How much plastic surgery is a man okay with?

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Anonymous wrote:I guess I can't understand why a parent would go through elective plastic surgery. You risk your life every time you get put under. Once you. have kids, it is 100% not worth the risk.

We risk our lives every day. Why would you get in your car and drive somewhere elective, like getting coffee? Or once you have one child, why would you risk your life having more? You have a greater chance of dying while giving birth than from cosmetic surgery.

But once you are a parent, you've accomplished the goal of sexual attraction, and are likely married too. That doesn't mean be dumpy or give up. By all means, take care of yourself. But what is the point of a 50 yr old getting a boob job?

How old are you? I'm 33 but one of my friends is in her 70s. She had a facelift and her son flipped out over what a waste it is. She told me it was for her own self-esteem. As "shallow" as it is, she's happier with what she sees in the mirror and she feels more like herself again. She's active, she still goes out, still works, works out so I think it makes sense that she wanted her outside to better match her inside.

I'm 37. If your self esteem is tied to you looking 25 forever thats a problem. Her outside matched her age. That is normal. Look good and healthy for your age, but to go under the knife in older age to try and keep youth and sex appeal is sad

It's weird that you think she's trying to look 25 or trying to look sexy. I'm not sure where that was implied. Maybe this is an unpopular opinion, but self esteem is absolutely linked to appearance. It's why hospitals like Sloan Kettering have "look good, feel good" programs. I don't think the patients who use that service are trying to ramp up their sex appeal, but like it or not we do feel a bit better when we look better.

I agree, and I don't think it's a bad thing. Most people put an effort into their appearance to boost their self-esteem, and when people don't, it's often a sign of mental illness (though not always!). There is nothing inherently wrong with wearing clothing that clashes or not styling your hair, but we usually style our hair (even if it's just putting it into a pony tail) and try to dress decently when going out. We also expect people to get braces, treat significant facial scars, use acne treatments, etc, even though they have risks and aren't completely medically necessary. It's quite sexist to assume that women do these things to be more attractive to men.

Also you cannot contribute to the societal pressure women face to look beautiful and then criticize them for trying to be beautiful. My mom does this; she is naturally thin and criticizes people who are fat, and then also criticizes people who get plastic surgery or even go on weight watchers.

Putting effort into your appearance is good and fine. But that is not the same as wanting or feeling the need to get plastic surgery. A 70 yr old with the face of a 70 yr old is normal and not the sign of a mental illness. I don’t think looking beautiful has anything to do with breast size or if you have wrinkles in older age. Keep in shape, be a healthy weight, be mindful with what and how you eat, exercise, dress well. If you need plastic surgery to feel beautiful there are deeper mental issues going on.

I don’t necessarily agree. I got breast augmentation surgery primarily to correct an asymmetry issue. One of my breasts was an entire cup size bigger than the other. So, I got a reduction and lift on one side and small implants to make everything even. From what I understand this is quite common. I struggled with the asymmetry my entire adult life and it was a huge source of stress for me and my self-confidence. I wish I had done it much sooner instead of feeling shamed at the prospect of cosmetic surgery until I was in my 30s.

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When I was 45 my body was still in great shape despite having had three children. Even my boobs were firm. But oh, the turkey neck and eyes made my face look 60. I was tired of looking in the mirror and seeing a nice figure but an old face. My husband didn’t like the idea of surgery but he isn’t one to say no given I had done a lot of research. So I had it done and I was really happy with the results. I didn’t want a 30 year old face I wanted an age appropriate face and that is what I got. It took quite awhile for all the swelling to go down and I remember going to a very dressy event with my husband and when he saw the new me beaming he was really happy for me. My MIL thought I looked so great she had a little work done.

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Anonymous wrote:I guess I can't understand why a parent would go through elective plastic surgery. You risk your life every time you get put under. Once you. have kids, it is 100% not worth the risk.

We risk our lives every day. Why would you get in your car and drive somewhere elective, like getting coffee? Or once you have one child, why would you risk your life having more? You have a greater chance of dying while giving birth than from cosmetic surgery.

But once you are a parent, you've accomplished the goal of sexual attraction, and are likely married too. That doesn't mean be dumpy or give up. By all means, take care of yourself. But what is the point of a 50 yr old getting a boob job?

How old are you? I'm 33 but one of my friends is in her 70s. She had a facelift and her son flipped out over what a waste it is. She told me it was for her own self-esteem. As "shallow" as it is, she's happier with what she sees in the mirror and she feels more like herself again. She's active, she still goes out, still works, works out so I think it makes sense that she wanted her outside to better match her inside.

He wanted the $ for his inheritance

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Anonymous wrote:I guess I can't understand why a parent would go through elective plastic surgery. You risk your life every time you get put under. Once you. have kids, it is 100% not worth the risk.

We risk our lives every day. Why would you get in your car and drive somewhere elective, like getting coffee? Or once you have one child, why would you risk your life having more? You have a greater chance of dying while giving birth than from cosmetic surgery.

But once you are a parent, you've accomplished the goal of sexual attraction, and are likely married too. That doesn't mean be dumpy or give up. By all means, take care of yourself. But what is the point of a 50 yr old getting a boob job?

Maybe they want a boob job. Sheesh. Life doesn't end at menopause.