My best friend is the reason all my relationships end
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Anonymous
| It's either my girlfriend thinks I like her, or that want me to stop talking to) hanging out with her. I don't play those games. I just want a real relationship with a secure woman is that so wrong? |
Anonymous
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There is never a situation where guy and girl are "best friends" (versus just friends) and there aren't deeper feelings involved.
Sorry OP. And I say that from the perspective of the girl who was the friend, not the jealous girlfriend. Although I often thought it wasn't like that, it ALWAYS came out in the end. Always. Even if it took a decade. |
Anonymous
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Honestly, this OP makes you sound young. How old are you?
But for argument's sake: are you attracted to your best friend? Do you comment on her appearance to your gf? That might be why your girlfriend thinks you like her. My DH's best friend is a woman. They were best friends when we met and started dating. I love her, too - she was the most supportive of us when we were going through a rough patch while dating. It would never have occurred to me to ask him to stop spending time with her. |
Anonymous
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If it walks like a duck...
Sounds like this is a recurring problem for you. So I'm less inclined to believe it's an insecure woman.thing and more inclined to believe there's a problem with your behavior. Either you grow up and establish appropriate boundaries with your friend or date your friend. |
Anonymous
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One of my good friends is a male, I am female. We've been best friends since 6th grade (both 50 now). Back in our early 20s, while visiting him in Chicago, we were running errands, including him getting a haircut. We were just laughing and talking, and the hair dresser asked how long we'd been married and we looked at each other and bust out laughing. Both happily married for 20+ years (me a little longer, he a little shorter), and our spouses are friendly now too. 100% platonic, always has been, always will be.
Our friendship was never an issue for my husband, nor his wife. |
Anonymous
| OP, sounds like you're giving mixed signals and your girlfriends realize it. If it were just one girlfriend, I'd say maybe she was insecure. But if this is a pattern, it's you who is making it look like you have feelings for your friend. |
Anonymous
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I’ve dated guys with women who are best friends. Some I had no problem with. Others I did. It wasn’t me being insecure. It was me picking up a vibe.
If you truly do not have any romantic or sexual feelings for your female best friend, but your girlfriends all have a problem with the relationship, then I’m sorry to be the one to break it to you— your BFF either has feelings for you or she doesn’t have feelings but is an insecure bitch and doesn’t want to share you and sabotaging your relationships behind your back. |
Anonymous
| I have a male BFF. Both married to other people. Both happy. I met him the first day of college and if my husband told me to give him up we wouldn’t be married. |
Anonymous
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Every time I’ve had a male BFF....we wound up spending “quality time” together ...
Ever try just making a go for it with your bff? |
Anonymous
This. It can't ALL be the other girls. You and your bff are the common denoninators here. Either you, she or the both of you are the problem. |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
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I also had this problem op
I finally managed to get past to when I quit having sex with my best friend |
Anonymous
| Past it |
Anonymous
| Well if she really is the problem seems like you either need to date her or check her |
Anonymous
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Is this your friend, OP?
https://www.theonion.com/but-if-we-started-dating-it-would-ruin-our-friendship-w-1819584582 |