Am I the only parent not in favor of sleepovers?

[Anonymous]

I hate sleepovers, but my kids attend them, and we host them. I do try to keep the number of sleepovers reasonable, but I don't insist on being best buddies with the other parents before the kids attend. I usually go up to the door at drop-off if I don't know the family pretty well. Only once did I get a bad vibe, and I claimed a sudden, family emergency about 10 minutes after I left DS at their house.

[Anonymous]

Nope, we don't do them yet. My kid is 12, so I guess we'll see. But, I really would prefer not to do them. Not much push back from my kid so far.

[Anonymous]

My kids hate sleepovers, and so do I - so no conflict about that.

[Anonymous]

We have never really done them- each kid has maybe been to three non family sleepovers. I hate them- kids are exhausted, lots of potential for inappropriate behavior.

[Anonymous]

We have a small house and it would basically be a nightmare to have sleepovers. Since I can't reciprocate I don't encourage them for my kids. But it hasn't been much of an issue. It comes up occasionally and with a few good friends only. Mine are both boys, not the super popular kids, so maybe that has something to do with it. I think it's more common in our area with kids are who are a bit more cliquish (or moms who are all very chummy around SAHM world.) The day after is a nightmare though so I'm glad it's an infrequent thing for my kids.

[Anonymous]

We’ve done very limited amount. I hate them. Two boys 10 and 13. I’ve always been big on sleep and we always have kept them to a regular sleep schedule—even in summer.

My kids need sleep. They are never sick—minus the few data following the rare sleepover when they’re run down and their immune system breaks down.

My older one has some good friends who are great at sleepovers. They all always have sports, etc and really will go to sleep by 10:30/11pm. Though my kid never has a sleepover the night before a game.

[Anonymous]

We seem to be her usual in this area as we have done sleepovers for years. I think my kids started in kindergarten or first grade. They are now in eighth and ninth grade. When they were younger I got to know the parents well, but now that they’re older I know who the parents are but we’re not best friends or anything

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
My kids hate sleepovers, and so do I - so no conflict about that.

Us too. I was always exhausted after them as a kid. My kids love their beds, pillows, blankets and they are beasts when they don't get enough sleep. Self-aware too.

[Anonymous]

Not a fan. But it’s easier to meet and get to know them now than it will be in a couple of short years. I would ease up a bit until he gives you a reason not to allow them.

[Anonymous]

I always preferred Friday nights so they could recover by Monday.

[Anonymous]

All my kids have done sleepovers starting +/- 6yo though my oldest actually had one as a two year old w/girl from preschool that kind of shocked me when we were asked but she loved it!

My youngest (now 11) really really loves them and I’d say during school year does one or sometimes 2 days 3 of the 4 weekends per month-mostly we end up hosting but at least once a month elsewhere. I can’t say I love them but my kids do and I appreciate getting to know the kids and by extension their families.

[Anonymous]

I ask my kid to get the parent's number, then text. (I don't say yes to any last-minute plans for anything.) So far (6 families), I've never not received a reply. One mom has made it clear that she's a little unable to handle things responsibly for long stretches, so my kid can no longer sleep over there.

I actually hate them for the sleep deprivation leading to one grouchy kid, but I think it's been the path to close friendships - or, in one case, a realization that he and a friend were not meant to be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We limit them and make them special. One per month.

thats a lot! At least for us it would be.

That would feel like once a year to my kids. They are constantly having or going to sleepovers every Friday and Saturday night and sometimes on school nights.

[Anonymous]

I hate them, and not only do my kids not sleep well at them, but I don't sleep well when they are at sleepovers (I wonder whether the other house is fire-safe, or come up with other emergencies that could happen). Not good for my anxiety.

My husband's parents were immigrants who were like, "what is this 'sleepover' of which you speak? no you are not sleeping at another child's house" and so he never once had one growing up and doesn't feel like our kids are missing out.

Short answer, we have only let our oldest child go to one or two, and only at their best friend's house, whose parents we know well.

[Anonymous]

We very rarely do sleepovers and mainly only with close friends. One son went to a big b'day party sleepover a while back and he was a complete, beyond disaster the next day. They just need sleep too much at this age. Only time I'm cool with it is when it's with one friend and the parents are on the same page about lights out timing.