Men want sex for Father’s Day? How many women want sex for Mother’s Day?

[Anonymous]

Back to the question in the OP. DH was out of town. I still had an almost ideal day. Breakfast in bed, a big O (self induced), a nice nap, a good book, time with the kids, time to myself, another big O, bubble bath with a glass of wine. It would’ve been nice if DH had been home, but I do ok on my own. I can replicate most of his best moves with toys. That bubble bath was perfect and the wine was a really good splurge. I mostly just want a fantastic orgasm, I don’t care if it comes from DH or me. And on Mother’s Day or my birthday, I shouldn’t have to work for it, not if it’s part of my gift.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How can you NOT understand how meaningful sex is to men? I can’t wrap my head around that. Men want sex, a sandwich, and support. Period. They aren’t complicated.

That is soooo true

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Quid pro quo sex grosses me out.

Same. We have sex because we like sex. Because we like each other. Because we like sex with each other

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Back to the question in the OP. DH was out of town. I still had an almost ideal day. Breakfast in bed, a big O (self induced), a nice nap, a good book, time with the kids, time to myself, another big O, bubble bath with a glass of wine. It would’ve been nice if DH had been home, but I do ok on my own. I can replicate most of his best moves with toys. That bubble bath was perfect and the wine was a really good splurge. I mostly just want a fantastic orgasm, I don’t care if it comes from DH or me. And on Mother’s Day or my birthday, I shouldn’t have to work for it, not if it’s part of my gift.

I've asked for one without having to return the favor... Bday gift.

Still never happened 25 years later.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a woman and can't understand why it's hard to understand. You think a man would rather have a watch or some ugly tie than have sex? You can't be serious.

I’m a dad. What kind of watch are we talking about?

A Kotex...oh, I mean a Rolex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Quid pro quo sex grosses me out.

Same. We have sex because we like sex. Because we like each other. Because we like sex with each other

Yes, we all did when we were Young. Get back to us in a decade when your DH is crawling the walls and you want to be left alone. Maintenance sex is the norm for most women. Truth

[Anonymous]

I’m a snipped man who’s fine with incorporating toys nearly every time.

I’m sorry so many men are so lame.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Back to the question in the OP. DH was out of town. I still had an almost ideal day. Breakfast in bed, a big O (self induced), a nice nap, a good book, time with the kids, time to myself, another big O, bubble bath with a glass of wine. It would’ve been nice if DH had been home, but I do ok on my own. I can replicate most of his best moves with toys. That bubble bath was perfect and the wine was a really good splurge. I mostly just want a fantastic orgasm, I don’t care if it comes from DH or me. And on Mother’s Day or my birthday, I shouldn’t have to work for it, not if it’s part of my gift.

I've asked for one without having to return the favor... Bday gift.

Still never happened 25 years later.

I can get mine from PIV, but I’ve never gotten oral without at least following up with PIV. I give it all the time without expecting reciprocation. Or gave it. Now I only do it for special occasions. It’s weird, how he started equating his receiving with foreplay, but my receiving was a special treat. Now it’s a special treat for both of us. Any time he puts forth the effort, he’s rewarded for a few nights after, but he hasn’t put in the effort enough times to make the connection.

It’s okay though, because like I said, it’s nice when he joins in on my fun but I’m self sufficient.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Quid pro quo sex grosses me out.

Same. We have sex because we like sex. Because we like each other. Because we like sex with each other

Yes, we all did when we were Young. Get back to us in a decade when your DH is crawling the walls and you want to be left alone. Maintenance sex is the norm for most women. Truth

He will be 65 next month. I’m 48

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a snipped man who’s fine with incorporating toys nearly every time.

I’m sorry so many men are so lame.

Actually you are lame. When women talk about men being bad in bed they are talking about you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m trying to wrap my head around the idea that men just really want sex rather than any of the other possible ways of being celebrated.

Such as what? If you ask a man what he wants, and he answers honestly, what is the issue here? Just because you woud want brunch, etc., doesn't mean that's what he would want. Like at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a woman and can't understand why it's hard to understand. You think a man would rather have a watch or some ugly tie than have sex? You can't be serious.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:if my husband wants sex and makes a move, he's more likely than not to get it. But it wouldn't be on the top of my list for Father's Day.

I mean, on mother's Day I don't expect him to do anything because I'm not his mother. It's up to the kid to do that.

And on Father's Day, I'm not going to be like hey you're such a good daddy here's a blowjob for you. That just feels icky but if he asked for sex like he would any other night: All good

Who are you kidding? If your DH neglected Mother's Day in your own house I bet there would be hell to pay.

[Anonymous]

The number of women who want sex for Mothers Day is completely irrelevant.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Man here. in a typical I am high drive she is low drive, what happened to the sex and why is my wife never in the mood anymore type marriage. Yes, what I want more than anything for father's day, birthday, and any holiday is special lingerie and sex night. My wife is SAHM, there isn't anything I can't realistically afford and it's the one gift I crave from her.

It didn't happen last night but she also thinks it's weird that is a father's day thing.

Your wife is a normal woman being a normal woman and struggling with monogamy more than you are. Long term relationships are hard on desire, but especially hard on FEMALE desire—there are plenty of data on this. We need to revisit the stale AF and inherently sexist idea that women aren’t having sex because they don’t like sex. Data show it’s that they bore of partnered sex more quickly than men do. In the aggregate, they like sex, just not the sex they’re having. But this fact runs so contrary to our notion of who men and women are that we have a hard time taking it in.

+1,000,000. - possibly most intelligent scum post ever.