she changed the subject to avoid having to say no. But I could be wrong.

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03/12/2019 13:17

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Or she changed the subject because he was asking about her life but not asking for time in it so she moved along.

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03/12/2019 13:25

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I'm a guy. I tried to ask her out earlier, but I don't think she realized I was asking her out.

Make sure you're clear in your communication.

I asked her what she was doing next weekend in reference to this Saturday. She then told me exactly what she was doing. Didn't ask why I wanted to know and proceeded to move onto another topic.

I hated guys like you. In the DC area, guys are super vague about plans. They try to feel you out before actually asking. Or if they find out you are going out somewhere, "maybe Ill see you there". Or they tell you where they are going to be and expect you go there on the off chance you will run into them.

If you want to go out with her then you need to ask, "If you aren't busy on Saturday, would you like to go ti dinner and a movie with me?"