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Anonymous wrote:The problem is There's no great bc. Not using condoms sorry. Estrogen pills make me ill. IUDs creep me out because everyone I know had complications. Injections make you fat.

I tell my husband if he doesn't want more kids we can't have sex. Fortunately we want a big family

Why can’t he get snipped?

DP, but mine refuses to even consider it, despite the fact that neither of us want any more children.

That is some controlling, patriarchal bullish!t. Thank god I am married to a more enlightened human being.

“His body, his choice” is the enlightened view. Right?

Yeah, I’m the PP with the DH who won’t consider it, and this is exactly his reasoning. He feels he shouldn’t have to. Likewise, it is my decision to no longer have sex with him (I can’t do hormonal BC, and copper IUD had too many side effects). So, here we are.

Or, you could choose to put a condom on his penis. My parents held off having unwanted children for 7 years this way in the 1950s. Very ahead of their time. No pill yet.

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Anonymous wrote:The problem is There's no great bc. Not using condoms sorry. Estrogen pills make me ill. IUDs creep me out because everyone I know had complications. Injections make you fat.

I tell my husband if he doesn't want more kids we can't have sex. Fortunately we want a big family

Why can’t he get snipped?

DP, but mine refuses to even consider it, despite the fact that neither of us want any more children.

That is some controlling, patriarchal bullish!t. Thank god I am married to a more enlightened human being.

“His body, his choice” is the enlightened view. Right?

Yeah, I’m the PP with the DH who won’t consider it, and this is exactly his reasoning. He feels he shouldn’t have to. Likewise, it is my decision to no longer have sex with him (I can’t do hormonal BC, and copper IUD had too many side effects). So, here we are.

Or, you could choose to put a condom on his penis. My parents held off having unwanted children for 7 years this way in the 1950s. Very ahead of their time. No pill yet.

Crazily enough I feel like there was more information about family planning calendar style in those times. Couples rely on pills too much. Learn your ovulation signals. Yes, it is possible that you ovulate outside of that window but the opportunity decreases. Add in some form of BC and you minimize changes greatly, but again, relying on the pill and not taking it at the same time means the whole month is out the window. Limit or eliminate sex during fertile window and use condoms at all other times.
Just sucks to have the fertile time be the only time I am really horny.

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Anonymous wrote:The problem is There's no great bc. Not using condoms sorry. Estrogen pills make me ill. IUDs creep me out because everyone I know had complications. Injections make you fat.

I tell my husband if he doesn't want more kids we can't have sex. Fortunately we want a big family

Why can’t he get snipped?

DP, but mine refuses to even consider it, despite the fact that neither of us want any more children.

That is some controlling, patriarchal bullish!t. Thank god I am married to a more enlightened human being.

“His body, his choice” is the enlightened view. Right?

Yeah, I’m the PP with the DH who won’t consider it, and this is exactly his reasoning. He feels he shouldn’t have to. Likewise, it is my decision to no longer have sex with him (I can’t do hormonal BC, and copper IUD had too many side effects). So, here we are.

Or, you could choose to put a condom on his penis. My parents held off having unwanted children for 7 years this way in the 1950s. Very ahead of their time. No pill yet.

Crazily enough I feel like there was more information about family planning calendar style in those times. Couples rely on pills too much. Learn your ovulation signals. Yes, it is possible that you ovulate outside of that window but the opportunity decreases. Add in some form of BC and you minimize changes greatly, but again, relying on the pill and not taking it at the same time means the whole month is out the window. Limit or eliminate sex during fertile window and use condoms at all other times.
Just sucks to have the fertile time be the only time I am really horny.

When used correctly NFP/cycle tracking is 99% effective.

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Anonymous wrote:Well you have all officially freaked me out. I am on the mini pill and breastfeeding my 7 month old. Still no period. I have never breastfed this long with my other kids nor been on the mini pill this long.

you're fine as long as you don't skip a day or take at a different time.

Pp here - I take it at “bedtime”. So anywhere between 9-11pm.

Nope. Get a baby name ready. That’s fine for the regular pill but the mini pill requires no precision. You aren’t getting any benefit from it so when you ovulate you will have a baby 39 weeks later.

Pp here - I guess I should call my ob! I didn’t know that once baby starts eating solids the mini pill isn’t as effective. It took me a long time to get pregnant with number 3 (1 year and 3 miscarriages) so I guess I am also under the assumption that I can’t get pregnant easily without very timed intercourse.

Just a heads up that 4 pregnancies in a year is a conception every 3 months or so. I would NOT consider yourself unable to get pregnant easily, rather there's something else (age, some fertility issue from you or your partner, or just bad luck) that was causing your pregnancy loss (and sorry for your losses). If you wouldn't mind a surprise pregnancy, then continue on. But a surprise pregnancy seems inevitable if you continue to be imprecise with your pill.

Pp you quoted - I guess I never thought about it that way. I definitely don’t want to go through a bunch of miscarriages again. It was so hard on my body. I was pregnant for so many months last year it was horrible. And of course I am sickest 6-10 weeks and those were the weeks I was pregnant and miscarried.

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Anonymous wrote:Well you have all officially freaked me out. I am on the mini pill and breastfeeding my 7 month old. Still no period. I have never breastfed this long with my other kids nor been on the mini pill this long.

you're fine as long as you don't skip a day or take at a different time.

Pp here - I take it at “bedtime”. So anywhere between 9-11pm.

Nope. Get a baby name ready. That’s fine for the regular pill but the mini pill requires no precision. You aren’t getting any benefit from it so when you ovulate you will have a baby 39 weeks later.

The mini pill requires precision. I used to set an alarm on my phone to take mine.

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Anonymous wrote:The problem is There's no great bc. Not using condoms sorry. Estrogen pills make me ill. IUDs creep me out because everyone I know had complications. Injections make you fat.

I tell my husband if he doesn't want more kids we can't have sex. Fortunately we want a big family

Why can’t he get snipped?

DP, but mine refuses to even consider it, despite the fact that neither of us want any more children.

That is some controlling, patriarchal bullish!t. Thank god I am married to a more enlightened human being.

“His body, his choice” is the enlightened view. Right?

Yeah, I’m the PP with the DH who won’t consider it, and this is exactly his reasoning. He feels he shouldn’t have to. Likewise, it is my decision to no longer have sex with him (I can’t do hormonal BC, and copper IUD had too many side effects). So, here we are.

Or, you could choose to put a condom on his penis. My parents held off having unwanted children for 7 years this way in the 1950s. Very ahead of their time. No pill yet.

Crazily enough I feel like there was more information about family planning calendar style in those times. Couples rely on pills too much. Learn your ovulation signals. Yes, it is possible that you ovulate outside of that window but the opportunity decreases. Add in some form of BC and you minimize changes greatly, but again, relying on the pill and not taking it at the same time means the whole month is out the window. Limit or eliminate sex during fertile window and use condoms at all other times.
Just sucks to have the fertile time be the only time I am really horny.

This may work well for women who are regular, or close to it. Not everyone can rely on this. I have PCOS, and my cycles vary wildly.