Is there a patron saint for forgiveness and getting a friend to forgive?

[Anonymous]

I can’t find one and am desperate for reconciliation and forgiveness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can’t find one and am desperate for reconciliation and forgiveness.

St. Maria Goretti

[Anonymous]

You can't control other people. You can only control yourself.

[Anonymous]

I am sorry your hurting, but I love that you are aware of having made a mistake and want forgiveness. Have you tried reaching out to the friend directly and apologized and asked for forgiveness? I can’t imagine not forgiving a friend for owning having made a mistake, apologizing, and asking to be forgiven. Good for you!! I wish you lots of luck OP. We all do dumb things sometimes.

[Anonymous]

Yes, Jesus Christ.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Thanks! Yes, I have reached out and sincerely apologized but we are not reconciled.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, Jesus Christ.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can’t find one and am desperate for reconciliation and forgiveness.

Really, you need a saint for this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can’t find one and am desperate for reconciliation and forgiveness.

Really, you need a saint for this?

I'm not even religious but PP, give OP a break. She wants a saint to pray to (probably is the St. Jude novena poster) and seems pretty sad/desperate. She's not looking to have you excoriate her for her faith at this time.

Hope you work things out, OP! Or at the very least, that you find peace.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks! Yes, I have reached out and sincerely apologized but we are not reconciled.

FYI OP, the best apologies are not said, but shown in changed behavior and actions.

Your friend also owes you nothing. They have the right to make their own choices for how they best see fit. The best thing you can do, is be different going forward.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, Jesus Christ.

Absolutely. Catholic here.

[Anonymous]

Also know that even if she forgives you, forgiveness does not mean that she will pick up where she left of or that she will even have any contact with you.

It just means that she no longer harbors anger towards you for the wrongs you committed. It is something inside of her, not an outward action with you.

[Anonymous]

OP, I’ve been there. I had a misunderstanding with my very best friend of 15 years....it was a minor thing. I apologized to her sincerely, but she decided our friendship was over. I was very hurt and have missed our friendship, but that’s life. Do yourself a favor, and start accepting that the friendship is over. After months of reflection, I finally realized I didn’t want to be friends with someone who would not forgive over a very trivial misunderstanding.

[Anonymous]

A favorite quote is: "I'm sorry" is a statement. "I won't do it again" is a promise. "How do I make it up to you" is a responsibility.

Instead of just an apology, focus on owning the mistake and seeing if there is a way you can minimize whatever fallout happened from whatever you need forgiveness for.

[Anonymous]

I have been there, OP. Pray for a reconciliation and take the high road at all times. It’s not easy. Whether or not the friendship is restored is out of your control at this point. Just pray and take the high road. Send your friend healing and loving thoughts.

Good luck!