What is emotional abuse?

[Anonymous]

I feel like I don’t even know. Is it being mad at someone ? Losing your temper? Telling someone they’re not doing something enough? Would criticism be emotional abuse?

I mean people can’t live together without fighting and sometimes getting frustrated with each other right?

I feel like I don’t even know.

[Anonymous]

There's no good definition.

[Anonymous]

Emotional abuse is sustained treatment. It's not a one off. We all get upset and say stupid things. BUT, LMGTFY.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/traversing-the-inner-terrain/201609/when-is-it-emotional-abuse

https://www.thehotline.org/is-this-abuse/abuse-defined/

https://psychcentral.com/blog/11-warning-signs-of-emotional-abuse-in-relationships/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Emotional abuse is sustained treatment. It's not a one off. We all get upset and say stupid things. BUT, LMGTFY.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/traversing-the-inner-terrain/201609/when-is-it-emotional-abuse

https://www.thehotline.org/is-this-abuse/abuse-defined/

https://psychcentral.com/blog/11-warning-signs-of-emotional-abuse-in-relationships/

+1

[Anonymous]

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/785287.page

[Anonymous]

It's not just disagreeing or criticizing. It's calling someone names, belittling them, humiliating them, screaming at them, gaslighting them, etc. It's sustained mistreatment.

You can disagree while still treating the other person with respect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Emotional abuse is sustained treatment. It's not a one off. We all get upset and say stupid things. BUT, LMGTFY.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/traversing-the-inner-terrain/201609/when-is-it-emotional-abuse

https://www.thehotline.org/is-this-abuse/abuse-defined/

https://psychcentral.com/blog/11-warning-signs-of-emotional-abuse-in-relationships/

+1

The hotline is spot on. Yelling is not acceptable even once in awhile. The withholding affection is not abuse if it's in response to being treated badly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's not just disagreeing or criticizing. It's calling someone names, belittling them, humiliating them, screaming at them, gaslighting them, etc. It's sustained mistreatment.

You can disagree while still treating the other person with respect.

I think the last statement here is key. I experienced emotional abuse for years (which DCUMers basically told me was not a big deal, btw) and the common trait was persistent disrespect. If you are consistently disrespected, you’re beingemotonally abused. I’m sorry OP.

[Anonymous]

If another person is not listening or responding to your respectful requests or questions, then what?

How does an issue get resolved if one is backed into a corner by stonewalling/silence or escalate (someone gets angry or both)?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If another person is not listening or responding to your respectful requests or questions, then what?

How does an issue get resolved if one is backed into a corner by stonewalling/silence or escalate (someone gets angry or both)?

If your partner is giving you the silent treatment (which can be emotionally abusive, BTW), and your choices are treat them disrespectfully in return, or leave, then you leave. Because then it's not about whatever the original issue, it's about a relationship in which both people are acting badly and treating each other with disrespect, and what's the point of that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel like I don’t even know. Is it being mad at someone ? Losing your temper? Telling someone they’re not doing something enough? Would criticism be emotional abuse?

I mean people can’t live together without fighting and sometimes getting frustrated with each other right?

I feel like I don’t even know.

Explained: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Psychological_abuse

[Anonymous]

When your husband doesn't actually ever hit you, but you still want to milk him for cash, prizes, and custody in the divorce, that's when it's handy to have invented a thing called "emotional abuse" that means whatever you want it to mean and requires no evidence to prove.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel like I don’t even know. Is it being mad at someone ? Losing your temper? Telling someone they’re not doing something enough? Would criticism be emotional abuse?

I mean people can’t live together without fighting and sometimes getting frustrated with each other right?

I feel like I don’t even know.

Stop everything you're doing and buy this book on kindle or nook or whatever (no hard copy) and read it right now. Why Does He Do That by Lundy Bancroft.
It is not an exaggeration when I say it will now all make sense. Please do this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When your husband doesn't actually ever hit you, but you still want to milk him for cash, prizes, and custody in the divorce, that's when it's handy to have invented a thing called "emotional abuse" that means whatever you want it to mean and requires no evidence to prove.

Whoa, this is dark, PP.

It’s definitely possible to treat someone unfairly, even abusively, without ever becoming violent. I’ve known people to become despondent, even suicidal from terrible home life situations.

[Anonymous]

Besides the definitions offered, it can be anything a woman says it is, because it's pretty much only women who claim to have suffered emotional abuse. If she hasn't suffered any real, physical abuse, there is always emotional abuse.