Completely empathize. My DD took on a leadership role in HS because she knew it was important for college apps, but she hated the experience. She went through college as an avid participant and was much happier. She’s actually pointed out how much she hated being a group leader and will never repeat it. |
Definitely. What they need, and few get, is good counseling on how to present their real contribution to their families in "college speak" about leadership, initiative, service, etc. |
Yes they do. Elite schools are looking for leaders. Not a great analogy but my college takes pride in getting a large number of football players each year that were high school captains. Something like 90% were captains. They are all not going to be captains at the college level but that is the type of person they want. To continue with this theme, during the Tom Brady era in New England, the Patriots were always close to the top in the NFL in signing new players who had been college captains. Take it with a gain of salt if you want but yes elite colleges want to educate and mold leaders. |
| They want to produce enough leaders to stay in the headlines for their accomplished graduates. |
I dunno, UChicago and W&M sure seem proud of that reputation. |
I don't think they do. They want kids who'll regurgitate the professor's views back to them and feed their egos. But colleges sure do talk a big game about "leadership" because it's a nebulous enough concept that they can use to justify discrimination in their application process. |
Except it points to the law of diminishing returns in IQ. 120 is called the sweet spot for IQ 135+ cdd as uses decline in ability to function in society. |
It’s like S&M, but without all the fun bits. Aka, referenced in the previous sentence. |
You must have gone to really bad schools if you think professors just want students who regurgitate what they have been told. Nothing could make the job more boring. |
Ugh - a campus full of extroverts sounds like a nightmare. |
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Kids who are working can absolutely use that on their application. We are fairly well off, however, my daughter had a seasonal job every summer since the one after 8th grade, and in the summer before her senior year in HS she ended up supervising 4 people, 2 of them college students. She did not aim for Ivy+, but she did very well with the next tier of schools, and I think her job made her stand out by showing maturity, responsibility and, yes, leadership. |