My best friend is the reason all my relationships end
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Anonymous
That’s the best thing I’ve read in a long time!! |
Anonymous
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You have a friend problem. I've been the girlfriend and the bff in this situation. When my guy bff had a girlfriend or trying to get things going with a girl I always feel back a little and went out of my way to befriend the girl. I had other women do the same for me and we always got along fine. On the flip side I've had the bff try to compete for attention . You probably don't even realize it because the girls who do this area really subtle with their attacks towards your girl and then come crying to you about how she doesn't understand why your girlfriend/crush doesn't like her a t real innocent. And you think she's doing you a favor by pointing out the BS when really she's the originator of the drama.
If you can honestly say you act appropriately with your friend and there is no attraction or history. I say you have a bff who is subtly sabotaging you. Maybe because she likes you. |
Anonymous
| Troll. |
Anonymous
People like you that have to say "I don't play games" - play more games than you can shake a stick at. |
Anonymous
| When a guy gets a girlfriend, the only way his prior female friends remain in his life is by realizing the primacy of the girlfriend relationship, and by shifting from "a friend of the guy" to "a friend of the couple." That's how I was able to retain my guy friends - when they coupled up, I went out of my way to befriend the girlfriend and realized that she's their priority, not me. |
Anonymous
Preach! |
Anonymous
This. My guy friends with girlfriends/wives all love me because I respect this. Really though it's OP who needs to realize this. You are never going to have a " real relationship" if you don't realize your girlfriend is your priority. |
Anonymous
| Are you a man or woman? I’m reading this as a lesbian OP. |
Anonymous
| Op here. I'm a man. I'm in my late 20s. I've never touched my friend. Yes she's pretty but it's not like that. But we're friends so we talk, joke, and spend time together. She tends to have women jealous of her and talking crap But she's not the type to sabotage. I talk to her about my girlfriends and get her advice for female perspective on things. |
Anonymous
I promise you if you're friend has problems with other women she is the problem. Also, don't talk about your girlfriend problems with her. |
Anonymous
Same. Sadly I have known women like this and they are very good at playing innocent. |
Anonymous
Best part of this article for sure! Don't worry. You're so funny and smart and amazing, any girl but me would be lucky to date you. You'll find someone, I know it. And when you do, I'll be right by your side to suddenly become all flirty and affectionate with you in front of her, until she grows jealous and won't believe it when you say we're just friends. But when she dumps you, that's just what we'll be. Best friends. Friends forever. *** And also, if OPs BFF isn't the flirty affectionate type, then guaranteed she is the type that someone else alluded to...the one that is very very subtle about her possession of his time when talking to new girlfriend. She will be sure to drop into conversation how well she knows him, that X is his fav song and "don't you remember that time we went to that one restaurant...." laugh laugh laugh....awkward look "oh...it's sort of an inside joke thing" Don't feel too badly, OP...guys often just do not have any clue about the type of sneaky and subtle jabs that girls use to claim their territory all while being oh-so-friendly to new girlfriend. You may just be completely clueless about it. And it will be the BFF who gives you the doe-eyed shrug and "I don't know why she has an issue with me?..." But...she knows. She knows, OP. |
Anonymous
You shouldn't be married if you put your husband in second place behind your guy friend. |
Anonymous
You are flying blind. If she "tends to have women sabotage her" then she is the issue. |
Anonymous
| I guarantee that your best friend, maybe unconsciously, maybe not, is sabotaging your relationships. Don't feel bad about not noticing this, girls/women can be very subtle in how they undermine each other. Maybe she wants to be with you, in which case, would you consider giving that a go? Don't say no because it will "ruin your friendship", your alternative is to never have a lasting romantic relationship. If you are not interested in her, your other choice is to distance yourself somewhat from this friend and mainly interact as "couples" when she is with someone else. You sound like you are young and have time to figure this out, but I am sure from your descriptions that this is what is going on. Saying that other girls are "jealous" of her is a red flag, only a certain type of girl/woman says that sort of thing. |