Where did your average (3.25-ish) student go to college?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Last year DD 3.45, ACT 33 Accepted with Merit Aid:

Oberlin (attends - well half on campus)
SMCM - in state
Gettysburg
CNU

Yikes. How Oberlin has fallen, compared to few decades back.

That is so rude. Honest question- what is wrong with you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm not bitter. I was asked to share an update, so I did. Covering all the bills doesn't elevate anyone's life. He's not achieving any adult milestones, no girlfriend, no assets, there's no room for advancement at his current job.

More teens like my son should consider military service after high school. My husband and I just didn't know enough about it for it. It's not like 4 years of service automatically means frontline canon fodder, which is what we naively assumed.

Just say no to the war machine. My kid isn’t gonna be another number for a Uncle Sam. Now he has a 4.0 GPA, but I would say the same thing no matter what it was.

holy ignorant batman

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Virginia Tech.

What? Recently?

Not now. Go read thread on Virginia Tech ED/EA.

[Anonymous]

Which VA state schools would a 3.25 get you into?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Which VA state schools would a 3.25 get you into?

Longwood, Radford, Mary Washington etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Last year DD 3.45, ACT 33 Accepted with Merit Aid:

Oberlin (attends - well half on campus)
SMCM - in state
Gettysburg
CNU

Yikes. How Oberlin has fallen, compared to few decades back.

That is so rude. Honest question- what is wrong with you?

Nothing. It just wouldn’t of been on this nature of thread back then.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Last year DD 3.45, ACT 33 Accepted with Merit Aid:

Oberlin (attends - well half on campus)
SMCM - in state
Gettysburg
CNU

Yikes. How Oberlin has fallen, compared to few decades back.

That is so rude. Honest question- what is wrong with you?

Nothing. It just wouldn’t of been on this nature of thread back then.

Yeah the mighty have fallen, but the students admitted now probably know the difference between 'wouldn't have' and 'wouldn't of'... so there's that.

So someone says their daughter got in, and you say wow how it's fallen. And you contend nothing is wrong with you? K.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oldest son had a 3.3 or 3.4. Went to Indiana University. Failed out.

No light switch goes off at college. You know how you ride him now for the 3.3? Well, you can't at college, he can do literally anything he wants at college. And will. The 3.3 tells me your son hates school.

If we could do it over again we would have encouraged him to go into the military for a few years. He was smart but way too immature, zero discipline, and didn't appreciate anything.

OP, this is some of the worst advice I have read of all the years I have been on DCUM. First, the 3.25 - 3.4 GPA is not an indicator of failure. Some kids bloom late. That was me. I had a low to average GPA and struggled the first year to get my footing but was determined to stay and by sophomore year, my grades improved and I had adjusted to the college rigor. I graduated with honors and got into a top law school. Just make sure the college has good support services available. Some colleges have a pre-college or summer bridge program the summer prior to the start of freshmen year. If you think your child may need that, he/you should factor that into your college search. It is an extra fee but if it will help your child have a smooth transition, it is worth it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Last year DD 3.45, ACT 33 Accepted with Merit Aid:

Oberlin (attends - well half on campus)
SMCM - in state
Gettysburg
CNU

Yikes. How Oberlin has fallen, compared to few decades back.

That is so rude. Honest question- what is wrong with you?

Nothing. It just wouldn’t of been on this nature of thread back then.

Yeah the mighty have fallen, but the students admitted now probably know the difference between 'wouldn't have' and 'wouldn't of'... so there's that.

So someone says their daughter got in, and you say wow how it's fallen. And you contend nothing is wrong with you? K.

Typing on phone. Sorry. Know the difference.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oldest son had a 3.3 or 3.4. Went to Indiana University. Failed out.

No light switch goes off at college. You know how you ride him now for the 3.3? Well, you can't at college, he can do literally anything he wants at college. And will. The 3.3 tells me your son hates school.

If we could do it over again we would have encouraged him to go into the military for a few years. He was smart but way too immature, zero discipline, and didn't appreciate anything.

OP, this is some of the worst advice I have read of all the years I have been on DCUM. First, the 3.25 - 3.4 GPA is not an indicator of failure. Some kids bloom late. That was me. I had a low to average GPA and struggled the first year to get my footing but was determined to stay and by sophomore year, my grades improved and I had adjusted to the college rigor. I graduated with honors and got into a top law school. Just make sure the college has good support services available. Some colleges have a pre-college or summer bridge program the summer prior to the start of freshmen year. If you think your child may need that, he/you should factor that into your college search. It is an extra fee but if it will help your child have a smooth transition, it is worth it.

