How do you keep your teen driver off the phone?

[Anonymous]

DD has her permit and will be getting her full license this summer. She knows to not text and drive or be on the phone, but how do you KNOW they won't when you're not in the car? We haven't bought her a car yet, and when we do it will likely have bluetooth, but I'm still scared.

[Anonymous]

Life 360 tells me phone usage while car is operating. It's not perfect, but it's ok.

[Anonymous]

When my stepson starting driving, back in the days before smartphones, we could only verify after-the-fact. Our rule was the phone had to be in the middle storage area, out of sight, but still available in case of an emergency (I'd heard of some parents making the phone go in the backseat, but we were worried if he needed it, he wouldn't be able to get to it easily). Then on occasion I would look at our Verizon account online where we could see the times for texting. Fortunately for him, there wasn't any texting during driving. But found a LOT while in class. He got busted for that instead!

My DS is a year away from getting his license and we'll have the same rule for the middle storage area, but I'll be curious to see if there's any real-time options that folks post here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Life 360 tells me phone usage while car is operating. It's not perfect, but it's ok.

Phone use while driving means that she loses the privilege to drive.

Period.

And don't buy her a car until she has proven herself a safe driver.

[Anonymous]

You should stop using it yourself while you're driving, that would be a good start. Lead by example!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should stop using it yourself while you're driving, that would be a good start. Lead by example!

NP here. So confused by this post. Did I miss where OP said he or she does this? If not, you have done gone lost your mind. Why assume OP does this? I'm an adult, and I never use my phone while driving for any reasons.

[Anonymous]

I made a point to never use mine. Kids followed my lead.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Life 360 tells me phone usage while car is operating. It's not perfect, but it's ok.

I've been using Life360 for 5 years, and this is the first I've heard of this feature! do tell! where on the app is it exactly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should stop using it yourself while you're driving, that would be a good start. Lead by example!

NP here. So confused by this post. Did I miss where OP said he or she does this? If not, you have done gone lost your mind. Why assume OP does this? I'm an adult, and I never use my phone while driving for any reasons.

I think she meant that in general, years of watching the adult driver NOT use the phone is pretty influential. Not blaming the OP per se.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should stop using it yourself while you're driving, that would be a good start. Lead by example!

NP here. So confused by this post. Did I miss where OP said he or she does this? If not, you have done gone lost your mind. Why assume OP does this? I'm an adult, and I never use my phone while driving for any reasons.

I think she meant that in general, years of watching the adult driver NOT use the phone is pretty influential. Not blaming the OP per se.

This is really naive. If your kid wants to text while driving, never having seen Mom do it isn't going to make a difference at all. I did plenty of things I never saw my parents do.

[Anonymous]

I told mine that if I ever saw her looking at or touching her phone - even st a traffic light - that she wouldn’t be driving the car ever again.
The phone was to remain face down on the floor. And then I did observe her driving some.
I don’t want a dead teen! Or young adult.

I’m all for software that stops texts while the car is running too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should stop using it yourself while you're driving, that would be a good start. Lead by example!

I’ve never used my phone while driving, even at a stoplight.

I had a mom I was carpooling with TELL ME that I should stop and check my texts at stoplights so that I could tell her where her little pookie was and I wanted to strangle her for being a total idiot. Which I think that most people are because when the light turns green most of the cars don’t move!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should stop using it [b]yourself while you're driving, that would be a good start[/b]. Lead by example!

I’ve never used my phone while driving, even at a stoplight.

I had a mom I was carpooling with TELL ME that I should stop and check my texts at stoplights so that I could tell her where her little pookie was and I wanted to strangle her for being a total idiot. Which I think that most people are because when the light turns green most of the cars don’t move!

dont worry ,the PP is trying to be smug and thinks she is smarter than everyone else. Newsflash lady: DUH!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Life 360 tells me phone usage while car is operating. It's not perfect, but it's ok.

Phone use while driving means that she loses the privilege to drive.

Period.

And don't buy her a car until she has proven herself a safe driver.

Loses the car and the phone.

[Anonymous]

If you are in VA, the paper book they use to log their hours has a list of apps you can install of phones to check on this and/or limit disable use while the car is moving. Some from the App Store and some from your cell provider. Check there and see if one works.