Do you know someone with a personality disorder?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH has OCD and niece has borderline personality. DH is just very annoying with the counting, tapping, and other features. Niece and I have had very bad disagreements. I am like Spock-level logical and have a difficult time with her. I am working on my mindset when dealing with her.

Sorry I just remembered OCD isn’t a personality disorder.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My brother has something like paranoid schizophrenia but his mood is cyclical, so maybe bipolar. He will not get help and has not been diagnosed. He believes in fake things (like a Russian agent giving him a heads up about a terrorist attack, or that a young woman in Korea is in love with him, or that Dick Cheney ruined his life, or that he is invincible from things like coronavirus, I could go on). it rules his life. He hasn’t been able to get a job in decades, he was once very intelligent. I am grateful for the times when he seems normal. I’m always worried about when his mood will change again.

Sounds like schizoaffective personality disorder. https://www.nami.org/About-Mental-Illness/Mental-Health-Conditions/Schizoaffective-Disorder

It has subtypes, like bipolar type, paranoid type, etc. Very hard to maintain treatment because when they feel fine, they stop medication. Very hard to remain employed for long and eventually to get a job at all as the delusions always come back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most people with borderline personality disorder were abused as children and therefore very difficult to treat or cure.
Bipolar disorder is a totally different thing.

Yes. To the untrained eye, the symptoms can be pretty similar. But bipolar disorder is very biological, having mostly to do with chemical imbalances of neurotransmitters in the brain. Environmental events can *trigger* it or a manic/depressive episode, but you're not, for example, going to get bipolar simply from being raised in an invalidating or abusive environment. Borderline Personality Disorder, on the other hand, has a LOT more to do with environment- being raised in an invalidating environment, parental abandoment/neglect, abuse (especially sexual).

[Anonymous]

Yes, its draining.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, its draining.

Particularly when undiagnosed it is a weight. Diagnosed and under treatment different story. The self awareness helps along with tools you learn to support them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, its draining.

Particularly when undiagnosed it is a weight. Diagnosed and under treatment different story. The self awareness helps along with tools you learn to support them.

+1

DP here. Absolutely this. Being in any type of space with an undiagnosed person is hell.

[Anonymous]

Yes. An ex friend (well, someone I choose to no longer associate with). Pretty sure she is a sociopath. Thought it was just me, but her mother, father, son, and brother have all distanced themselves as well as her three ex husbands. All had the same experiences as I did. it's scary and this is no garden variety "narcissist."

[Anonymous]

I know people with bipolar, borderline, schizophrenia and NPD.

The ones with borderline were horrifically abused and traumatized as young children and teens.

It's all horrible and gets worse with age.

Note the heritability, particularly of bipolar and schizophrenia. An earlier PP who mentioned the collateral damage was spot-on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I dated someone with NPD. It was a nightmare. It took me months to extricate myself from the relationship and I only got out by tricking him into ending it himself. That was about six years ago and he still texts regularly. I'm afraid of what his reaction would be if I block him, so I try to keep thinks brief, civil and cool. He scares me so much that I have a safety deposit box full of incriminating things should he ever kill or hurt a woman who presses charges against him. I know that he has harmed sex workers, but none of them has ever come forward and I can't prove it myself. I'll be relieved when he's dead.

Oh wow.

NP. BTDT. He will likely go after your children, too. That's what happened to the NPD who is still stalking my mother 40y later and he added myself and my cousin to his list to harass. He was putting women in the hospital on the regular.

Move and change your number to a PO Box. Bonus if you hide your address under something that will remove your name.

We did all of this and another victim offered up our information. We still can't have house numbers up even after all of this but he doesn't have anyone's new address.

You need to disengage. Gray Rock only goes so far. Every time you reply you are giving him a hit and a reminder you exist and rewarding him with attention. Please make sure your house is outfitted with security features and you have personal defense items at easy reach. Maybe take a vacation for a while after you go NC, too.

[Anonymous]

My manager at work. We all think she is bipolar with a side of narcissistic personality disorder. She's crazy to work with and constantly forgetting everything. No structure. No organization.