Where to find a no-strings attached affair partner

[Anonymous]

Any luck OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hi OP, married man here. My wife also gave me a DADT hall pass, and if your situation is similar to mine, she made clear she really doesn't want to find out, so that makes Tinder and stuff risky.

Two suggestions: 1) if you don't need a deep connection, your best bet is a hotel bar at a nice business hotel during the week. Think JW, Marriott, Hilton's, Four Seasons perhaps. I travel for work, I promise you it's 10-1 men to women and most of the men are better looking and more accomplished than average. They are all married and most (not all but most) will be up for a ONS, and you have a room ready to go.

2) If you want a deeper connection, the key is to find a married man you know and like, do some light flirting and then if he reciprocates, drop a comment like "if only my husband made me smile like you" If he is game, he will take it from there.

Disclaimer - I am conventionally attractive, and have slept with a few married women. I travel for work a lot. I have also declined far more than I have accepted being propositioned because these things can get really, really messy fast. Most women like you crave sex but also crave the intimacy more and have a really hard time separating the two. Like, they will get offended if I am not occasionally communicating, checking in on how they are doing. I have a family and a wife I love who just isn't into sex, I am not looking for a lover. I won't sleep with women in my town.

Also, it's not true that every man is going to say yes to you. It is true that most married men are sex starved and will be extremely tempted, but the brakes will be their concerns for getting caught or getting a disease. If you find a married man with some mutual spark, you need to be blunt at some point that you aren't looking to break up either of your marriages and you are STI free. At that point, he will almost surely say yes.

Just get divorced and date. A factoid for you, most people with Herpes won't tell. Especially men because they know the majority of women wouldn't chance it. Oh you're going to take their word for it......LOL!
A cheaters word no less.

OP time to change your life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Any married women ever have trouble finding an AP? While I am skeptical that most married men would cheat at the drop of a hat, I am sure at least a quarter to half would so if OP expresses interest in a couple different men one will come through real soon.

Men don't use prostitutes because they want to, it's often the only choice for NSA

Oh you are sure, huh? Whatever the real number may be, it's just as high for women. Believe me, I know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any married women ever have trouble finding an AP? While I am skeptical that most married men would cheat at the drop of a hat, I am sure at least a quarter to half would so if OP expresses interest in a couple different men one will come through real soon.

Men don't use prostitutes because they want to, it's often the only choice for NSA

Oh you are sure, huh? Whatever the real number may be, it's just as high for women. Believe me, I know.

Man or woman doesn't matter. There are low quality people everywhere willing to do anything for money or not.

Some people live dysfunctional lives by choice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any married women ever have trouble finding an AP? While I am skeptical that most married men would cheat at the drop of a hat, I am sure at least a quarter to half would so if OP expresses interest in a couple different men one will come through real soon.

Men don't use prostitutes because they want to, it's often the only choice for NSA

Oh you are sure, huh? Whatever the real number may be, it's just as high for women. Believe me, I know.

Man or woman doesn't matter. There are low quality people everywhere willing to do anything for money or not.

Some people live dysfunctional lives by choice.

And some people are having a great time and lots of amazing sex. Jealous much?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Any luck OP?

Some nibbles on tinder. Had a “date” for drinks and to see if we had chemistry tonight but he canceled.

We’ll see.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any luck OP?

Some nibbles on tinder. Had a “date” for drinks and to see if we had chemistry tonight but he canceled.

We’ll see.

PM me

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have had luck on Ashley Madison.

Still the best site for affairs. Even better after the big bust. Just have to know how to work it.

How do you work it? Tried it and it has been largely a bomb - advice welcome.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have had luck on Ashley Madison.

Still the best site for affairs. Even better after the big bust. Just have to know how to work it.

How do you work it? Tried it and it has been largely a bomb - advice welcome.

It's about 10 men for every woman on there, if you exclude hookers and bots. Which is fairly representative of real life, for every woman looking to cheat, 10 men are available which is depressing to think that most married men are DTF if the opportunity presents itself. If you are a woman, be prepared to be inundated

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have had luck on Ashley Madison.

Still the best site for affairs. Even better after the big bust. Just have to know how to work it.

How do you work it? Tried it and it has been largely a bomb - advice welcome.

It's about 10 men for every woman on there, if you exclude hookers and bots. Which is fairly representative of real life, for every woman looking to cheat, 10 men are available which is depressing to think that most married men are DTF if the opportunity presents itself. If you are a woman, be prepared to be inundated

Accurate^^. But it’s not depressing for the reason you stated. Most of these men wouldn’t be on AM at all if not for their disinterested wives. The men would happily remain faithful if not for infrequent sex at home. So for men, AM is a marriage survival tactic. The depressing part of this is how few wives actually want to f$k their husbands. That is why every married man in DC is available to any woman who approaches.

[Anonymous]

Milfies, if you are looking for a preppy affair

[MrGreen]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any luck OP?

Some nibbles on tinder. Had a “date” for drinks and to see if we had chemistry tonight but he canceled.

We’ll see.

If that doesn't work out, I might know someone who could help you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Milfies, if you are looking for a preppy affair

Keep your boat shoes on!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any luck OP?

Some nibbles on tinder. Had a “date” for drinks and to see if we had chemistry tonight but he canceled.

We’ll see.

OP are you seeking any therapy? That wouldn't be a bad idea. At least to find out why you want to engage in self destructive behavior. Or possible solutions to get out of your situation, or improve it.

Educating yourself on STDs and transmission wouldn't hurt either. Many cheaters are serial ones that have slept with many...meaning your odds are going to be higher for many things. Including cervical cancer etc. Is your life that bad you'd be willing to risk your health?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any luck OP?

Some nibbles on tinder. Had a “date” for drinks and to see if we had chemistry tonight but he canceled.

We’ll see.

OP are you seeking any therapy? That wouldn't be a bad idea. At least to find out why you want to engage in self destructive behavior. Or possible solutions to get out of your situation, or improve it.

Educating yourself on STDs and transmission wouldn't hurt either. Many cheaters are serial ones that have slept with many...meaning your odds are going to be higher for many things. Including cervical cancer etc. Is your life that bad you'd be willing to risk your health?

Why yes, my therapist knows and applauds this. Spent a year working through accepting my husbands lack of interest isn’t my fault.

And I have heard of condoms and know how to use them to reduce the risk of STD transmission.