When does the "not great kid" finally hang it up

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Anonymous wrote:I can’t wait! My kids are in the good category - starters first team, but I’ve now reached the “No F@cks to Give” stage of youth soccer with a U16&U13. Other than seeing my kids play well and have fun- I don’t give a sh@t about the games. I don’t care if there is a bad call or we lose or anything.

I have zero tolerance for all the screaming D-bags on the sidelines. Dude, this doesn’t matter.

I especially have reached the point of zero tolerance listening to people yelling at kids that are not their own (even if neither is one of my own). Wtf? These aren’t paid FIFA players—sit down and shut the f@ck up.

I can be zen like most of the game, but I do wonder when I will just snap as I have reached my breaking point and in true Comedy Central Roast style dress down every one of these mutha f—ers. Bam. Mic drop.

Sports are played in front of fans and fans can be positive or negative just not abusive. If your kid makes a bad play its ok for another parent to say bad play . Its not ok to yell you suck. Nobody has to pretend that every play is good and every player did a good job. I f your kid plays in front of fans there put themselves in the situation to be cheered (and no parent complains) or booed for a bad play. If you ok with them cheering your kid then its only fair to take it when they are booed. Its called sports competition not sports drills. so get over yourself or take your snowflake and quit.

The word fan is short for fanatic. I love that parents or fans are passionate enough about youth games that have interest in. Now I'm totally against throw verbal abusive language at either player or referee. I do believe the only give praise crowd is a fake stance to take. You cant tell your team good shot Johnny even when he misses. If you truly believed in the always praise style of being a youth fane

Huh? I find the "passion" of the fans so bizarre. The good sometimes even more than the bad. They're kids doing a kid thing. Why is it so important to you?

I get why it's important to the kids. I was a very intense athlete and competitor too. One of my kids is the same way. I see it as my job as the parent to make sure he understands that this is all a very little deal in the grand scheme.

The word fan is short for fanatic. I love that parents or fans are passionate enough about youth games that they have interest in. Now I'm totally against throw verbal abusive language at either player or referee. I do believe the only give praise crowd is a fake stance to take. You cant tell your team good shot Johnny even when he misses. If you truly believed in the always praise style of being a youth fan/parent you would tell the other team good job Johnny when the steal the ball from your kid. You dont see it because of the blind fandom for your own team. Next time your u12 RED team loses to the WHITE team. You should cheer great job White team great win. If you dont are you being a D-Bag parent/fan for not supporting a kids game that means nothing? Everyone has bias and loyalty and by cheering for one team your actually making the other team feel bad. really take a look at yourself before judging another parent who has passion and wants to see a team he/she is invested in both emotionally and financially succeed .

Sorry, but this is a bad take.

No actual fairly accurate just the actual reality of the thought process goes over mosts heads

Oh the irony.

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Anonymous wrote:What a strange thread. The OP asked when “not good” players drop out, and indicated their child was still in elementary. Kids that young progress at radically different paces year to year. We have a U11 moving up to our top team that was on our 4th team just last year.

I also can’t count the number of players I have seen who either burnt out, went down a bad path of smoking/drinking/drugs, started off athletic but gained weight, or peaked early and then were passed in high school.

Meanwhile, some of these not good players will wind up some of the best U18s because they work hard and nothing came easy for them.

That's for the fairies. The vast majority of the best kids at U19 are the same ones who were the best at at U8. Sure there's an occasional exception which proves the rule, and there are plenty of kids who move a little way up or down the ladder. But there are very few kids who move from bottom to top or vice versa.

DP. This is completely not true, and shows a lot of ignorance. Sure, some kids who were best at U8 are still best at U19. But definitely not the best majority.

Common sense should dictate here. If what you claim about the "vast majority" was true, there would literally be no need for scouts or even tryouts after U8.

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If you're not on the A or B team you're wasting your money. Only if your kid lives and breath's soccer and really has aspirations, then maybe let your kid play on the C team, but lower than that just go rec.

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Hopefully, kids play as long as they want to play and enjoy doing it.

Watching kids play from U8-U18 I definitely see some drop out because they lose their passion for the game (from top to bottom) and the way it shifts in the end the top teams are playing competitively and the bottom teams just enjoy the game and playing with their teammates. By high school, it generally shakes out that way.

Lots of reasons kids choose travel teams over rec teams - the organization and support of the clubs, the quality of coaches, and the community of players. Those lower teams often support the better teams by having a deeper playing pool, bringing in money to the club (lower tournaments usually cost less), etc. The larger player pool can sometimes keep teams from falling apart when they get older.

I've seen kids peak early and then stop putting in the effort because they think they are the star. I've seen late bloomers who kept working and working and made their way up the ranks. I've seen top kids continue to work hard and keep their skills up. I've seen less-talented kids be dedicated, show up, good teammates, work hard, who enjoy playing until their senior year. There is a place for everyone and none of these paths is determined in elementary school.

