Do single men hit on anyone without a ring?

[Anonymous]

In my single days I didn't discriminate between ring and ringless. It was amazing how many married women were happy with the attention.

[Anonymous]

Men still hit on me with a wedding ring.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men still hit on me with a wedding ring.

Me too. They must assume that some/many married women have unhappy marriages.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men still hit on me with a wedding ring.

Me too. They must assume that some/many married women have unhappy marriages.

Heh they probably read DCUM then.

[Anonymous]

Yes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've noticed that men really don't pay any attention to me when I'm wearing my wedding ring, but I magically get a lot of attention if I don't have it on...even though I tend to be in workout gear or athleisure and don't look my best (think: no makeup, messy hair).

Now, I'm an old lady (40s), and I'm really nothing special to look at (I look like most 40 something suburban moms). But I had two men strike up conversations this morning after dropping off the kids and doing errands--while in athleisure, no makeup, etc. One guy very obviously checked out my hand/ring finger (unless he was looking at my thighs squeezed into my yoga pants).

Maybe it's obvious that single men check for rings first and don't bother if they see them? I guess I just think it's odd to get attention when I literally look at my worst.

Casual can be very hot. Nice body in yoga pants? Yes please!

[Anonymous]

I think many women think any man who talk to them is hitting on them. It’s an ego thing. Oh he must really be into me...

[Anonymous]

I don't care if you have a ring on or not

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think many women think any man who talk to them is hitting on them. It’s an ego thing. Oh he must really be into me...

Mmm, I think it’s the other way around, a man thinks if a woman talks to him ... .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think many women think any man who talk to them is hitting on them. It’s an ego thing. Oh he must really be into me...

I feel like most women are bright enough to judge the context. Besides, lots of men love the plausibly deniability game ie he’s kidding unless you’re gonna do it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think many women think any man who talk to them is hitting on them. It’s an ego thing. Oh he must really be into me...

Well, he asked if he could buy me a cup a coffee and get to know me. I haven't been hit on in a while, but I'm pretty sure that's what he was doing.

The second guy wasn't as direct. He followed me around cvs and kept trying to chat me up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think many women think any man who talk to them is hitting on them. It’s an ego thing. Oh he must really be into me...

Well, he asked if he could buy me a cup a coffee and get to know me. I haven't been hit on in a while, but I'm pretty sure that's what he was doing.

The second guy wasn't as direct. He followed me around cvs and kept trying to chat me up.

Both were definitely hitting on you, but number 2 sounds stalkerish and creepy.

[Anonymous]

I must really be a troll. No one ever hits on me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not meant as a humble brag. In fact, my question was meant to determine if single men literally hit on anything without a ring...precisely because I'm nothing special...especially when I'm in yoga pants without makeup. Heck, I hadn't even brushed my hair.

No, men will not hit on "anything" without a ring, but if we meet a woman worth hitting on, we certainly first check to see if they have a ring before even giving a crap and getting our hopes up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I once told a married woman her ring looked uncomfortable. She giggled.

well done brother!