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Is it awful to ask a stranger where she got something?
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Anonymous
| I would never do it... |
Anonymous
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It's nice when someone is paying you a compliment with no strings attached. But when they ask you to confirm the brand you're wearing, that's too much. It's a back-handed compliment and they are only fishing for their own purposes - especially if they know you. I've had more than a couple women reach around and take the collar to check - without asking permission.
I would answer in general - "Tysons" or if they are particularly demanding, I'd say "I had no idea this was so important to you." - and let them squirm. |
Anonymous
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I don't mind when someone asks me where I got something or who made it. But most of the time, my answer is either a consignment store or Ebay for my designer items and there's NO WAY I'm sharing that with a stranger. So if my answer is vague, that's why.
I have a killer sweater by Free People that I got for $15 at a consignment store in Oklahoma. KILLER. I get compliments on it every time I wear it, and more than a few ppl have asked me where I got it. I just say it's by Free People and it was last season (which is enough to make them drop it b/c they can't go to Tyson's and hunt for it anymore). For me, if someone will just tell me the label, I am thrilled b/c I'll go hunt it down on ebay and find it 9 times out of 10! |
Anonymous
| I wouldn't be offended if someone asked if something was X brand and it wasn't. Any rich person can spend a thousand bucks on a bag, but I would be more impressed with the person who found a great bag at a thrift store or something. |
Anonymous
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PP - ditto. We have the money to spend, but there is nothing like a bargain! It's a sport to some. Also, I feel bad for my friends who are always bitching about money (not that part) but can't seem to shut up about it, anyway! They spend like it's going out of style. It's so obvious. Which wouldn't matter to me if I didn't have to hear about it - OH YEAH, and they had it to begin with. They totally embarass themselves. |
Anonymous
Why not? It doesn't suggest anything negative. Not like you're buying used underwear! |
Anonymous
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I really don't like the rudeness of "friends" that check your tags. SO, so rude! |
Anonymous
I just don't. I used to tell people (strangers, friends, coworkers) who asked me that I bought something from Ebay or a thrift store, and got really weird reactions from some people. Now that I have a daughter, it's gotten even harder/ weirder. She has no qualms telling her little friends Mommy got her Abercrombie hoodie at the Salvation Army store  and they are NOT nice about it in return, I promise you. My only recourse is to stop taking her with me on my "safari hunts" when I go garage-saling and thrift store prowling, and stop telling her where I got something for her. I am proud of how well I manage the family's money; it's "green", it's exhilarating to snag something for $1 that cost $50 new, and I just plain have fun at it. But, little girls can be very mean, and I can't ask her to lie and I don't want her to think it's shameful by telling her not to tell other people where she got her clothes, so I just leave that tidbit out of our conversation.
Now, when my friends ask me, I not only tell them I got it at (thrift store, ebay, TJ Maxx, garage sale, etc) but I flat out GLOAT over how little I paid for it!! My friends are always impressed! As for me, you want to make me jealous of something you bought? Tell me you got it at Salvation Army or a garage sale for 5% of retail. That makes me more jealous than the thought of you forking over full price at a boutique. I'm more likely feeling sorry for you, in a twisted way, LOL! 
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