At the end of the day just enjoy watching your kid play.

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Anonymous wrote:Hopefully never if they enjoy it. I would hope they could find a rec team to continue.

If the kids enjoy it, they shouldn't quit. The point of the game is to enjoy playing on a team. If the coach is not giving them field time, that's wrong, fire the coach.

Coaches who don't give the playe s equal time are a problem.

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Soccer is a stupid game, kids kick a ball. If the kids aren't playing for fun, then WTF?

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Anonymous wrote:Soccer is a stupid game, kids kick a ball. If the kids aren't playing for fun, then WTF?

? Any game could be called stupid, really. Kids throw a ball. Kids catch a ball. Kids chase a puck. Kids try to hit a little ball around a grassy area into a little hole. Pick any sport and someone can figure out a way to simplify it to its most basic level so that it sounds dumb.

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Anonymous wrote:Soccer is a stupid game, kids kick a ball. If the kids aren't playing for fun, then WTF?

Move to rec or quit soccer and join a rock band.

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Anonymous wrote:Soccer is a stupid game, kids kick a ball. If the kids aren't playing for fun, then WTF?

? Any game could be called stupid, really. Kids throw a ball. Kids catch a ball. Kids chase a puck. Kids try to hit a little ball around a grassy area into a little hole. Pick any sport and someone can figure out a way to simplify it to its most basic level so that it sounds dumb.

+1. The most stupid game is golf. Hit the ball as hard as you can with a stick then go look for the ball. LOL

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Anonymous wrote:If you're not on the A or B team you're wasting your money. Only if your kid lives and breath's soccer and really has aspirations, then maybe let your kid play on the C team, but lower than that just go rec.

I don't understand this mentality. Only do things you are good at? I've spent plenty of time and money on golf over the years even though I'm not "A or B team" caliber. My level of play has nothing to do with my enjoyment. If I can afford it why not spend money on things my kids enjoy

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Anonymous wrote:If you're not on the A or B team you're wasting your money. Only if your kid lives and breath's soccer and really has aspirations, then maybe let your kid play on the C team, but lower than that just go rec.

I don't understand this mentality. Only do things you are good at? I've spent plenty of time and money on golf over the years even though I'm not "A or B team" caliber. My level of play has nothing to do with my enjoyment. If I can afford it why not spend money on things my kids enjoy

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It's not a waste of money if my kid is enjoying it, puts in the work, builds skills, gains life lessons and friendships. My kid will never be on the A team (unless there's some puberty miracle), but she was extremely frustrated on her rec team. Being on a lower level club team has been great for her all around.

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Anonymous wrote:If you're not on the A or B team you're wasting your money. Only if your kid lives and breath's soccer and really has aspirations, then maybe let your kid play on the C team, but lower than that just go rec.

I don't understand this mentality. Only do things you are good at? I've spent plenty of time and money on golf over the years even though I'm not "A or B team" caliber. My level of play has nothing to do with my enjoyment. If I can afford it why not spend money on things my kids enjoy

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It's not a waste of money if my kid is enjoying it, puts in the work, builds skills, gains life lessons and friendships. My kid will never be on the A team (unless there's some puberty miracle), but she was extremely frustrated on her rec team. Being on a lower level club team has been great for her all around.

+1 I agree with you wholeheartedly. Rec teams often fall apart as kids age out, but club teams tend to be able to sustain multiple play levels. You pay for stability, good organization, and quality coaches.

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Anonymous wrote:If you're not on the A or B team you're wasting your money. Only if your kid lives and breath's soccer and really has aspirations, then maybe let your kid play on the C team, but lower than that just go rec.

I don't understand this mentality. Only do things you are good at? I've spent plenty of time and money on golf over the years even though I'm not "A or B team" caliber. My level of play has nothing to do with my enjoyment. If I can afford it why not spend money on things my kids enjoy

Exactly play for the fun of it. Yes it's ok if you are not the best player you can and should play if it's fun. If you are the best player and you are not having fun, you should quit.

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Soccer is a stupid game. Not being good at kicking a ball is no shame. If it's fun do it. If not, go hit a ball with a stick or a bat or a club if you like or do something else.

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Anonymous wrote:Soccer is a stupid game, kids kick a ball. If the kids aren't playing for fun, then WTF?

? Any game could be called stupid, really. Kids throw a ball. Kids catch a ball. Kids chase a puck. Kids try to hit a little ball around a grassy area into a little hole. Pick any sport and someone can figure out a way to simplify it to its most basic level so that it sounds dumb.

+1. The most stupid game is golf. Hit the ball as hard as you can with a stick then go look for the ball. LOL

Nah brah. You doing it wrong. If you don't try hit so hard, ball easier to find.