DD Wants to Transfer

[Anonymous]

I know someone who had a B average and was miserable at Penn, switched to Colorado College, got an A- average, and loved it. It’s okay to switch to a lower ranked school. Quality of life matters.

[Anonymous]

The Ivys are all quiite different. What type of school is she looking for...or does it not matter as long as it has lots of prestige associated?

[Anonymous]

So the boy is still there at the school? Did she report it? HE should be the one who has to leave. God, that makes me mad.

But I agree she should transfer if that is what she wants. I would apply to a ton of places and hope one works out. Maybe for half of them, tell the truth about why she wants to transfer, and the other half, dont? That way if the "sees her as a liabilty" person is right, she isnt outing herself to all the schools.

I also wonder if there is someone she could talk to at her current college about transferring. Like could she reach out to the admissions office or a counselor at her current college and see if they would give her insight into the transfer process or help her transfer? Has she talked to the Title 9 counselor? This is kind of tricky and I dont feel qualified to give full advice, these re just thoughts.

I dont think 3.7 at an Ivy is a bad GPA. Sounds pretty good to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So the boy is still there at the school? Did she report it? HE should be the one who has to leave. God, that makes me mad.

But I agree she should transfer if that is what she wants. I would apply to a ton of places and hope one works out. Maybe for half of them, tell the truth about why she wants to transfer, and the other half, dont? That way if the "sees her as a liabilty" person is right, she isnt outing herself to all the schools.

I also wonder if there is someone she could talk to at her current college about transferring. Like could she reach out to the admissions office or a counselor at her current college and see if they would give her insight into the transfer process or help her transfer? Has she talked to the Title 9 counselor? This is kind of tricky and I dont feel qualified to give full advice, these re just thoughts.

I dont think 3.7 at an Ivy is a bad GPA. Sounds pretty good to me.

Also, I hope she is not at her current school in person right now. All Ivys are offering remote. SHe should do remote from home or in a different city. She deserves to feel safe and get away from that guy.

[Anonymous]

It's easier to transfer to some schools, harder to transfer to others. Depends on the school and the year. I imagine that with covid if she's full pay it will be easier than most years due to what I expect would be attrition but that's just a guess. A 3.7 is a very good GPA and she will be competitive most places. To have the best shot, she'll need to disclose the reason for leaving and make an affirmative case as to why she wants to go to that school.

Best of luck to your daughter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is she online this semester? Would she consider doing community college for next semester to regroup and refocus? Some schools are easier to enter in the fall semester with orientations and everything, but this year is a little different.

I would not follow this advice. Why shift from an Ivy to community college??? She can do her Ivy remote while trying to transfer to another. She should not let this asshole prevent her from getting an Ivy education.

[Anonymous]

OP absolutely have her apply.

There are kids all over the country who do this. Kids are also accepted to Ivies from community college as well. I know people on this forum hate that idea, but it's a fact.

So, so common.

Her GPA will not stop her from changing schools to another IVY.

I would also have her look at each individual school she is looking at and check there program requirements for the major she wants. That is important because of course she'd like to get out in four years if possible. Some schools transferring in might require different courses or might not accept some credits from her previous school. Also, she needs to be interested in the coursework of the new college. All can be worked out, but better to have the information, before having to pay an application for a school that maybe the name she likes, but the major requirements not so much.

I'd also recommend her looking at the career portion of their website for her major as well. Getting a job after college obviously the goal. Ivy league or not want to make sure there is help getting that first job out of school in her major.

I am very sorry about her experience. Sounds like she has a very caring mom. Good luck to her!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you have the funds, try to get the help of a college counselor. They can help guide you on where she has the best shot.

We don't have the money for a college counselor, but we spoke to a couple for free during their initial consultation. They all had different opinions on what her chances were and where she should apply. Some said that her story was compelling and she should reach for the stars, others said that her GPA prevents her from going anywhere prestigious, others said that colleges might not want to take her because they "will view her as a liability" (their words not mine!). That's what makes this so hard.

We live in quite a world if your daughter would be re-victimized by prestigious universities because someone attacked her!!!!!!!!!!!

To that I say: you don't want her to attend a school that takes that stance.

Let her speak her truth (IF she wants to share that...she may want a fresh start). Any school that feels her experience reflects poorly ON HER is a place you want no part of.

