DD Wants to Transfer

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My sophomore wants to transfer too. She loved her school until March, but they only let freshmen back on campus and after 6 months at home with no end in sight she has fallen out of love and feels zero connection to her school. I don’t think colleges realize how irrelevant they become when students are stuck at home taking classes online.

I might try to encourage her to wait before making a decision.

No school is great from home/online.


Given the hassle of transferring (and possible expense), can she hold out for this year (which is aberrant??)

a year is a third of a college education. Any student in college right now is being entirely screwed out of both an education and the best years of their life

My student is fine to be advancing toward their degree while not having to pay r&b. That is such a huge discount and I can’t believe people aren’t happy about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My sophomore wants to transfer too. She loved her school until March, but they only let freshmen back on campus and after 6 months at home with no end in sight she has fallen out of love and feels zero connection to her school. I don’t think colleges realize how irrelevant they become when students are stuck at home taking classes online.

I might try to encourage her to wait before making a decision.

No school is great from home/online.


Given the hassle of transferring (and possible expense), can she hold out for this year (which is aberrant??)

a year is a third of a college education. Any student in college right now is being entirely screwed out of both an education and the best years of their life

Yah, there is not much to recommend pandemics.

I feel like everyone is approaching this situation like a consumer.

That is like complaining because you got cancer.

Some things in life suck.

Take a larger perspective than whether it is fun for your child right now.

[Anonymous]

WTH is a gender studies major?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:WTH is a gender studies major?

Consider getting educated instead of assuming such a mocking tone.

Just a thought...

[Anonymous]

It can’t hurt to try to transfer, but top schools will have stiff competition for just a few spots. Kids move around though so it’s worth a try - and Covid will have more kids dropping or deferring so there may be more space - seems a toss up but go for it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find this confusing. Aren’t all ivys offering full remote for the next year? Can she not just move home and do remote for a year from home, while keeping her financial aid package?

Best answer yet. Especially since OP is looking for a unicorn (ivy paying her DD to attend).

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I find this confusing. Aren’t all ivys offering full remote for the next year? Can she not just move home and do remote for a year from home, while keeping her financial aid package?

Best answer yet. Especially since OP is looking for a unicorn (ivy paying her DD to attend).

OP here, this is what she's doing. This upcoming year for her is all online. So she's at home doing DL. It's next year (so her junior year) that's the worry for us.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'll keep this short. DD is a sophomore at an Ivy. Was assaulted and stalked her freshman year for five brutal and traumatizing months. Is miserable at the current school she's at and wants to leave. Has a 3.7 as a gender studies major. Where can she transfer to? Ideally, she wants to go to another Ivy (except Cornell or Penn because she hates those schools), but I feel like her GPA might prevent her from transferring to another Ivy. Other schools on her list are Wesleyan, Vassar, Barnard, Northwestern, and Stanford (I know, long shot). I've never been through this... Help!

My son did the same was at Princeton and ended up going to Harvard from where he graduated 2 years ago (despite his dad and I attending P, and being disappointed he didn't to stay, it was the right decision to switch). I would think with Covid, it could be to your advantage to transfer to her school of choice. A 3.7 is perfectly respectable in a top ivy.

If you think she has given it a really fair shot, and she is truly that unhappy I say get your apps in asap.I would be mindful as to how you explain why she wants to transfer. You do not want to have the school look at her as someone who does not adjust well/easily. I say this from the perspective of a sister in law who is a head admissions counselor at a top university (non ivy). Good luck either way!

OP here. I really appreciate this insight. Is it possible for you to email us for us to get more info from you? You seem wise. Email us at [e-mail] if you're willing. Thanks!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My sophomore wants to transfer too. She loved her school until March, but they only let freshmen back on campus and after 6 months at home with no end in sight she has fallen out of love and feels zero connection to her school. I don’t think colleges realize how irrelevant they become when students are stuck at home taking classes online.

I might try to encourage her to wait before making a decision.

No school is great from home/online.


