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7 month old just wants to be picked up
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Anonymous
| I am wondering if it's the age of something else. All my DD wants is to be picked up. She cries her head off and then you pick her up and she is fine. Is this a faze? |
Anonymous
| Totally normal. We just indulged dc at this stage. It's just a phase. IMHO, attempts to encourage independence at this stage are more likely to create feelings of insecurity. Soon your dc won't still still to be in your arms. |
Anonymous
| My son did this for a little bit and then got independent again. He is now 9 mos. These little phases seem to come and go - each week different and depending on how he feels. We also just go along with what he wants/needs. |
Anonymous
| Don't skimp on hugs and cuddles and pick-me-up cries. Before you know it, they'll outgrow this stage and you'll find yourself really missing it. Enjoy it while you can even if you think it's a hassle and you can't get anything done. |
Anonymous
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I totally agree with the PP's. At this age it is completely normal, so just hold your baby as much as they want. They will probably go in and out of this type of thing for many months to come.
To make it easier you can get yourself a sling or better yet, the ergo carrier. That way you can put him on your back (he's big enough now) and you can go about your business. |
Anonymous
| Joining the chorus. It comes and goes. Our 11 month old is back to doing this now, after periods of constantly wanting to be put down to explore instead. Gotta just go with the flow. |
Anonymous
Pick her up! Before you know it you won't be able to keep her in one place for more than a minute, let alone in your arms. I'm jealous, enjoy it while you can 
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Anonymous
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ok, i'm biting my tongue here, but please dont think there is anything wrong with your baby or this is a phase you must endure... 7 mos old= of course your baby wants to be held, you are his entire universe...there is nothing abnormal or pathological about a baby who wants to be held all of the time...please hold that sweet little one and fill up his emotional tank, the primary basis for psychological health in humans is determined in the first 3 years, witht he bond the mother and child have being the most important in the first year of life..your little one will be running away from you in no time! just get a sling and hold your baby and know that there is nothing more pure than an infants need for proximity to its mother!
http://www.continuum-concept.org/reading/in-arms.html |
Anonymous
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couple more good reads on why the american obsession with needing to have "independent babies" is not in the babies best interest:
http://www.news.harvard.edu/gazette/1998/04.09/ChildrenNeedTou.html http://www.mothering.com/articles/new_baby/bonding/connection.html http://www.naturalchild.com/guest/lauren_lindsey_porter.html |
Anonymous
| Maybe I am being naive here, but why wouldn't you just pick up and hug your child? |
Anonymous
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Nobody said OP wasn't picking up her child - she just asked if this was normal. I can understand her question and let's be honest - holding a seven month old constantly is hard - the child is heavy and it is then impossible to do any work. I agree that she should hold her little girl as much as possible, but it is also okay to put her down and let her cry a little bit every now and then. It just isn't helpful or realistic for everybody to answer - just pick her up and hold her. Maybe you forget, but holding a 7 month old for 6-7 hours a day is EXHAUSTING! Trust me, I know - and I only have a 4 month old who wants to be held constantly.
My suggestion is to see if holding baby with a sling or something helps. My 4 month old DS isn't a fan, but boy do I wish he was!!! |
Anonymous
| I have a 31 pound, 6 ounce almost 9 month old who ONLY WANTS TO BE HELD or wants to climb all over me. I love cuddling and hugging him but my back doesn't. |
Anonymous
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It's totally normal. Plus, around 8-9 months, they go through a phase of separation anxiety. Once they feel safe knowing you're there for them when they need you, after a few months, they'll have fun exploring further away from you. One day, they'll even play on their own for more than 2 minutes, although that may be at 1, 2, or 3 years old.
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Anonymous
| 31 pound 9-month old??????????????????????????? Holy cow!!! |
Anonymous
Alright, enough already. I think she got the drift. And I wouldn't call this "naive." |