Child with delays keeps hurting my kid(and others)

[Anonymous]

There is a child at my DS school that is consistently hurting my child and others on an almost daily basis in extended day He has punched my son(age 5) in the face, breaking his glasses, stratched his back, pushed him against a wall causing a knot on his his head and bitten his arm. There have many many complaints and the extended day staff have reassured us the child has a 1:1 aid, but the incidents keeps happening. I confirmed with staff that my child is not provoking this child(he isn’t aggressive at all but wanted to make sure.) I don’t know what else to do?

[Anonymous]

Make other arrangements for aftercare. Clearly the staff is unable to provide adequate supervision/intervention and your kid should not need to suffer because of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Make other arrangements for aftercare. Clearly the staff is unable to provide adequate supervision/intervention and your kid should not need to suffer because of it.

+1. The aftercare needs to lose someone---either the aggressive child or your child. You can only control what happens to your child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Make other arrangements for aftercare. Clearly the staff is unable to provide adequate supervision/intervention and your kid should not need to suffer because of it.

+1. The aftercare needs to lose someone---either the aggressive child or your child. You can only control what happens to your child.

The one who hurts has to go.

[Anonymous]

OMG that is horrible! Tell the school principal that you are going to file charges. Enough is enough. Special needs or not, this is the fault of the school running the aftercare. Your poor child!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Make other arrangements for aftercare. Clearly the staff is unable to provide adequate supervision/intervention and your kid should not need to suffer because of it.

+1. The aftercare needs to lose someone---either the aggressive child or your child. You can only control what happens to your child.

The one who hurts has to go.

Do you really want your child inadequately supervised? Removing the other child doesn't solve the issue of inadequate supervision.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OMG that is horrible! Tell the school principal that you are going to file charges. Enough is enough. Special needs or not, this is the fault of the school running the aftercare. Your poor child!

This. Schools are scared to exclude SN kids or treat them differently because they don’t want to be sued themselves. You need to give them an “excuse” so they feel justified in doing it.

File charges against the child to get the police involved, and then complain to the administrators in your area who are higher up than the principal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG that is horrible! Tell the school principal that you are going to file charges. Enough is enough. Special needs or not, this is the fault of the school running the aftercare. Your poor child!

This. Schools are scared to exclude SN kids or treat them differently because they don’t want to be sued themselves. You need to give them an “excuse” so they feel justified in doing it.

File charges against the child to get the police involved, and then complain to the administrators in your area who are higher up than the principal.

+1. Make the school and the district accountable.

[Anonymous]

I just read it said "and others." Do you know the other parents? What actions are they taking?

Make sure the school knows others are involved, too. THis kid is a danger and they need to kick him out.

[Anonymous]

That’s so frustrating, we have a similar perpetual fighter at our school who is not SN. He is much bigger though same age and has drawn blood from three kids, bruised many of his friends and recently broken another child’s finger in after care. I am waiting to see how and what the response will be because it seemed like the staff finally decided to get very serious. It took some poor kid breaking a finger!

[Anonymous]

You and other parents have to keep filing formal complaints and pressuring the administration to change this child's placement from a general education setting to a special program, on the grounds that even with a one-on-one aide, which is the maximum the school can give him in this setting, he is still a danger to others.

This happened some years ago at my friend's MCPS elementary. The school wanted parents to file complaints because the child's parents refused special placement, and the school needed extensive proof that the child was a danger to others in order to over-ride (not sure how) the parents.

After several years, the child left the school, but my friend and I still don't know whether his parents took him out in the face of continued pressure without a plan for his special needs, or whether they accepted the school's plan for placement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That’s so frustrating, we have a similar perpetual fighter at our school who is not SN. He is much bigger though same age and has drawn blood from three kids, bruised many of his friends and recently broken another child’s finger in after care. I am waiting to see how and what the response will be because it seemed like the staff finally decided to get very serious. It took some poor kid breaking a finger!

There are many who’d argue that being constantly aggressive is a SN. They will figure out how to put him in one of the categories, for sure. There’s apparently no such thing as poor parenting anymore.

[Anonymous]

I had a SN child (very mild) in a mixed classroom and I had to get my child removed because of behavior like that. I'd find a different after care program as its not going to change.

[Anonymous]

I have a SN child and there was a first grade typical child doing all of the types of things in OP's note -- even shoved leaves down his shirt after dragging DS on the ground outside during lunch recess. Nothing happened to other child. YMMV.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG that is horrible! Tell the school principal that you are going to file charges. Enough is enough. Special needs or not, this is the fault of the school running the aftercare. Your poor child!

This. Schools are scared to exclude SN kids or treat them differently because they don’t want to be sued themselves. You need to give them an “excuse” so they feel justified in doing it.

File charges against the child to get the police involved, and then complain to the administrators in your area who are higher up than the principal.

+1. Make the school and the district accountable.

If this is happening in aftercare you need to deal with aftercare, not the school.
Aftercare just rents space from the school, they are not part of the school system and the principal is not involved in the business.

I agree with other PPs who think you should consider different care - not because of the child in question, but because of the way the aftercare is handling the situation.