Given the hassle of transferring (and possible expense), can she hold out for this year (which is aberrant??)

a year is a third of a college education. Any student in college right now is being entirely screwed out of both an education and the best years of their life

My student is fine to be advancing toward their degree while not having to pay r&b. That is such a huge discount and I can’t believe people aren’t happy about it.

R & B isn’t a discount if you can’t partake in the service anyway. Maybe as a freshman, where you have to stay on campus sure. But in most cases freshman are still the only class allowed to stay on campus.

Juniors on up still have to pay fees associated with being on campus, though not Room and Board, but only freshman can use it!

Some hell of a discount!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My sophomore wants to transfer too. She loved her school until March, but they only let freshmen back on campus and after 6 months at home with no end in sight she has fallen out of love and feels zero connection to her school. I don’t think colleges realize how irrelevant they become when students are stuck at home taking classes online.

I might try to encourage her to wait before making a decision.

No school is great from home/online.


Given the hassle of transferring (and possible expense), can she hold out for this year (which is aberrant??)

a year is a third of a college education. Any student in college right now is being entirely screwed out of both an education and the best years of their life

My student is fine to be advancing toward their degree while not having to pay r&b. That is such a huge discount and I can’t believe people aren’t happy about it.

R & B isn’t a discount if you can’t partake in the service anyway. Maybe as a freshman, where you have to stay on campus sure. But in most cases freshman are still the only class allowed to stay on campus.

Juniors on up still have to pay fees associated with being on campus, though not Room and Board, but only freshman can use it!

Some hell of a discount!

It is savings if you’re a freshman. At big schools kids can sublet their apartments right now. But we’re paying $3k total this semester for dd because no r&b.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'll keep this short. DD is a sophomore at an Ivy. Was assaulted and stalked her freshman year for five brutal and traumatizing months. Is miserable at the current school she's at and wants to leave. Has a 3.7 as a gender studies major. Where can she transfer to? Ideally, she wants to go to another Ivy (except Cornell or Penn because she hates those schools), but I feel like her GPA might prevent her from transferring to another Ivy. Other schools on her list are Wesleyan, Vassar, Barnard, Northwestern, and Stanford (I know, long shot). I've never been through this... Help!

This is so sad to read.

I had this experience as a young woman at an Ivy 20 years ago. I applied out as a transfer student before I told campus security about this guy. I had to explain the situation to them twice, but they got him away from me. Counseling was no help at all.

I found out recently that he spent a year in jail for trespassing on the campus after I told security.

I stayed and graduated. I'm very glad that I did. It was a difficult decision but one I am very proud of. The next three years were much better and I am very proud of my degree.

[Anonymous]

You have much to be proud of PP .

Thanks for sharing your story, I am sure that it gives others hope

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:WTH is a gender studies major?

I guess it's relevant to which school the OP's kid transfers to -- she'll need a school that offers this major. (most of them do these days)

[Anonymous]

For all-female colleges that have easy access to more diverse student bodies, I'd also consider Smith (part of the Five college consortium and in Northhampton, which is a very beautiful small city), Mt. Holyoke (part of the same consortium, but in a small town nearby ), Bryn Mawr (in a Philadelphia suburb, with cross-registration available at Haverford and Swarthmore), and Scripps (part of different college consortium located in Claremont, California). Although Wellesley is arguably slightly more prestigious than those, I think I'd prefer all of those to Wellesley because of the nearby college communities.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For all-female colleges that have easy access to more diverse student bodies, I'd also consider Smith (part of the Five college consortium and in Northhampton, which is a very beautiful small city), Mt. Holyoke (part of the same consortium, but in a small town nearby ), Bryn Mawr (in a Philadelphia suburb, with cross-registration available at Haverford and Swarthmore), and Scripps (part of different college consortium located in Claremont, California). Although Wellesley is arguably slightly more prestigious than those, I think I'd prefer all of those to Wellesley because of the nearby college communities.

Isn't Wellesley near Boston? The college capital?