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Is it awful to ask a stranger where she got something?
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Anonymous
| I was out doing some Halloween shopping with the kids last week and saw a woman wearing exactly the sweater I've been looking for. Would it have been awful to say, "Excuse me, I think your sweater is beautiful. Do you mind if I ask who made it ?" |
Anonymous
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Not at all - I would take it as a compliment.
Did you ask? |
Anonymous
| No, I was afraid of seeming covetous--but perhaps next time I will! |
Anonymous
| I've had people ask me where I get things before. I take it as a compliment. |
Anonymous
Same here. |
Anonymous
| A blogger I used to read called this the compliquery -- it's a compliment wrapped up in a query. I think it's flattering. |
Anonymous
| It is not rude at all! |
Anonymous
It's a great compliment to ask! I don't consider myself stylish, but I've had a few people in the past year ask about one of my coats and I walk around a with smile the rest of the day. |
Anonymous
Thirding. Love it. It's happened to me like, once, since I'm not stylish at all (and the person was asking about my purse, not clothing). |
Anonymous
| I've done this and it worked well, and you have great phrasing. I said, "I see you're petite like me, and I have such a hard time find flattering jeans! I love yours. Where did you get them?" And the woman was flustered, and startled, but told me the brand and the store (which I no longer remember as I got preg right after that). |
Anonymous
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It's always great to get affirmation - lord knows our spouses usually don't notice! I would always ask "Would you mind if I asked you where you bought that?"
The only thing that shouldn't be done is to ask to see the label. I've known parents to do that at events and it really is all about seeing what their "competition" really buys and can afford. |
Anonymous
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Not where I'm from. But if I ask here where someone got something, they first give me the look, then say I don't recall/whatever excuse not to be helpful. Hopefully they like your looks better than mine - ha! |
Anonymous
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I think it's fine if done tactfully as a compliment.
But it raises another question for me. Sometimes someone will do ask "Is that [brand]?" or "Is that from [upscale store]?" and it's not, and then I'm embarrassed to say something akin to "um, no, actually I got it at Target." This has happened a bunch of times with a necklace my MIL got me from Chicos several years ago - it's really cool and someone asked if it was from I Gorman and someone else asked if it was David Yurman. Also happened with a pair of ballet flats - my coworker said "Oh, I love those, are the Cole Haan?" No, they're Dockers and I got them for 50% off at Kohl's. So what do you say in that situation? Do you say "it was a gift and I'm not sure where it's from?" Seems like an obvious lie with some things. Or do you fess up to where you really got it? |
Anonymous
Back in the days that my sister lived in NYC and I went shopping there, I got asked all the time. Inevitably the person who queried me would sigh and say that all the good, stylish, affordable stuff comes from NY. I would say that they were right. Shockingly, now that she's moved to CA and I'm back to J Crew, Gap, and Banana, hardly anyone ever stops me anymore 
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Anonymous
| I'm honest. I'm proud of my bargains! |