Free-range kids picked up AGAIN by police

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Anonymous wrote:I guess I come at it from a somewhat different perspective. My parents constantly made me care for my sister (5 years younger) when I was a middle schooler (think every day all day long when we were not in school and every day after school). While I was able to handle most situations fine, a few arose that were really outside of my capabilities and it was traumatic for me.

Yes, I have also had that experience. I was very mature and frequently was put in charge of younger siblings starting when I was about nine. It was not fair to me as I was a worrier and stressed a lot about doing the right thing. It also affects the sibling dynamics when one kid is in charge of the others.

Oh good God. So now siblings can't babysit either? That should be the next MD law I guess

I think they are talking about when a child becomes a primary care provider. I know this happened in my husband's family because mom had to work two jobs just to keep the family afloat.
His sister is very resentful.

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I guess I come at it from a somewhat different perspective. My parents constantly made me care for my sister (5 years younger) when I was a middle schooler (think every day all day long when we were not in school and every day after school). While I was able to handle most situations fine, a few arose that were really outside of my capabilities and it was traumatic for me.


Yes, I have also had that experience. I was very mature and frequently was put in charge of younger siblings starting when I was about nine. It was not fair to me as I was a worrier and stressed a lot about doing the right thing. It also affects the sibling dynamics when one kid is in charge of the others.


Oh good God. So now siblings can't babysit either? That should be the next MD law I guess

There is ALREADY a law saying that you need to be 13 to be responsible for a child under 8 in the home. So be indignant all you want.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I guess I come at it from a somewhat different perspective. My parents constantly made me care for my sister (5 years younger) when I was a middle schooler (think every day all day long when we were not in school and every day after school). While I was able to handle most situations fine, a few arose that were really outside of my capabilities and it was traumatic for me.

Yes, I have also had that experience. I was very mature and frequently was put in charge of younger siblings starting when I was about nine. It was not fair to me as I was a worrier and stressed a lot about doing the right thing. It also affects the sibling dynamics when one kid is in charge of the others.

Oh good God. So now siblings can't babysit either? That should be the next MD law I guess

Do you think nine and ten year olds should be babysitting?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I guess I come at it from a somewhat different perspective. My parents constantly made me care for my sister (5 years younger) when I was a middle schooler (think every day all day long when we were not in school and every day after school). While I was able to handle most situations fine, a few arose that were really outside of my capabilities and it was traumatic for me.

Yes, I have also had that experience. I was very mature and frequently was put in charge of younger siblings starting when I was about nine. It was not fair to me as I was a worrier and stressed a lot about doing the right thing. It also affects the sibling dynamics when one kid is in charge of the others.

Oh good God. So now siblings can't babysit either? That should be the next MD law I guess

Do you think nine and ten year olds should be babysitting?

yea... worked swimmingly for this 14 yo

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/288974.page

Wish CPS was called before this tragedy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:04/14/2015 14:23 poster:

If I remember correctly, they might have signed some sort of a safety plan before (during the last incident). This happened when the police brought the kids home.

I think I read this too. They didn't want to sign but the police wouldn't leave the kids there until they did?

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Do you think nine and ten year olds should be babysitting?

I babysat when I was ten, for pay. Not much pay, though. Baby-sitting was always a pink-collar job, with pink-collar pay to go with it.

In any case, I don't have a problem with ten-year-olds babysitting -- depending on the particular ten-year-old, of course.

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I grew up knowing how quickly bad things can happen and I have used that knowledge in my parenting to balance freedom and supervision to keep my children safe and healthy. I know that we can't protect our kids from any possible harm, but I will do my best to keep from putting them in situations that are beyond their age to handle.

I am certain that the Meitivs are also doing their best to keep from putting their children in situations that are beyond their age to handle. And since the Meitivs know their children, and you don't, there's a good chance that the Meitivs have a better idea of what their children can handle than you do.

