Right now I am feeling really down.
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Anonymous
| Secondary infertility with no explanation of why I can't get pregnant again. All tests come back normal. 35 years old. A little overweight (which I'm working on) but healthy otherwise. In the last month 6 of my friends have announced pregnancies. Two of them are having twins. I am happy for them obviously but I'm also terribly jealous. I am so frustrated and feel like I have zero control over this situation and that I can't do anything about it. Just a vent. Because today I just feel very sad. |
Anonymous
Hugs op. It took me many years to get pregnant after I had a miscarriage. I'm hoping things work out for you. |
Anonymous
| Have you considered going lowcarb/keto? |
Anonymous
Yes that is what I am doing currently. |
Anonymous
| Big hugs to you. We understand how you feel. We have unexplained infertility, with nothing wrong (on paper). It just never seemed or felt fair. But, after three years of trying and treatments, we did have success, following 3 IUIs, 2 egg retrievals, 2 FETs and 1 fresh transfer. Six embryos in total with one becoming our baby. It's normal to have these low points and hard days, but I hope you can continue to keep the faith too. I'm rooting for you! |
Anonymous
| I can relate OP. Unexplained secondary infertility here after getting pregnant on the first try with my son. It has now been 4.5 years TTC and zero pregnancies. I have no answers as all tests are normal. We're not giving up but we're done with infertility treatments and just trying on our own until I go into menopause. My son is 5 and seems happy as an only so I'm trying to make peace with a smaller family than I envisioned. |
Anonymous
| The sting is real. The rational side of you knows they did not get “your” baby and that their pregnancy has not bearing on your fertility but the emotional side feels like screaming and it is not fair and it sucks. I remember needing to leave the room a bunch with a pregnant co-worker. She did not know that we had been pregnant the same time and that I had a miscarriage, so hearing her talk about how she was feeling and milestones and weeks made me so sad. I am sorry for you and hugs. Hopefully you have someone in your circle you can talk to. |
Anonymous
| Im really sorry OP. I've been through the hard days too. 33 with secondary infertility with no obvious issues. It just doesnt make sense. My daughter keeps talking about a baby in mommy's tummy because her friends at school are having siblings, but thats not in the cards right now. It sucks and there are just hard days. I wish there was something else to say to you, but youre not alone. Hang in there. I have found that working out has been a good outlet for me lately. |
Anonymous
Have you thought about moving on to IUI or IVF? As long as your and your husband's numbers are good, you'll probably have success with IVF. Good luck! |
Anonymous
| IF 1/3 of your friends are having twins, rest assured that they are having infertility problems too. Keep trying and get the testing done. Hopefully your second will arrive quickly. |
Anonymous
That's what I was thinking as well. And for those women, if those are their first pregnancies, they could've felt the same envy about you when you were pregnant with your first child. I don't say this to guilt trip you, OP. We were on the secondary infertility train for a few years, with a second trimester loss, two first trimester losses, and a few failed rounds of IVF to show for it (every pregnancy was the result of IVF, and we cycled mostly in NYC, so factor in that money and travel expense as well). We didn't give up, and we eventually had our second. You do have control, insofar as your finances and parameters of your life allow. Do the research and seek a more aggressive treatment/approach. Consider making more drastic lifestyle changes. If you're not wanting to do those things/can't do those things, try to find peace with the living child that you do have. Best of luck to you. |