I really like this guy but I know my family won’t approve

[Anonymous]

I should not care at my age (33) what my family thinks. I’ve always been a bit of the black sheep anyway. I know they will judge him and give me a hard time about him.

[Anonymous]

What won't they like about him?

[Anonymous]

Cool story. Troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What won't they like about him?

That he’s younger than I am by 4 years.

That he has 2 kids

That he’s not as educated as I am

That he’s a low wage earner

[Anonymous]

Anything good about him?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Anything good about him?

He’s a sweetheart.

He makes me feel great about myself when I’m around him. I don’t normally feel bad about myself, but he just accepts me. He gets me.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like a loser.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What won't they like about him?

That he’s younger than I am by 4 years.

That he has 2 kids

That he’s not as educated as I am

That he’s a low wage earner

If you were my DD, I would advise you to find someone with no kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What won't they like about him?

That he’s younger than I am by 4 years.

That he has 2 kids

That he’s not as educated as I am

That he’s a low wage earner

If you were my DD, I would advise you to find someone with no kids.

+1

[Anonymous]

Go for it OP. If he likes his job and it works for him its ok to earn a lower wage. I am a shift worker and only make 45,000 but the schedule means i see more of my kid. I broke it to my Mom that i was Gay at 36 and had a partner. She was shocked at first but got over it. The whole family accepts us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anything good about him?

He’s a sweetheart.

He makes me feel great about myself when I’m around him. I don’t normally feel bad about myself, but he just accepts me. He gets me.

What else is it about him? If it’s mostly about you feeling great about yourself and feeling accepted, that seems that these are things you should feel regardless of who you are with.

If you are thinking potentially long term, would you align with how you want to parent children? For example, does he want his children to go to college, would saving or paying for some of it be a financial priority? Assuming you are the higher earner, are you comfortable with this and either indirectly supporting him and his children or willing to live the lifestyle he has now? Is he comfortable and confident with his significant other being better educated and making more money? How well do the two of you communicate?

There are lots of situations that can work with people on paper not being what society may think of as a traditional match. But to make it work long term, I think each person had to feel confident in themselves and who they are, not afraid to speak up in the relationship, be more than good with couples communication and they have to have values that align.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What won't they like about him?

That he’s younger than I am by 4 years.

That he has 2 kids

That he’s not as educated as I am

That he’s a low wage earner

If you were my DD, I would advise you to find someone with no kids.

+1

Yes until she’s 38 and single and then you will bug her about why she hasn’t settled down with a nice guy. Men don’t come stocked on shelves. . They aren’t just made to order . Sometimes the best guy for you and your daughter looks different than you thought he would.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like a loser.

Assume much?

[Anonymous]

I think only you know who makes you happy, OP. All of the credentials in the world won't matter if you don't click with that person.

[Anonymous]

While my family may have said a few things behind my back about my relationship because they know I DON'T care what they think, they actually like him for me.

He married me with two kids and he none. I am the breadwinner of the family, but he enjoys his blue collar job.