playdate etiquette

[Anonymous]

I think it's fine. Go for it.

[Anonymous]

OP isn't clear on the motivation here. If it's to set up kids to play, no problem.

If he's interested in the mom then no, do not use the kids as pretext. Be an adult and reach out to her directly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:do.not.do.this. Ever. Just a horrible idea to even venture down this road with kids in the mix. Ask her out/flirt with her at some other event.

- single dad

Overreaciton.

I was a single dad for some time and it was always a struggle to set up play dates with other moms. I did it with the dads as much as I could but with some kids, the dad just does not do the playdates and to be frank, those moms weren't keenly interested in it either. I only ran into one single mom during those days and I definitely set up a playdate with her b/c I knew she was in a similar boat as I and it turned out great. Never dated or interested in that way - just nice to have another single parent to have a playdate with.

Now, if it leads to a date or something beyond playdate - what's wrong with that? What's the big deal? Doesn't mean you're going to have the kids all togehter with one big family after date 1.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP isn't clear on the motivation here. If it's to set up kids to play, no problem.

If he's interested in the mom then no, do not use the kids as pretext. Be an adult and reach out to her directly.

What do ppl do for preschool playdates? I thought it was as a pretext to date TBH.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP isn't clear on the motivation here. If it's to set up kids to play, no problem.

If he's interested in the mom then no, do not use the kids as pretext. Be an adult and reach out to her directly.

What do ppl do for preschool playdates? I thought it was as a pretext to date TBH.

DO IT if yo uwant

[Anonymous]

So kid can’t have his friend over because both parents are single, ...makes sense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So kid can’t have his friend over because both parents are single, ...makes sense.

Meet up somewhere? Flirt?

[Anonymous]

I'm a single Dad and I've set up plenty of playdates with single moms, married mom's, Dads. With the single moms I've never thought about it as a dating thing as I've never thought of my daughter as date bait.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So kid can’t have his friend over because both parents are single, ...makes sense.

OP didn’t specify if the kids were friends or not. I know who my preschooler plays with most often; if one of those dads asked for a play date I wouldn’t think there were ulterior motives. If my kid has never once mentioned playing with Larlo and out of the blue Larlo’s dad asks for a play date, then I’d definitely think there was something else going on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So kid can’t have his friend over because both parents are single, ...makes sense.

OP didn’t specify if the kids were friends or not. I know who my preschooler plays with most often; if one of those dads asked for a play date I wouldn’t think there were ulterior motives. If my kid has never once mentioned playing with Larlo and out of the blue Larlo’s dad asks for a play date, then I’d definitely think there was something else going on.

OP here the kids are friends

[Anonymous]

Do you know for sure that she isn’t in a relationship?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a single Dad and I've set up plenty of playdates with single moms, married mom's, Dads. With the single moms I've never thought about it as a dating thing as I've never thought of my daughter as date bait.

Well put. OP, please keep it clear. Ask her out directly, not through your kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a single Dad and I've set up plenty of playdates with single moms, married mom's, Dads. With the single moms I've never thought about it as a dating thing as I've never thought of my daughter as date bait.

Well put. OP, please keep it clear. Ask her out directly, not through your kid.

This is kind of bad advice. Just do it.

[Anonymous]

Ask her on a playdate. Get to kno her.

[Anonymous]

Nanny here- I hate when single Dad’s ask for a play date. 99% of the time it’s to hit on me and it’s so gross. I’m trying to do my job, dude!! I’ve had so many Dads )”(who aren’t always single) hit on me that now I always add another friend and make it a group of 3 or 4 when Dads ask me out.