Am I alone in thinking this is unhealthy/selfish?

[Anonymous]

I am always put off by mothers who post a photograph of their child and write something like, “Like mother, like daughter”or “mini Me!”. Something that always brings whatever the child is doing back to themselves - as if the child exists as a reflection. Can’t the child just be or do something without it being about the mother? I have kids and while I do see resemblances, talents and likes that are like DH ormyself, I never make their lives about me.

Why is our generation so self-centered? It’s like everything has to come back to us as mothers.

I think it is so telling and so unhealthy to see those posts.

[Anonymous]

I think you're taking this too seriously.

[Anonymous]

You're overthinking it. Focus on yourself, not on judging other moms. We're all doing the best we can.

[Anonymous]

It's nice you don't have bigger problems.

[Anonymous]

I think you’re overthinking it. There’s a long way between saying “Mini-me!”, and unhealthily being unable to view your child as a separate person.

[Anonymous]

"Post a photograph" - assume you mean social media and not the fridge at work? Maybe get off FB

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am always put off by mothers who post a photograph of their child and write something like, “Like mother, like daughter”or “mini Me!”. Something that always brings whatever the child is doing back to themselves - as if the child exists as a reflection. Can’t the child just be or do something without it being about the mother? I have kids and while I do see resemblances, talents and likes that are like DH ormyself, I never make their lives about me.

Why is our generation so self-centered? It’s like everything has to come back to us as mothers.

I think it is so telling and so unhealthy to see those posts.

I think it's pretty telling that this bothers you. I truly do not understand why you think it's self-centered for someone to comment that their children are like them.

[Anonymous]

I agree. It is so self-centered and insecure of the mothers. Sad, actually.

[Anonymous]

Ha.. and in a total twist of irony, you made it all about you, or rather what you apparently don’t do.

[Anonymous]

Wait, so you’ve never noticed or commented on the fact that your child resembles or has a similar personality trait as you or your DH? Ever? That seems stranger to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you're taking this too seriously.

+1

One of my daughters looks like me and acts like me. Of course she's her own person, but if I have a picture of us both on a horse at the same age and we look like twins, why is that unhealthy?

[Anonymous]

OP, you really need to get off social media if something like this bothers you. Seriously.

[Anonymous]

I have a friend who does that and it makes me a little uncomfortable. People need to let their kids be who they are.

But why are you attributing this to your generation? That's not fair to other people in your generation. And I suspect it's not true of your generation more than others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wait, so you’ve never noticed or commented on the fact that your child resembles or has a similar personality trait as you or your DH? Ever? That seems stranger to me.

+1

I mean, if someone is constantly making those comments, and seems really invested in their kid being like them, or sees them only as an extension of themselves, that's one thing, but it is totally natural for people to notice and comment on how their kids are similar to them, how traits seem to have been passed down, etc. It's a way of feeling connected. And sometimes kids get a kick out of looking like/dressing like their parents, or imitating what they do--that's also normal and natural.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree. It is so self-centered and insecure of the mothers. Sad, actually.

I agree with OP. The narcissism is rampant.