I Should Stop Sleeping w/My ExDH Right?

[Anonymous]

Talk some sense into me, DCUM!

Former DH and I separated two years ago, but just finalized our divorce a few months ago. By all objective measures, ExDH was a terrible husband and I 100% feel that I'm better off without him. The problem is that I am very high-drive and he's very good in bed, and so every few months we end up hooking up a few times before I come to senses and cut him off. We have a young DC together so it's not like I can cut him out of my life entirely. I've tried to find a FWB (other than ExDH) without any luck. Admittedly, I'm very picky but also don't have a ton of free time as a single mom to meet men. Another complicating factor is that ExDH wants to go on dates too, which I'm not interested in. I actually enjoy spending time with him and I think he's truly made some positive changes in his life, but I'll never trust him again.

[Anonymous]

I'd ride him until you're able to find a fwb who is just as good in the sack. The obvious responses you'll get from fellow DCUMers is to stop bangi him, and limit your contact with him. Life is too short though. I function way better after having wild sex.

[Anonymous]

There was a thread on this way back and it was — surprisingly— way more common than I would have thought. I think eventually one of you will meet someone and it will stop.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd ride him until you're able to find a fwb who is just as good in the sack. The obvious responses you'll get from fellow DCUMers is to stop bangi him, and limit your contact with him. Life is too short though. I function way better after having wild sex.

Crude, but I agree. He may not be husband material but a great lay is a great lay until something better comes along.

[Anonymous]

Why doesn't your child spend more time, especially on weekends with your ex so that you can actually go out and meet others?

[Anonymous]

If the sex is off-the-hook, then why not??!

However make sure you keep your emotions at bay.

This is a very important caveat.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like he cheated on you. Do you have low self esteem?

[Anonymous]

Keep sleeping with him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd ride him until you're able to find a fwb who is just as good in the sack. The obvious responses you'll get from fellow DCUMers is to stop bangi him, and limit your contact with him. Life is too short though. I function way better after having wild sex.

Crude, but I agree. He may not be husband material but a great lay is a great lay until something better comes along.

+1 Sometimes you just need a good f*ck. As long as you're not looking for anything more, ride it while you want it.

[Anonymous]

Make sure you don’t get pregnant and don’t get an std.

[Anonymous]

He hurt you before and will do it again. Find someone new.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd ride him until you're able to find a fwb who is just as good in the sack. The obvious responses you'll get from fellow DCUMers is to stop bangi him, and limit your contact with him. Life is too short though. I function way better after having wild sex.

Crude, but I agree. He may not be husband material but a great lay is a great lay until something better comes along.

+1 Sometimes you just need a good f*ck. As long as you're not looking for anything more, ride it while you want it.

I know the feeling. It's difficult to find a great lay....and it takes time to feel comfy enough to let out your wild side with a new fb. So OP, keep at it. If he's making you come over and over, then let him. Enjoy the ride.

[Anonymous]

You are asking so you no it’s a bad idea. Stop it before you get hurt. In fact you are already hurting yourself fooling yourself into thinking he is different and delaying finding someone new. Stop and find someone else.

[Anonymous]

Would you be able to stop cold turkey if he gets a girlfriend next week?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would you be able to stop cold turkey if he gets a girlfriend next week?

Seems like she's a great lay too, so maybe he isn't really looking for a gf right away.