Nephew in childrens mental hospital

[Anonymous]

Recently, my sister and my nephew left their house in California to come live with me. She's leaving her husband of 10 years. Her son is 10 years old.

He's always had behavioral issues. He is an only child. My cousin babies him often and he usually gets his way. He's been suspended from school in california for bringing a knife to school.

Fast forward to this month. They have been living with me for 2 months now. Recently, he was put in a child mental hospital because he was diagnosed with PTSD. He was going in and out of his "mind" saying he was hearing voices, hitting his head, saying there was someone inside his head trying to kill him. At the hospital they had to restrain him.
He said his Dad physically abused him and apparently my sister said she never knew.
He threatened to kill himself several times at my house and was violent to my cousin and himself.

He's spent a week in Childrens Hospital Mental department and will be set to be cleared going home on Saturday.
I have three kids of my own.
Am I being a bitch to be nervous that he's not exactly 'better" in a week? My sister seems to think everything is great now and hasn't said much about what his diagnosis is or what the plan is for him when he comes home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Recently, my sister and my nephew left their house in California to come live with me. She's leaving her husband of 10 years. Her son is 10 years old.

He's always had behavioral issues. He is an only child. My cousin babies him often and he usually gets his way. He's been suspended from school in california for bringing a knife to school.

Fast forward to this month. They have been living with me for 2 months now. Recently, he was put in a child mental hospital because he was diagnosed with PTSD. He was going in and out of his "mind" saying he was hearing voices, hitting his head, saying there was someone inside his head trying to kill him. At the hospital they had to restrain him.
He said his Dad physically abused him and apparently my sister said she never knew.
He threatened to kill himself several times at my house and was violent to my cousin and himself.

He's spent a week in Childrens Hospital Mental department and will be set to be cleared going home on Saturday.
I have three kids of my own.
Am I being a bitch to be nervous that he's not exactly 'better" in a week? My sister seems to think everything is great now and hasn't said much about what his diagnosis is or what the plan is for him when he comes home.

So is it your sister or your cousin? I’m confused.

And yeah, I’d be very nervous.

[Anonymous]

OP. Sorry, it's my sister

[Anonymous]

I think you have posted a bunch of identifying information that isn't to anyone's benefit to know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you have posted a bunch of identifying information that isn't to anyone's benefit to know.

I changed a lot of it, so don't worry. Plus, Im not even near your state. Calm down

[Anonymous]

It’s all BS. OP is the family and relationship troll

[Anonymous]

Can you help them pay for another place to stay? I'd never put my kids in danger (not sure if this is the case here or not but that would be the issue if he comes back home) but would try to support in other ways if possible. Sounds like family counseling, to include everyone he lives with, is in order if he is safe enough to come back.

[Anonymous]

If I had the money I'd just let them stay in a rental under my name. Barring that send them to your parents.

But you know your sister best - was she ever the type of child to acknowledge boundaries and does she have the guts to recognize if/when her son is a danger to himself or others?

If she can't do either I'd get the exDH (if you know him well enough to determine he isn't a child predator) involved pronto and ask him what his thoughts are on his child and if necessary - you'll support him in a custody hearing as long as mental health treatment will be involved. If the child needs to be locked up, then he needs to be locked up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If I had the money I'd just let them stay in a rental under my name. Barring that send them to your parents.

But you know your sister best - was she ever the type of child to acknowledge boundaries and does she have the guts to recognize if/when her son is a danger to himself or others?

If she can't do either I'd get the exDH (if you know him well enough to determine he isn't a child predator) involved pronto and ask him what his thoughts are on his child and if necessary - you'll support him in a custody hearing as long as mental health treatment will be involved. If the child needs to be locked up, then he needs to be locked up.

Hard to say. She did push for him to get a mental evaluation. But, as far as her parenting goes, she lets a lot of things go. Perhaps because she knows he's a ticking time bomb? I know that the therapist said to get him involved in Yoga. I am not sure if its a mental issue or more of a behavioral one

[Anonymous]

Also, the EX is the one that abused him. So, he is out of the picture

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If I had the money I'd just let them stay in a rental under my name. Barring that send them to your parents.

But you know your sister best - was she ever the type of child to acknowledge boundaries and does she have the guts to recognize if/when her son is a danger to himself or others?

If she can't do either I'd get the exDH (if you know him well enough to determine he isn't a child predator) involved pronto and ask him what his thoughts are on his child and if necessary - you'll support him in a custody hearing as long as mental health treatment will be involved. If the child needs to be locked up, then he needs to be locked up.

Don't do this.

[Anonymous]

My fear is that I saw him during this "Psychosis" he was hitting his head, telling everyone he wanted to die and go see his Papa in Heaven. Screaming, biting his Mom, kicking her. When she took his belt off of him at the hospital to change into the hospital gown, he grabbed it and wrapped it around his neck, pulling tight.

This was a week and a half ago. And now she's saying everything is fine. She's telling me, "I truly think my kid is going to grow up and do something amazing like be in Nasa or a DR"

I feel like im the only one taking this seriously.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If I had the money I'd just let them stay in a rental under my name. Barring that send them to your parents.

But you know your sister best - was she ever the type of child to acknowledge boundaries and does she have the guts to recognize if/when her son is a danger to himself or others?

If she can't do either I'd get the exDH (if you know him well enough to determine he isn't a child predator) involved pronto and ask him what his thoughts are on his child and if necessary - you'll support him in a custody hearing as long as mental health treatment will be involved. If the child needs to be locked up, then he needs to be locked up.

Hard to say. She did push for him to get a mental evaluation. But, as far as her parenting goes, she lets a lot of things go. Perhaps because she knows he's a ticking time bomb? I know that the therapist said to get him involved in Yoga. I am not sure if its a mental issue or more of a behavioral one

If he spent a week in an inpatient hospital b/c of threats of harming himself, your sister would be getting more recommendations other than just yoga. If you're not a troll and your sister truly thinks everything is fine ask to go with her to see the kid's therapist. Seriously they would not have said just yoga.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If I had the money I'd just let them stay in a rental under my name. Barring that send them to your parents.

But you know your sister best - was she ever the type of child to acknowledge boundaries and does she have the guts to recognize if/when her son is a danger to himself or others?

If she can't do either I'd get the exDH (if you know him well enough to determine he isn't a child predator) involved pronto and ask him what his thoughts are on his child and if necessary - you'll support him in a custody hearing as long as mental health treatment will be involved. If the child needs to be locked up, then he needs to be locked up.

Hard to say. She did push for him to get a mental evaluation. But, as far as her parenting goes, she lets a lot of things go. Perhaps because she knows he's a ticking time bomb? I know that the therapist said to get him involved in Yoga. I am not sure if its a mental issue or more of a behavioral one

If he spent a week in an inpatient hospital b/c of threats of harming himself, your sister would be getting more recommendations other than just yoga. If you're not a troll and your sister truly thinks everything is fine ask to go with her to see the kid's therapist. Seriously they would not have said just yoga.

I swear I am not a troll. I don't know if they don't want to keep him because of her Insurance (State) or not. I asked her what kind of things I needed to know before he came home, she said, " ’ll have a crisis prevention and escalation plan that I can give you , there creating it for me ? with all my expectations and wants etc! But not a lot to Absorb at all " (and that was copied and pasted.
The hospital is 4 hours away, I cant be there.

[Anonymous]

You are nuts. And thats not PTSD.