Is there a patron saint for forgiveness and getting a friend to forgive?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can’t find one and am desperate for reconciliation and forgiveness.

You need to start with yourself. You obviously did something to the other person that pushed them away.
The first thing you need to do is try to find a way to make up to them. From there it is up to them.
If you want a miracle you need not only to pray but to deserve it or so it seems if you speak with people
fluent in miracles
Then you need to realize that forgiveness and reconciliation are two different things. So you technically are praying for two miracles in one. So look not only a saint that operates in that area but also one that runs discount sale.
In most cases forgiveness is easier then reconciliation because people often forgive for the sake of themselves not the trespasser. They forgive the anger and pain to let go and move on.

Reconciliation is an act of making up and getting back to relationship as it was or at least working on restoring it. This is not always possible especially if the person who has been hurt had been hurt many times by the offender and it is only natural process that one wants to block their further relations to avoid further pain. The world notoriety comes to mind and if there was no reason to cerate it, it would not exist. If you did something to push the person away and it was either really big or happened many times,
you need to understand that that person has all reasons to protect their emotional, mental and physical well being by blocking you, the stressor from impacting their life further.

You on the other hand most likely had a chance not to hurt the person, not take them for granted or what have you and you did not so you are paying the price. Is it fair. You be the judge.

I often wonder if hell exist somewhere there in the outer world or is it here on Earth and if it is simple what people create upon each other and put each other in. So there is this, and then there is Karma
and somehow, however irrational it is from the point of scientific mind, the two seem to work together hand in hand.

So while you search for the Saint, also try and be one, it will work much faster. If you can not do good to the person you hurt, do good elsewhere and who knows Karma and Saints might buddy up and help you in the time of your need.

The bolded is an interesting take on things. While I think it's important to learn from your mistakes and do better going forward, I do not think that being nice to Pete in any way rights your wrongs towards Paul. You reach out to Paul and ask for forgiveness and reconciliation. If Paul is not interested in your olive branch, then you simply must move on and try not to make the same mistake twice. You can not indirectly do right by Paul, though. That ship has sailed and it is your burden to bear.

Just do better and pray for good things for Paul.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks! Yes, I have reached out and sincerely apologized but we are not reconciled.

Reconciliation isn’t always possible (except with God).

I was in a similar situation a few years ago. We both hurt each other. We apologized and attempted a reconciliation. After two years, it was apparent that something was fundamentally broken. We never regained the ease of sharing or being vulnerable with each other. In time, that turned to simply an awkward acquaintanceship. We even tried praying together about it. On my part, I fully forgave her, but I have trust issues anyway due to an abusive childhood. I usually trust people only after a long period of positive experiences. Maybe she sensed me holding back and reciprocated. I don’t know. I just know that we’re not how we were and I have to accept that we never will be so I can make room for other people I can have close friendships with.