Am I the only parent not in favor of sleepovers?
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Anonymous
| My 13 year old DS is in middle school and I have not met many of his new friends. I am encouraging get-togethers, etc. hosted by us or have me drive them to the movies, so I can meet these kids. We are a fairly fun family. My kids have earned a fair degree of independence over the years, so I would not say we/I "hover." Over the past month, my DS has received several invites for sleepovers by kids I have never met with parents I have never met. I say no, my husband disagrees. I would like to meet the kids first, know the families and then feel comfortable saying yes, but until we are at that point, I say No, no way. My DS is fairly responsible on his own, but he is VERY susceptible to peer pressure...maybe they all are, I just know mine is right now. I am interested in "letting go", I just don't think right this second is that right time. What do we think? |
Anonymous
| No. I remember lots of sh!t going down at sleepovers growing up. I have no idea how I'm going to handle this, though. My kids are still young. |
Anonymous
| So meet them when you drop him off? |
Anonymous
| I hate sleepovers. But at some point you have to let go and let your kid start making decisions. |
Anonymous
| We limit them and make them special. One per month. |
Anonymous
| I knew a family who did not allow their kids to do sleepovers at all. Their daughter would stay until 11:00 or so and then a parent would pick her up. We were friendly, but not friends, and I never had an issue respecting their choice. |
Anonymous
thats a lot! At least for us it would be. |
Anonymous
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Raises hand. Not allowing them. People can stay up late but everyone can sleep in their own beds at home. If you’re really sleeping, what’s the difference? Fact is we all know they stay up till 4am and they can’t function for two days.
Just go to sleep, kids. |
Anonymous
| If he wants to do it, you should get to know one or two families well enough to feel comfortable. It doesn’t have to be constant, but it’s fun occasionally. In the end it’s probably not a huge deal if he can’t go but he is missing out on something lots of kids are doing. |
Anonymous
At 10yo "sleepovers" there is literally NO sleeping. But I only allow kids to sleepover if I know and trust the parents. |
Anonymous
| I hate sleepovers partly for that reason, and partly because they don’t function for two days after. I think 13 is too young to let go, maybe at 14. |
Anonymous
| I have no issue with it if I've been to the house and/or know the parents. But, if you cannot take the time to meet me for a few minutes or invite me in when I drop off your child or pick up mine, then absolutely not. They can sleep over our house. |
Anonymous
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It wouldnt much bother me, but you have to know your kid. My kid HATES sleepovers and refuses all of them. He likes his own bed and he says and he likes to sleep in on weekends. He also is his own person and very stubborn and not one to go with the crowd.
I might feel differently with my youngest who os a teouble maker. |
Anonymous
| I don’t like sleepovers either. DD is 12 and I don’t allow it with friends from Middle school. |
Anonymous
| No, but my kids have never asked to do one. |