Would you see this as a red flag?

[Anonymous]

You’re dating a guy for a little over a year, and he takes you out to a somewhat expensive restaurant for your birthday. He gets the bill and takes a picture of it and says I need to remember this when my birthday comes around. Would you consider this to be a red flag?

[Anonymous]

He's probably just being funny. I wouldn't think much of it. Btw, how much was the tab?

[Anonymous]

Bad joke but I could live with it. He may have had more wine then needed.

[Anonymous]

I think the ACTUAL taking of the picture is pretty weird. But if he was generally not a cheap jack-a then it wouldn't make me break up with him.

You've been dating him for over a year, is this the last in a pattern of weird score keeping/controlling-with-money incidents or just a joke that didn't hit its mark?

And was it expensive like Jaleo or expensive like Ruth Chris or expensive like Pineapple and Pearls?

[Anonymous]

When's his birthday?

[Anonymous]

Not as much as red flag as brown stamping the sheets, but still a red flag.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the ACTUAL taking of the picture is pretty weird. But if he was generally not a cheap jack-a then it wouldn't make me break up with him.

You've been dating him for over a year, is this the last in a pattern of weird score keeping/controlling-with-money incidents or just a joke that didn't hit its mark?

And was it expensive like Jaleo or expensive like Ruth Chris or expensive like Pineapple and Pearls?

Note it's "Ruth's Chris"

[Anonymous]

Damn humor is dead.
Everybody in outright panic mode over every little thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not as much as red flag as brown stamping the sheets, but still a red flag.

what?

[Anonymous]

Red flag that points out corny not-funny person who tries unsuccessfully to be funny. I couldn't live with that long term.

[Anonymous]

no he probably has a receipt app! my husband does. it helps him keep track of expenses. I will try to find it. I bet he takes photos of many receipts and he just made a poor joke at the moment. He is not really taking a photo of the receipt to remember it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:no he probably has a receipt app! my husband does. it helps him keep track of expenses. I will try to find it. I bet he takes photos of many receipts and he just made a poor joke at the moment. He is not really taking a photo of the receipt to remember it!

me again. I just googled and there are several apps out there for this.

however, I would just ask him! communicate! if my husband did that I would say Wait are you serious?! and then he would realize it was a poor joke and then say oh no sorry that was a bad joke blah blah

[Anonymous]

Super weird. I hate men who are cheap if they have money. Run.

[Anonymous]

That alone isn't a red flag. Are there other things that have happened?

Did he say it jokingly or with a smile, or more of a threatening tone?

[Anonymous]

As Anothe PP notes, DH does this any time it’s a CC receipt. He checks every single one on his statement.

To me, this is making light of his being careful on his statements vs. a crack against you.

That being said, if you’re already assuming the worse, then maybe your relationship isn’t the one you should be in.