She needs to move to a woke, supportive environment. Not the type of schools that were outed in the Hunting Ground documentary.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know someone who had a B average and was miserable at Penn, switched to Colorado College, got an A- average, and loved it. It’s okay to switch to a lower ranked school. Quality of life matters.

That was a long time ago. Even small LACs have pretty low transfer acceptance rates now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'll keep this short. DD is a sophomore at an Ivy. Was assaulted and stalked her freshman year for five brutal and traumatizing months. Is miserable at the current school she's at and wants to leave. Has a 3.7 as a gender studies major. Where can she transfer to? Ideally, she wants to go to another Ivy (except Cornell or Penn because she hates those schools), but I feel like her GPA might prevent her from transferring to another Ivy. Other schools on her list are Wesleyan, Vassar, Barnard, Northwestern, and Stanford (I know, long shot). I've never been through this... Help!

Why? Wanting an "Ivy" is not a criterion for choosing a school that works better for her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's easier to transfer to some schools, harder to transfer to others. Depends on the school and the year. I imagine that with covid if she's full pay it will be easier than most years due to what I expect would be attrition but that's just a guess. A 3.7 is a very good GPA and she will be competitive most places. To have the best shot, she'll need to disclose the reason for leaving and make an affirmative case as to why she wants to go to that school.

Best of luck to your daughter.

Thank you. We are most definitely not full pay though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'll keep this short. DD is a sophomore at an Ivy. Was assaulted and stalked her freshman year for five brutal and traumatizing months. Is miserable at the current school she's at and wants to leave. Has a 3.7 as a gender studies major. Where can she transfer to? Ideally, she wants to go to another Ivy (except Cornell or Penn because she hates those schools), but I feel like her GPA might prevent her from transferring to another Ivy. Other schools on her list are Wesleyan, Vassar, Barnard, Northwestern, and Stanford (I know, long shot). I've never been through this... Help!

Why? Wanting an "Ivy" is not a criterion for choosing a school that works better for her.

DD does like the prestige associated with an Ivy, but she's also interested in other schools (see my original post). Unfortunately, all these schools have pretty low transfer acceptance rates for kids applying for financial aid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you have the funds, try to get the help of a college counselor. They can help guide you on where she has the best shot.

We don't have the money for a college counselor, but we spoke to a couple for free during their initial consultation. They all had different opinions on what her chances were and where she should apply. Some said that her story was compelling and she should reach for the stars, others said that her GPA prevents her from going anywhere prestigious, others said that colleges might not want to take her because they "will view her as a liability" (their words not mine!). That's what makes this so hard.

We live in quite a world if your daughter would be re-victimized by prestigious universities because someone attacked her!!!!!!!!!!!

To that I say: you don't want her to attend a school that takes that stance.

Let her speak her truth (IF she wants to share that...she may want a fresh start). Any school that feels her experience reflects poorly ON HER is a place you want no part of.

She needs to move to a woke, supportive environment. Not the type of schools that were outed in the Hunting Ground documentary.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'll keep this short. DD is a sophomore at an Ivy. Was assaulted and stalked her freshman year for five brutal and traumatizing months. Is miserable at the current school she's at and wants to leave. Has a 3.7 as a gender studies major. Where can she transfer to? Ideally, she wants to go to another Ivy (except Cornell or Penn because she hates those schools), but I feel like her GPA might prevent her from transferring to another Ivy. Other schools on her list are Wesleyan, Vassar, Barnard, Northwestern, and Stanford (I know, long shot). I've never been through this... Help!

Why? Wanting an "Ivy" is not a criterion for choosing a school that works better for her.

DD does like the prestige associated with an Ivy, but she's also interested in other schools (see my original post). Unfortunately, all these schools have pretty low transfer acceptance rates for kids applying for financial aid.

If she wants to avoid making another mistake in choosing a school, she needs to get rid of that mentality.

[Anonymous]

All the ivies are pretty "woke" places these days so I'm not inclined to believe there is any fault on the school's part. Contrary to what some of you want to believe, these schools are not indifferent to claims of assault or stalking.

Sounds more like a personality problem. So be careful about the school you want to transfer to. The only advantage of a different Ivy or Stanford would being on a different campus but it's more or less the same environment, administration and student body. My guess an all-women's LAC might be the best route. Smith and Bryn Mawr shouldn't be difficult to get into as a transfer.