positive affair stories

[Anonymous]

anyone have a positive affair story? where having an affair really made your life better?

[Anonymous]

My mom would tell you her story is positive, because she really does love her AP. Unfortunately, it has negatively affected our relationship since the day I caught them when I was 14. And it cost her some friendships and standing in the community, and of course her integrity. We will never be a big happy family because her AP's adult children are on drug. She financially supports him as well. So she might think it is a happy story but I think that is just her denial and the price others have paid was far too high.

[Anonymous]

I feel like whoever says their affair story came out positively is either selfish or in a very unique situation.

An affair in the strictest sense entails lying to a partner. I can't envision an story where all parties (not only the ones commiting an affair) come out of it positively.

[Anonymous]

I wanted a divorce but my H wanted to go to counseling. Then I caught him cheating and I was able to file for divorce without the waiting period and he had to move out.

[Anonymous]

I know of only 1. They were both planning divorce when it started. They got married. They have been married for almost 10 years. Both of them are much happier and knew that they had already made a mistake getting married in their first marriages. As far as I know, everyone in the situation is happier. The first marriages were not right to start.

[Anonymous]

quit sleeping around on your husband op

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mom would tell you her story is positive, because she really does love her AP. Unfortunately, it has negatively affected our relationship since the day I caught them when I was 14. And it cost her some friendships and standing in the community, and of course her integrity. We will never be a big happy family because her AP's adult children are on drug. She financially supports him as well. So she might think it is a happy story but I think that is just her denial and the price others have paid was far too high.

+1. Ex cheated extensively, and I kicked him out. 10 years later he is married and, on the surface, the kids get along with NewWife and him. He would say it was a “positive” story. The kids would tell you otherwise. He has caused them a lot of pain, and the kids have just come to accept that he is irresponsible and they will never get what they want/need from him and have come to accept whatever crumbs he offers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know of only 1. They were both planning divorce when it started. They got married. They have been married for almost 10 years. Both of them are much happier and knew that they had already made a mistake getting married in their first marriages. As far as I know, everyone in the situation is happier. The first marriages were not right to start.

Ask the kids

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:quit sleeping around on your husband op

+1... and looking to justify it.

[Anonymous]

I had a several month affair. I ended it because I decided it wasn't who I was. It was positive for me because I moved on from tha temptation. My homelike was headed in a negative direction but somehow the affair woke things up. Maybe it was coincidence but I tend to think it breathed life back into me and my partner felt that sexual energy and responded to it.

While it may not have been as smooth of a road for AP, I believe things, in general, had a positive outcome. Going from being dead inside sexually to discovering how much sex is a part of your life is a good thing. Things on the home front didn't rekindle for AP but there is a new sexual being that keeps that spark igniting.

So I think it's rare but possible.

[Anonymous]

The people I know who feel positive about their affairs are those who felt like the affair was the only thing that gave them strength to leave the relationship. But those affairs still caused chaos in the lives of their spouses and kids-and friends and family to a lesser extent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had a several month affair. I ended it because I decided it wasn't who I was. It was positive for me because I moved on from tha temptation. My homelike was headed in a negative direction but somehow the affair woke things up. Maybe it was coincidence but I tend to think it breathed life back into me and my partner felt that sexual energy and responded to it.

While it may not have been as smooth of a road for AP, I believe things, in general, had a positive outcome. Going from being dead inside sexually to discovering how much sex is a part of your life is a good thing. Things on the home front didn't rekindle for AP but there is a new sexual being that keeps that spark igniting.

So I think it's rare but possible.

Until it is discovered.

[Anonymous]

Yes, he's now my DH and we have two kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, he's now my DH and we have two kids.

Until the kids find out.

Can you really trust each other, knowing what you know?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had a several month affair. I ended it because I decided it wasn't who I was. It was positive for me because I moved on from tha temptation. My homelike was headed in a negative direction but somehow the affair woke things up. Maybe it was coincidence but I tend to think it breathed life back into me and my partner felt that sexual energy and responded to it.

While it may not have been as smooth of a road for AP, I believe things, in general, had a positive outcome. Going from being dead inside sexually to discovering how much sex is a part of your life is a good thing. Things on the home front didn't rekindle for AP but there is a new sexual being that keeps that spark igniting.

So I think it's rare but possible.

Until it is discovered.

It's been a couple years, so I'm not sure that's going to happen.