Do single men hit on anyone without a ring?

[Anonymous]

I've noticed that men really don't pay any attention to me when I'm wearing my wedding ring, but I magically get a lot of attention if I don't have it on...even though I tend to be in workout gear or athleisure and don't look my best (think: no makeup, messy hair).

Now, I'm an old lady (40s), and I'm really nothing special to look at (I look like most 40 something suburban moms). But I had two men strike up conversations this morning after dropping off the kids and doing errands--while in athleisure, no makeup, etc. One guy very obviously checked out my hand/ring finger (unless he was looking at my thighs squeezed into my yoga pants).

Maybe it's obvious that single men check for rings first and don't bother if they see them? I guess I just think it's odd to get attention when I literally look at my worst.

[Anonymous]

If I see a woman I find attractive -- in line at the store, in the elevator at my office building, etc -- I glance to see if she has a ring on.

The dating apps have made casual flirting to gauge interest much less of a priority than it was the last time I was single, but old habits die hard.

[Anonymous]

I once told a married woman her ring looked uncomfortable. She giggled.

[Anonymous]

Given that women wait to be asked, why yes, men play a numbers game.

[Anonymous]

A very polite humble brag! Do you hope that men will hit on you when you are wearing a wedding ring? Men aren't as dumb as you think. Th odds of hitting on and succeeding with a single ring-less woman are better then with a married woman though in your case it may be a toss up!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Given that women wait to be asked, why yes, men play a numbers game.

You give most women far too much credit: they do not wait to be asked! They are completely unaware of the man's existence *until* he asks.

[Anonymous]

Do not ever look for or notice a ring. Are you sure these men were not just being friendly? I have friends who are just out going and will talk to anyone.

Also now lots of men will not talk to women because of all the metoo stuff. If you are a man going through your normal day, the last thing you want is to make some random woman think you are interested in her or think she is sexy/attractive. I see this at travel soccer game now.

[Anonymous]

Maybe it's the yoga pants. Do you ever wear a ring when you're in your workout clothes?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A very polite humble brag! Do you hope that men will hit on you when you are wearing a wedding ring? Men aren't as dumb as you think. Th odds of hitting on and succeeding with a single ring-less woman are better then with a married woman though in your case it may be a toss up!

Not meant as a humble brag. In fact, my question was meant to determine if single men literally hit on anything without a ring...precisely because I'm nothing special...especially when I'm in yoga pants without makeup. Heck, I hadn't even brushed my hair.

[Anonymous]

IME yes. I get checked out way more often than I'd like, and random men talk to me all the time. I'm not even that attractive - but I guess looking fit is enough?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe it's the yoga pants. Do you ever wear a ring when you're in your workout clothes?

Sometimes. I don't put on my jewelry if I'm working out or if I haven't showered yet and am scrambling out to drop off the kids.

I will wear yoga pants with my jewelry on when I'm at my kids' games, etc. on the weekends. And I'll do my hair and makeup.

I think it's the lack of a ring, and a numbers game (like a pp said).

Like I said, I'm an old married lady. I haven't been single since college. I never check people for rings. Of course, I'm not really looking either.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I had a guy friend who would say if you ask enough women out, eventually one will say yes.

[Anonymous]

w/ and w/o a ring yes.

[Anonymous]

Not "anything". You have to be attractive as well as ringless.

Women at the gym (no make-up, ringless) are often extremely attractive. At my gym, there's a 6:30am class that has a group of ladies who look 40-ish and they look really great. (I'm single, but I'm there to work out; not gonna talk to them, just appreciate the view.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not "anything". You have to be attractive as well as ringless.

Women at the gym (no make-up, ringless) are often extremely attractive. At my gym, there's a 6:30am class that has a group of ladies who look 40-ish and they look really great. (I'm single, but I'm there to work out; not gonna talk to them, just appreciate the view.)

I never take off my rings! Humble brag here. DW of 22 years/48/mom of 3. I get hit on and talked to and flirted with more than I ever did as a young, single, cute girl.

It's my contemporaries and, oddly, dirty old men.

My high school boyfriend propositioned me at/during/after our recent HS reunion that I attended WITH DH.