My six year old relative was with a group of kids ages 6-10 playing at a park with no adults around. They were playing in a part of the park that an adult would have warned them away from because it was too close to the street. He was hit and his life was changed forever. I have talked to kids who were there when it happened and it truly would not have happened had an adult been there.

I get that kids are different but certain developmental milestones are fairly universal. Six year old children need supervision, and a ten year old is not yet ready for that and it is not fair to a ten year old to bear that responsibility. The kids who were there the day my relative was hit are adults now and they still think about that day.

If developmental milestones are universal, how come different cultures have such very different expectations of children's age-related capabilities?

Many reasons, not all of which pertain to this discussion, but partly because of differences in types of dangers that young children might be presented with.
Why expose kids to dangers that can harm them in a blink of an eye when you have the capability to teach them to protect themselves as they grow and develop? It is a rare six year old that understands the dangers of cars the way an adult does.

Nobody is suggesting that it's a good idea for a six-year-old who has never walked anywhere ever to suddenly start walking to school by themselves. As you say, you teach them as they grow and develop, so that by the time they are six, they are capable of walking to school by themselves.

I'm suggesting that six year olds should not be playing in parks with their only supervision being 10 year olds. When kids are playing, they let down their guard and may do things that an adult would see and correct immediately. An adult will tell kids playing too close to the street to move farther away, another kid will not.

I can name a number of situations from the "old days" where kids were harmed because of lack of appropriate supervision. We can learn from the mistakes of previous generations and do better for our kids. I've seen the results of sending kids out without supervision when they are too young and I knew I wanted better for my kids.

Funny, all I see are parents buried in their iPhones, not actually watching their kids at the park.

Even an adult reading a book or an iPhone would have been enough to save my cousin. Most people can read and be aware of what's going in around them at the same time and would recognize a dangerous situation that a child most likely would not.

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Anonymous wrote:New post article up with actual statistics

http://www.washingtonpost.com/blogs/wonkblog/wp/2015/04/14/theres-never-been-a-safer-time-to-be-a-kid-in-america/

"So where does that leave us in the debate over "free-range" children? Kids are dying less. They're being killed less. They're getting hit by cars less. And they're going missing less frequently, too. The likelihood of any of these scenarios is both historically low and infinitesimally small."

Shhhh - the helicopter moms will have none of this. They will say it is safer because of their helicoptering. I say they are making their teens and eventual college students and adults unsafe by smothering them. We will all continue to disagree.

Shhhh - the Range Rover parents will have none of this. They will say it has nothing to do with child neglect laws being in place.

Which child neglect laws? I am curious how that even makes a difference in the article.

More oversight = less deaths

There are not less deaths because the world is safer so lalalala.. let the kids roam free. There are less deaths because parents are required to follow laws.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I guess I come at it from a somewhat different perspective. My parents constantly made me care for my sister (5 years younger) when I was a middle schooler (think every day all day long when we were not in school and every day after school). While I was able to handle most situations fine, a few arose that were really outside of my capabilities and it was traumatic for me.

Yes, I have also had that experience. I was very mature and frequently was put in charge of younger siblings starting when I was about nine. It was not fair to me as I was a worrier and stressed a lot about doing the right thing. It also affects the sibling dynamics when one kid is in charge of the others.

Oh good God. So now siblings can't babysit either? That should be the next MD law I guess

Do you think nine and ten year olds should be babysitting?

yea... worked swimmingly for this 14 yo

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/288974.page

Wish CPS was called before this tragedy.

OK, so 14 isn't old enough for baby-sitting either. How old is old enough for baby-sitting?

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More oversight = less deaths

There are not less deaths because the world is safer so lalalala.. let the kids roam free. There are less deaths because parents are required to follow laws.

All violent crime is down, not just violent crime affecting children. Is that also because of child neglect laws?

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Anonymous wrote:I guess I come at it from a somewhat different perspective. My parents constantly made me care for my sister (5 years younger) when I was a middle schooler (think every day all day long when we were not in school and every day after school). While I was able to handle most situations fine, a few arose that were really outside of my capabilities and it was traumatic for me.

