What’s it like to be pursued by a man?

[Anonymous]

I never had a guy ask me out first. I’ve always done the asking. Don’t get me wrong I’ve had great dates and relationships. I’m modern and don’t think I’ve done anything wrong by asking first and will likely do it again. I’m simply curious because I see it mentioned here and have heard other s talk about how wonderful it is to have a guy “ chase “ you and be the initiator. I’m single again and I wonder if I’m missing something should try something different.

[Anonymous]

He asks to spend time with you, he flirts with you, he touches you...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He asks to spend time with you, he flirts with you, he touches you...

He gets sued....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He asks to spend time with you, he flirts with you, he touches you...

He gets sued....

Go back to your cave.

[Anonymous]

A man that pursues you is clear with his intentions. He is direct, polite, and should always be a gentleman. In the beginning, he may ask if he can touch you . . . But it will progress steadily with him finally not asking.

There's nothing modern about asking a man out, just like it is not old fashioned to pursue a woman. I prefer a man to have a direct style of communication.

[Anonymous]

Honestly, it can be annoying at first. If he has sense of humor and can laugh at himself, that helps. My husband asked me to date him for about a year and I wouldn’t. We would go out in a group with other friends, but I just wasn’t attracted to him physically. I eventually started to really like being around him and agreed to date him. I fell in love with him soon after. The best part of being chased is how hard they work to keep you after you agree to date. I was showered with expensive presents ie electronics, jewelry, dinners, manicures, pedicures, hair salon appts, shopping sprees, massages, flowers etc. I’ve never felt so adored. That never happens when I do the chasing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A man that pursues you is clear with his intentions. He is direct, polite, and should always be a gentleman. In the beginning, he may ask if he can touch you . . .

(Rustling sound of vaginas drying up....)

[Anonymous]

They try to be charming, and ask you questions about yourself. They then use that information to refine their targeting approach by offering you compliments about things that matter to you or expressing opinions you will likely agree with. Conversely, they may also tell you that you are wrong about things in order to engage in witty banter on a topic. They will look at you in the eyes at length. Very brave ones will try to touch you, usually on the hand or arm, and braver ones still will try to squeeze your knee or neck. Once you've arrived at this place in an interaction, you are unmistakably in flirtation territory and need to be clear about your own interest or intentions by shutting it down if you are not interested.

[Anonymous]

You know you’re wanted, without question. And that feels pretty damn good when you want them too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, it can be annoying at first. If he has sense of humor and can laugh at himself, that helps. My husband asked me to date him for about a year and I wouldn’t. We would go out in a group with other friends, but I just wasn’t attracted to him physically. I eventually started to really like being around him and agreed to date him. I fell in love with him soon after. The best part of being chased is how hard they work to keep you after you agree to date. I was showered with expensive presents ie electronics, jewelry, dinners, manicures, pedicures, hair salon appts, shopping sprees, massages, flowers etc. I’ve never felt so adored. That never happens when I do the chasing.

Your husband is an idiot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They try to be charming, and ask you questions about yourself. They then use that information to refine their targeting approach by offering you compliments about things that matter to you or expressing opinions you will likely agree with. Conversely, they may also tell you that you are wrong about things in order to engage in witty banter on a topic. They will look at you in the eyes at length. Very brave ones will try to touch you, usually on the hand or arm, and braver ones still will try to squeeze your knee or neck. Once you've arrived at this place in an interaction, you are unmistakably in flirtation territory and need to be clear about your own interest or intentions by shutting it down if you are not interested.

Thanks Mr. Attenborough

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, it can be annoying at first. If he has sense of humor and can laugh at himself, that helps. My husband asked me to date him for about a year and I wouldn’t. We would go out in a group with other friends, but I just wasn’t attracted to him physically. I eventually started to really like being around him and agreed to date him. I fell in love with him soon after. The best part of being chased is how hard they work to keep you after you agree to date. I was showered with expensive presents ie electronics, jewelry, dinners, manicures, pedicures, hair salon appts, shopping sprees, massages, flowers etc. I’ve never felt so adored. That never happens when I do the chasing.

I know it is DCUM, but you sound sadly materialistic. I feel sorry for that poor guy. I want a man to seduce me with his personality, not his money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A man that pursues you is clear with his intentions. He is direct, polite, and should always be a gentleman. In the beginning, he may ask if he can touch you . . .

(Rustling sound of vaginas drying up....)

Go back to your cave.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They try to be charming, and ask you questions about yourself. They then use that information to refine their targeting approach by offering you compliments about things that matter to you or expressing opinions you will likely agree with. Conversely, they may also tell you that you are wrong about things in order to engage in witty banter on a topic. They will look at you in the eyes at length. Very brave ones will try to touch you, usually on the hand or arm, and braver ones still will try to squeeze your knee or neck. Once you've arrived at this place in an interaction, you are unmistakably in flirtation territory and need to be clear about your own interest or intentions by shutting it down if you are not interested.

Thanks Mr. Attenborough

...and the female human shies away, eyes cast downward in a coy manner. The male human pursues with witticisms, whilst attempting meaningful eye contact. Once the eyes lock, the male human may lightly stroke her neck as the female human preens and requests manicures and expensive handbags...once the handbag is exchanged, the male human is invited to squeeze her knee.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They try to be charming, and ask you questions about yourself. They then use that information to refine their targeting approach by offering you compliments about things that matter to you or expressing opinions you will likely agree with. Conversely, they may also tell you that you are wrong about things in order to engage in witty banter on a topic. They will look at you in the eyes at length. Very brave ones will try to touch you, usually on the hand or arm, and braver ones still will try to squeeze your knee or neck. Once you've arrived at this place in an interaction, you are unmistakably in flirtation territory and need to be clear about your own interest or intentions by shutting it down if you are not interested.

Thanks Mr. Attenborough

...and the female human shies away, eyes cast downward in a coy manner. The male human pursues with witticisms, whilst attempting meaningful eye contact. Once the eyes lock, the male human may lightly stroke her neck as the female human preens and requests manicures and expensive handbags...once the handbag is exchanged, the male human is invited to squeeze her knee.

hahaha. I totally read that in a male British documentary voice! Love it.