Four years in the military is the "worst advice ever" for a proven slacker who's not all that into school? Why? They come out mature, with some life experience, and free college. I bet if you polled all the parents of the millions of kids who failed out or quit college, most wish they seriously considered the idea.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oldest son had a 3.3 or 3.4. Went to Indiana University. Failed out.

No light switch goes off at college. You know how you ride him now for the 3.3? Well, you can't at college, he can do literally anything he wants at college. And will. The 3.3 tells me your son hates school.

If we could do it over again we would have encouraged him to go into the military for a few years. He was smart but way too immature, zero discipline, and didn't appreciate anything.

OP, this is some of the worst advice I have read of all the years I have been on DCUM. First, the 3.25 - 3.4 GPA is not an indicator of failure. Some kids bloom late. That was me. I had a low to average GPA and struggled the first year to get my footing but was determined to stay and by sophomore year, my grades improved and I had adjusted to the college rigor. I graduated with honors and got into a top law school. Just make sure the college has good support services available. Some colleges have a pre-college or summer bridge program the summer prior to the start of freshmen year. If you think your child may need that, he/you should factor that into your college search. It is an extra fee but if it will help your child have a smooth transition, it is worth it.

2021 is not the same as the 70s, 80s or 90s when you were a kid. EVERY kid has As and Bs these days. You have to be a lazy midwit who hates school to have a low 3.25. And if the mother is posting on here, it means she's engaged and they're riding his *** for the 3.25 -- so if they didn't ride him he's a C student in an era when As are given to everyone. But sure, go ahead and send him to some expensive college and then act surprised when he's the same immature flunky -- but this time with nobody riding him and access to booze, drugs, netlix and video games all day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oldest son had a 3.3 or 3.4. Went to Indiana University. Failed out.

No light switch goes off at college. You know how you ride him now for the 3.3? Well, you can't at college, he can do literally anything he wants at college. And will. The 3.3 tells me your son hates school.

If we could do it over again we would have encouraged him to go into the military for a few years. He was smart but way too immature, zero discipline, and didn't appreciate anything.

OP, this is some of the worst advice I have read of all the years I have been on DCUM. First, the 3.25 - 3.4 GPA is not an indicator of failure. Some kids bloom late. That was me. I had a low to average GPA and struggled the first year to get my footing but was determined to stay and by sophomore year, my grades improved and I had adjusted to the college rigor. I graduated with honors and got into a top law school. Just make sure the college has good support services available. Some colleges have a pre-college or summer bridge program the summer prior to the start of freshmen year. If you think your child may need that, he/you should factor that into your college search. It is an extra fee but if it will help your child have a smooth transition, it is worth it.

2021 is not the same as the 70s, 80s or 90s when you were a kid. EVERY kid has As and Bs these days. You have to be a lazy midwit who hates school to have a low 3.25. And if the mother is posting on here, it means she's engaged and they're riding his *** for the 3.25 -- so if they didn't ride him he's a C student in an era when As are given to everyone. But sure, go ahead and send him to some expensive college and then act surprised when he's the same immature flunky -- but this time with nobody riding him and access to booze, drugs, netlix and video games all day.

Rude. Not every kid has As and Bs. Not everyone is “given” As. Not every kid that earns Cs is a “midwit”. I can think of examples that disprove all of these either with my own kid or kids I know. Some and very bright and capable of As and Bs but lack motivation and frankly maturity to do the work to get those grades. Others are very bright but with 504s and struggle to get those Bs and often, paired with a poor teacher, end up with Cs on their record. It is a fair question to want to find a good place in college for these kids. Some may not be college material in the end but I think many/most could be in the right environment.

[Anonymous]

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Oldest son had a 3.3 or 3.4. Went to Indiana University. Failed out.

No light switch goes on* at college. You know how you ride him now for the 3.3? Well, you can't at college, he can do literally anything he wants at college. And will. The 3.3 tells me your son hates school.

If we could do it over again we would have encouraged him to go into the military for a few years. He was smart but way too immature, zero discipline, and didn't appreciate anything.[/quote]

Can you tell us how your DS is doing now? (I'm worried that something like this will happen to my DS -- a current 12th grader.)[/quote]

Never went back to finish. Has a full-time job that covers his bills and not much else. Single. Mid 20s but still acts 15 years old.

