Is daughter getting ripped off by friends—paying rent all summer not living in rental?

[Anonymous]

Nobody ripped her off, she just played herself.

Alternatively, she made the choice she deemed right for her at this time in her life, and she's making the sacrifices (working to pay the rent, as she promised) to make it happen and retain her integrity. That's grit.

She's apparently not asking for your help, so I don't know why this is your business to get peeved about.

[Anonymous]

This is why I’m such a fan of colleges with strict on campus housing requirements for all four years. Ivies and Notre Dame, to name a few. Off campus housing is full of hassles and rackets and safety concerns.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is why I’m such a fan of colleges with strict on campus housing requirements for all four years. Ivies and Notre Dame, to name a few. Off campus housing is full of hassles and rackets and safety concerns.

Nope, there are great life skills to be built and lessons to be learned. You can tell the 20somethings with no real-world experience when they enter the world of work. They make THE WORST roommates.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your daughter is only going to be there for the fall semester and signed a 12-month lease?? Why in the world did she do that? She should have only sublet a place for just the fall semester or lived on campus. She really screwed up and I can't believe you all didn't talk about this before she made such a huge financial commitment. This has NOTHING to do with the roommates - this is all on your daughter for not thinking or planning.

+1 and it says something about you and your family - and the way you’ve raised your daughter - that your fist assumption would be that your daughter is getting ripped off.

Boy, you have one effed up child there. I suspect you’ll be reaping on the consequences of your lousy parenting for years to come.

+2.

The big problem here is OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is why I’m such a fan of colleges with strict on campus housing requirements for all four years. Ivies and Notre Dame, to name a few. Off campus housing is full of hassles and rackets and safety concerns.

Nope, there are great life skills to be built and lessons to be learned. You can tell the 20somethings with no real-world experience when they enter the world of work. They make THE WORST roommates.

Not my experience. If they've had roommates at college, they tend to be ok. No need to go to off campus housing to have a roommate experience.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I thought college rentals began in the fall, and kids sublease the final summer months (May June and July) to someone. Seems the roommates who were long planning to stay in the city got all the advantage, including cheaper rent this summer and an empty room not filled with a random sublessee. If daughter didn't sign until May, obviously nobody else was going to live in that place this summer, so why couldn't she just wait to sign until August? Seems daughter was peer pressured to sign before going home to alleviate burden of roommates divvying up 3 months of her rent. Daughter essentially subsidizes kids who were staying in the city this summer. That's how it seems.

This sound like OP. If your daughter didn't sign the lease, the friends likely would have found a different roommate. I paid rent over the summer in college because the leases were year long leases off campus. How it works is all the roommates sign the lease and if you want to sublease, it's on you, not the others, to do that. Your daughter isn't subsidizing anyone, she's paying her share of what she agreed to because she chose not to sublease.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your daughter is only going to be there for the fall semester and signed a 12-month lease?? Why in the world did she do that? She should have only sublet a place for just the fall semester or lived on campus. She really screwed up and I can't believe you all didn't talk about this before she made such a huge financial commitment. This has NOTHING to do with the roommates - this is all on your daughter for not thinking or planning.

+1 and it says something about you and your family - and the way you’ve raised your daughter - that your fist assumption would be that your daughter is getting ripped off.

Boy, you have one effed up child there. I suspect you’ll be reaping on the consequences of your lousy parenting for years to come.

+2.

The big problem here is OP

OP probably provided her kid with enough money that she never learned the value of a dollar. That's life. I never would have done that in college or even for the lean years afterwards when I first graduated. I remember looking for apartments so carefully for vacancies that started the day I came back to the area so I wouldn't be paying for extra time. But that's because I didn't have much money.