Yes, I have also had that experience. I was very mature and frequently was put in charge of younger siblings starting when I was about nine. It was not fair to me as I was a worrier and stressed a lot about doing the right thing. It also affects the sibling dynamics when one kid is in charge of the others.

Oh good God. So now siblings can't babysit either? That should be the next MD law I guess

Do you think nine and ten year olds should be babysitting?

9 and 10yr olds are not middle schoolers. Please reread. Yes, middle schoolers are old enough to babysit.

[Anonymous]

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I'm suggesting that six year olds should not be playing in parks with their only supervision being 10 year olds. When kids are playing, they let down their guard and may do things that an adult would see and correct immediately. An adult will tell kids playing too close to the street to move farther away, another kid will not.

I can name a number of situations from the "old days" where kids were harmed because of lack of appropriate supervision. We can learn from the mistakes of previous generations and do better for our kids. I've seen the results of sending kids out without supervision when they are too young and I knew I wanted better for my kids.

But should it be child neglect for a six-year-old to play in the park with a ten-year-old and no parent supervision?

Also, what's the trade-off? Children don't go anywhere these days without a parent. The benefit (perhaps) is that they are safer. The cost is that they don't learn to be independent and rely on themselves. Do you think that the benefit is worth the cost?

Kids are perfectly capable of learning independence and responsibility without being sent out by themselves at six and ten. Some of my kids are adults now and have responsible jobs and support themselves. The oldest saved up and bought a house, with no help from us. They rely on themselves while being confident of the love and encouragement of their parents. I did my best to give them the safety and security they needed as a foundation to go out into the world on their own. They're doing great even though I didn't drop them off at parks and have them walk home by themselves at the ages of six and ten.

Thank you!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I guess I come at it from a somewhat different perspective. My parents constantly made me care for my sister (5 years younger) when I was a middle schooler (think every day all day long when we were not in school and every day after school). While I was able to handle most situations fine, a few arose that were really outside of my capabilities and it was traumatic for me.

Yes, I have also had that experience. I was very mature and frequently was put in charge of younger siblings starting when I was about nine. It was not fair to me as I was a worrier and stressed a lot about doing the right thing. It also affects the sibling dynamics when one kid is in charge of the others.

Oh good God. So now siblings can't babysit either? That should be the next MD law I guess

Do you think nine and ten year olds should be babysitting?

yea... worked swimmingly for this 14 yo

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http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/288974.page

Wish CPS was called before this tragedy.

OK, so 14 isn't old enough for baby-sitting either. How old is old enough for baby-sitting?

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Anonymous wrote:I guess I come at it from a somewhat different perspective. My parents constantly made me care for my sister (5 years younger) when I was a middle schooler (think every day all day long when we were not in school and every day after school). While I was able to handle most situations fine, a few arose that were really outside of my capabilities and it was traumatic for me.

Yes, I have also had that experience. I was very mature and frequently was put in charge of younger siblings starting when I was about nine. It was not fair to me as I was a worrier and stressed a lot about doing the right thing. It also affects the sibling dynamics when one kid is in charge of the others.

Oh good God. So now siblings can't babysit either? That should be the next MD law I guess

Do you think nine and ten year olds should be babysitting?

yea... worked swimmingly for this 14 yo

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/288974.page

Wish CPS was called before this tragedy.

Interesting how most of the posters in that thread think it is inappropriate for a 14 year old to be babysitting, but here there are some who are okay with nine and ten year olds being responsible for younger children.

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Even an adult reading a book or an iPhone would have been enough to save my cousin. Most people can read and be aware of what's going in around them at the same time and would recognize a dangerous situation that a child most likely would not.

That is not true. What is true is that most people BELIEVE that they can fiddle with their phones and be aware of what's going on around them at the same time. Which explains why texting while driving is so common.