Man wanting to dance with daughter

[Anonymous]

We were at a friends house for a party and people were dancing. All adults were drinking and we knew most of the people there. At some point a grown man that we hadn’t met before the party approached our 11year old (who is clearly child and not developed at all). While she was engaged in her phone he asked if she wanted to dance and she said no. Then he proceeded to grab her arm and say, iIm not letting you go until you dance with me.

Long story short... I completely lost it.

Just wondering if my reaction was appropriate?

[Anonymous]

Yes. Completely appropriate.

[Anonymous]

Totally appropriate. May have been an overreaction if he just asked her to dance, but once he grabbed her and threatened her, you were right to let him have it.

[Anonymous]

Weird. How did he respond? Was it kid-friendly music playing, like the chicken dance or something, or adult music?

[Anonymous]

I mean...you KNOW your reaction was totally appropriate. Duh.

But I suspect what you really need (rather than validation) is to vent, which is also totally justified. So...SPILL! [Flings myself on the sofa and props up on my elbows for maximum "I'm listening" effect!]

What did you say? How did he respond? Did it come to blows? Was he kicked out of the party?? DETAILS!

[Anonymous]

Completely appropriate.

[Anonymous]

Disgusting. Yes, very appropriate

[Anonymous]

I would have kicked him in the balls. No one touches my daughter like that.

[Anonymous]

Good job, Mom!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I mean...you KNOW your reaction was totally appropriate. Duh.

But I suspect what you really need (rather than validation) is to vent, which is also totally justified. So...SPILL! [Flings myself on the sofa and props up on my elbows for maximum "I'm listening" effect!]

What did you say? How did he respond? Did it come to blows? Was he kicked out of the party?? DETAILS!

Let’s just say I probably have lost some long time friends over this....

[Anonymous]

Whether you acted appropriately of course depends on what precisely you did. All the people saying you were fine are making a lot of assumptions. That you may have lost friends indicates that you may have overreacted. Frankly, the absence of details in your post also suggests that you think you overreacted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Whether you acted appropriately of course depends on what precisely you did. All the people saying you were fine are making a lot of assumptions. That you may have lost friends indicates that you may have overreacted. Frankly, the absence of details in your post also suggests that you think you overreacted.

I don’t think I did... Let me just come out and say it. I basically pushed the guy away from her forcefully and said are you nuts?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whether you acted appropriately of course depends on what precisely you did. All the people saying you were fine are making a lot of assumptions. That you may have lost friends indicates that you may have overreacted. Frankly, the absence of details in your post also suggests that you think you overreacted.

I don’t think I did... Let me just come out and say it. I basically pushed the guy away from her forcefully and said are you nuts?

Oh also it was pretty quickly over after that but we left immediately.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whether you acted appropriately of course depends on what precisely you did. All the people saying you were fine are making a lot of assumptions. That you may have lost friends indicates that you may have overreacted. Frankly, the absence of details in your post also suggests that you think you overreacted.

I don’t think I did... Let me just come out and say it. I basically pushed the guy away from her forcefully and said are you nuts?

How did he react?
I stand by my opinion that this was not an overreaction.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whether you acted appropriately of course depends on what precisely you did. All the people saying you were fine are making a lot of assumptions. That you may have lost friends indicates that you may have overreacted. Frankly, the absence of details in your post also suggests that you think you overreacted.

I don’t think I did... Let me just come out and say it. I basically pushed the guy away from her forcefully and said are you nuts?

Sounds fine to me.