[b]50% of all 12th graders in the nation have an A average GPA. This is a fact. So if your child has a low B average, they're in the bottom half of the nation. A fact. Another fact, about 50% of the kids who enroll in college never actually graduate.[/b] Guess who usually finishes on time -- and who doesn't finish and who takes 5 or 6 or 7 years to finish?

Again, every parent with a slacker teen boy knows you ride his a** for that low B average. At college you can't ride them. They do what they want, including skip most classes and do all the assignments last minute. Plus they eat garbage all day and of course many party or will pick up pot. Plus video games and whatever other dumb crap to squander their days and nights away.

There are so many red flags in your face telling you not to waste your money on a slacker boy, but nobody calls their baby ugly, your own slacker is special; the circumstances are unique. Delusional magical thinking.

Would you give an immature slacker a new Porsche 911 for his efforts? No, but millions of parents don't think twice about rewarding their slacker boy with a $25,000+ per year spring break trip to a college of his choice.[/quote]

Setting aside your absolutely vile attitude towards your son, you make a lot of baseless claims here. Please cite evidence for the bolded “facts.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oldest son had a 3.3 or 3.4. Went to Indiana University. Failed out.

No light switch goes on* at college. You know how you ride him now for the 3.3? Well, you can't at college, he can do literally anything he wants at college. And will. The 3.3 tells me your son hates school.

If we could do it over again we would have encouraged him to go into the military for a few years. He was smart but way too immature, zero discipline, and didn't appreciate anything.

Can you tell us how your DS is doing now? (I'm worried that something like this will happen to my DS -- a current 12th grader.)

Never went back to finish. Has a full-time job that covers his bills and not much else. Single. Mid 20s but still acts 15 years old.

50% of all 12th graders in the nation have an A average GPA. This is a fact. So if your child has a low B average, they're in the bottom half of the nation. A fact. Another fact, about 50% of the kids who enroll in college never actually graduate. Guess who usually finishes on time -- and who doesn't finish and who takes 5 or 6 or 7 years to finish?

Again, every parent with a slacker teen boy knows you ride his a** for that low B average. At college you can't ride them. They do what they want, including skip most classes and do all the assignments last minute. Plus they eat garbage all day and of course many party or will pick up pot. Plus video games and whatever other dumb crap to squander their days and nights away.

There are so many red flags in your face telling you not to waste your money on a slacker boy, but nobody calls their baby ugly, your own slacker is special; the circumstances are unique. Delusional magical thinking.

Would you give an immature slacker a new Porsche 911 for his efforts? No, but millions of parents don't think twice about rewarding their slacker boy with a $25,000+ per year spring break trip to a college of his choice.

Setting aside your absolutely vile attitude towards your son, you make a lot of baseless claims here. Please cite evidence for the bolded “facts.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oldest son had a 3.3 or 3.4. Went to Indiana University. Failed out.

No light switch goes off at college. You know how you ride him now for the 3.3? Well, you can't at college, he can do literally anything he wants at college. And will. The 3.3 tells me your son hates school.

If we could do it over again we would have encouraged him to go into the military for a few years. He was smart but way too immature, zero discipline, and didn't appreciate anything.

OP, this is some of the worst advice I have read of all the years I have been on DCUM. First, the 3.25 - 3.4 GPA is not an indicator of failure. Some kids bloom late. That was me. I had a low to average GPA and struggled the first year to get my footing but was determined to stay and by sophomore year, my grades improved and I had adjusted to the college rigor. I graduated with honors and got into a top law school. Just make sure the college has good support services available. Some colleges have a pre-college or summer bridge program the summer prior to the start of freshmen year. If you think your child may need that, he/you should factor that into your college search. It is an extra fee but if it will help your child have a smooth transition, it is worth it.

2021 is not the same as the 70s, 80s or 90s when you were a kid. EVERY kid has As and Bs these days. You have to be a lazy midwit who hates school to have a low 3.25. And if the mother is posting on here, it means she's engaged and they're riding his *** for the 3.25 -- so if they didn't ride him he's a C student in an era when As are given to everyone. But sure, go ahead and send him to some expensive college and then act surprised when he's the same immature flunky -- but this time with nobody riding him and access to booze, drugs, netlix and video games all day.

JFC. My kid works hard and has almost no As - at a top FCPS HS. Live your own life and stop attacking kids you know nothing about.
DP