playdate etiquette

[Anonymous]

Does a single dad asking a single mom if their preschool kids want to play together over the weekend look like the dad is interested in the mom? How far in advance do ppl propose playdates?

[Anonymous]

do.not.do.this. Ever. Just a horrible idea to even venture down this road with kids in the mix. Ask her out/flirt with her at some other event.

- single dad

[Anonymous]

Yes it does.

[Anonymous]

Yeah I'd take it that way too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:do.not.do.this. Ever. Just a horrible idea to even venture down this road with kids in the mix. Ask her out/flirt with her at some other event.

- single dad

I took OP’s question as him wanting to do a play date but not ask out the mom. If that’s the case OP, just ask for a drop off play date. As long as our kids were friends/the invite made some sense, I would never interpret an invitation for a drop off play date as flirting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:do.not.do.this. Ever. Just a horrible idea to even venture down this road with kids in the mix. Ask her out/flirt with her at some other event.

- single dad

I took OP’s question as him wanting to do a play date but not ask out the mom. If that’s the case OP, just ask for a drop off play date. As long as our kids were friends/the invite made some sense, I would never interpret an invitation for a drop off play date as flirting.

I thought OP wanted it to seem flirting. Is it bad to do?

[Anonymous]

OP here. I do like her and wouldn't mind if she took it as interest. Just curious what people thought if people ask people on playdates and what ideas are for toddlers.

[Anonymous]

It could signal romantic interest. It is not socially inappropriate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It could signal romantic interest. It is not socially inappropriate.

As long as it's not inappropriate...

[Anonymous]

I'm a single mom of a preschooler. If a single dad asked for a playdate, I would assume he was interested in me. But please don't do this. Sounds very stressful. I would be trying to put on my best "this is a date - be flirty" attitude while also doing the "I'm a great mom!"

Ask her if she would like to get coffee before pick up one day instead. This has the added bonus of not getting your kid hooked on playdates with this other kid if you don't hit it off with the mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a single mom of a preschooler. If a single dad asked for a playdate, I would assume he was interested in me. But please don't do this. Sounds very stressful. I would be trying to put on my best "this is a date - be flirty" attitude while also doing the "I'm a great mom!"

Ask her if she would like to get coffee before pick up one day instead. This has the added bonus of not getting your kid hooked on playdates with this other kid if you don't hit it off with the mom.

I only have her email and don't know her too well. The kids are friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a single mom of a preschooler. If a single dad asked for a playdate, I would assume he was interested in me. But please don't do this. Sounds very stressful. I would be trying to put on my best "this is a date - be flirty" attitude while also doing the "I'm a great mom!"

Ask her if she would like to get coffee before pick up one day instead. This has the added bonus of not getting your kid hooked on playdates with this other kid if you don't hit it off with the mom.

Meh, I was a single mom and did playdates with single dads and had no interest in them and they had none in me. I assumed when they asked that they didn't want to spend all that time alone with their kid because they had no idea how to deal with their kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a single mom of a preschooler. If a single dad asked for a playdate, I would assume he was interested in me. But please don't do this. Sounds very stressful. I would be trying to put on my best "this is a date - be flirty" attitude while also doing the "I'm a great mom!"

Ask her if she would like to get coffee before pick up one day instead. This has the added bonus of not getting your kid hooked on playdates with this other kid if you don't hit it off with the mom.

Meh, I was a single mom and did playdates with single dads and had no interest in them and they had none in me. I assumed when they asked that they didn't want to spend all that time alone with their kid because they had no idea how to deal with their kid.

Ha

[Anonymous]

Depends on how you dress and how you act...is there a glass of wine?

[Anonymous]

I think its fine to say " our kids really like each other, do u want to meet up for a playdate on Sat"?