I don’t want to stay at your timeshare.

[Anonymous]

There is an all-inclusive resort we visit about every other spring break. We love it because we don’t have to think about anything from the moment we step off the plane. They pick us up, provide top notch entertainment and amenities, and offer all the assortment of food and drink we could ever need. To us, it’s bliss when we “escape” to this place. It’s not cheap, but it’s a luxury we afford ourselves and look forward to.

My parents own into a timeshare and they have a resort hotel near our all-inclusive. Every year, without fail, my parents try to get us to stay there. They sell it up: It’s free! You’d have a kitchen and could cook! You could driver Uber to any restaurant you want! There are THREE pools! But, the fact that we love where we usually vacation, don’t mind that we have to pay, and love the “escape”. The timeshare my parents shill is just not what we are looking for, fre does not. But my parents bring it up CONSTANTLY. How can I turn the down without totally insulting them?

[Anonymous]

Just say it. "Mom, I know it sounds crazy to you, but we really love going to the XXX resort because I literally don't have to do a thing. I don't need to cook, grocery shop, figure out entertainment etc. To me, that is the vacation. You are offering such a lovely condo, but for the time being, we are just going to keep going to XXX. Thank you for the generous offer."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just say it. "Mom, I know it sounds crazy to you, but we really love going to the XXX resort because I literally don't have to do a thing. I don't need to cook, grocery shop, figure out entertainment etc. To me, that is the vacation. You are offering such a lovely condo, but for the time being, we are just going to keep going to XXX. Thank you for the generous offer."

This is so perfect, how did I not think of this! Especially the last part. I think part of the issue is she thinks I don’t find the timeshare appealing (I don’t lol) and the offer generous. I’ll try this next, thanks

[Anonymous]

Did they join the timeshare because they knew you loved the location?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did they join the timeshare because they knew you loved the location?

No, they bought in years before we started vacationing there. It’s coincidental.

[Anonymous]

There is only ONE place in the whole wide world that you love to vacation it just so happens to be down the street from your parent's timeshare.

Are you f'ing kidding me here.

Grow the F up. Either be nice to your parents or find an new all inclusive.

Did you parents emotionally abandon you as a child?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is only ONE place in the whole wide world that you love to vacation it just so happens to be down the street from your parent's timeshare.

Are you f'ing kidding me here.

Grow the F up. Either be nice to your parents or find an new all inclusive.

Did you parents emotionally abandon you as a child?

You would not say this to a real person in real life. YOU ARE RUDE!

[Anonymous]

I would be very direct, but then I have that kind of relationship with my parents.
"Because I want to be pampered without lifting a finger, Mom. No timeshare for us."

Why don't they stay there while you're at the resort, so that you can meet up?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just say it. "Mom, I know it sounds crazy to you, but we really love going to the XXX resort because I literally don't have to do a thing. I don't need to cook, grocery shop, figure out entertainment etc. To me, that is the vacation. You are offering such a lovely condo, but for the time being, we are just going to keep going to XXX. Thank you for the generous offer."

This is so perfect, how did I not think of this! Especially the last part. I think part of the issue is she thinks I don’t find the timeshare appealing (I don’t lol) and the offer generous. I’ll try this next, thanks

wtf OP, it is a generous offer, whether you like the timeshare or not. you need to recognize that. if they rented it out on VRBO, it could be thousands of dollars (I know, having recently rented a stranger's timeshare). be polite and say no thank you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is only ONE place in the whole wide world that you love to vacation it just so happens to be down the street from your parent's timeshare.

Are you f'ing kidding me here.

Grow the F up. Either be nice to your parents or find an new all inclusive.

Did you parents emotionally abandon you as a child?

You would not say this to a real person in real life. YOU ARE RUDE!

Just ignore the first PP. DCUM attracts the crazies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is only ONE place in the whole wide world that you love to vacation it just so happens to be down the street from your parent's timeshare.

Are you f'ing kidding me here.

Grow the F up. Either be nice to your parents or find an new all inclusive.

Did you parents emotionally abandon you as a child?

This is OP and I’m not going to even entertain this further, but their timeshare is represented in practically every popular US travel destination. I don’t know what to tell you.

[Anonymous]

Thanks Mom, but we are going to stick with our usual place.

[Anonymous]

OP, is their time share with one of the nice resorts,like Marriot or Sheraton?

If so, I'd suggest swapping it out for a different location and doing it as a separate location. "Mom, we just can't go to St. Kitt's without staying at the St K Best Ever Resort, because we love it so much. Your offer for the Marriott VC is so nice, though --could we switch it to Mallorca for next year and use it there? We'd love to go to Spain!"

I've stayed at the Marriot and Sheraton resort time shares and they are genuinely very nice. Of course, you don't have to do this, but if it were me, I would take the gift!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is only ONE place in the whole wide world that you love to vacation it just so happens to be down the street from your parent's timeshare.

Are you f'ing kidding me here.

Grow the F up. Either be nice to your parents or find an new all inclusive.

Did you parents emotionally abandon you as a child?

You would not say this to a real person in real life. YOU ARE RUDE!

Yes, when my friend is rude to her mom I say, why do you have be rude, just call her talk 10 minutes make her day.

Talking about rude... where is the OP?

She asked our opinion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is only ONE place in the whole wide world that you love to vacation it just so happens to be down the street from your parent's timeshare.

Are you f'ing kidding me here.

Grow the F up. Either be nice to your parents or find an new all inclusive.

Did you parents emotionally abandon you as a child?

This is OP and I’m not going to even entertain this further, but their timeshare is represented in practically every popular US travel destination. I don’t know what to tell you.

You need to own it. You are doing something that is selfish. It's okay, just be selfish or don't be selfish. But don't pretend you are not rude.