Parents, please check the weather and dress your children accordingly

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Anonymous wrote:Parenting them doesn't mean controlling them. It means teaching them to make good decisions. If they insist on sweatpants, and are hot, they probably won't do it again.

Whereas telling them what to wear every day means kids who can't make good decisions because they've never been empowered to make any that matter.

So you go ahead and call people lazy. Good luck when your child rebels against all of your controlling ways.

So if your kid wants to stay up all night playing video games you’ll let them because you don’t control them? Or leave food to rot in their rooms? Or stay outside playing all night? Ride a bike without a helmet? Where’s the line? Or do you only slack on parenting when other people have to help your child deal with the consequences?

pick your battles, friend.

Right, don’t fight the battles you don’t have to deal with all day. That’s what the teacher is for.

Teaching your kids how to function isn’t a battle, it’s parenting. Pick your battles = I’m too lazy to deal with this

We can agree to disagree. I (and many in this thread) think that teaching a kid to function involves helping them learn how to make good decisions in a variety of circumstances, not doing everything for them. My upbringing was very much about instilling values and setting good examples and then letting my 5 siblings and me make our own decisions and live with the consequences. Drawing lines when appropriate (i.e., bedtime, limits on TV, etc), but keeping them pretty broad and letting us make our decisions. It worked out fine for all of us and we are all extremely successful and responsible professionals.

And it shifts over time. I was more prescriptive about what he wore when he was 4 than I am now that he's 7. I think screen time is another decent example. He has a kindle with freetime so I can set a certain amount of time on apps, videos, etc. Once that time is done, it's done. So if he wants to spend 30 minutes on apps and 30 minutes on videos first thing Saturday morning, he knows that's it for the day. His choice, his consequence.

Ironically, he thinks I'm way too strict.

Thank you for this. Gotta love the posters who tell anyone who parents differently that they need to take parenting classes.

My 4th grader gets herself ready in the morning, from waking up when her alarm goes off to getting to the bus stop on time. She needs a few reminders here and there, but is overall independent. To me, this is a parenting win, even if she insists on wearing long pants when it's 90.

To the PP, the fact that you might handle your mornings differently doesn't mean that I'm lazy. It took a hell of a lot of work to get to this point. It also doesn't mean that I don't set any limits. For instance, I made her change into shorts and short sleeves to run a 5K this weekend because I thought that was a legitimate health/safety concern.

It also doesn't mean that I think your style is wrong. There are a million different parenting styles, and most of them are just fine. You know your family and your kids best, and you should trust that other parents know their families and their kids best.

As for the OP's message, I truly don't think being outside in long pants or long sleeves for 20 minutes at recess is a health risk. There are plenty of places in the world where longs/longs are the norm, there is no A/C, and it gets hot.

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Anonymous wrote:I love how all of these lazy parents claim “they don’t fight their children” when it comes to clothing. I read that, “im too lazy to be bothered with what my child is going to experience all day.” It is your job to parent them and that means directing them to seasonally appropriate clothing. If they were fully developed, rational beings they wouldn’t need us.

They will keep needing you if you make every decision for them. And then they will have anxiety because you raised them to believe they can't make their own decisions.

Try again. My child and I look at the weather app together every morning and talk about what he should wear. He is in 4th grade. We do not have battles about clothes because we've overcome a power struggle when he was 2 and 3. If you're still having to do this with your upper elementary aged kid, you need to re-evaluate.

Hi Miss Know-it-all. My child has a developmental disorder and doesnt learn that way. I parent my child in the best method that works for them.
If you go through life assuming you know everything about everyone maybe YOU should reevaluate. You're not a better parent than anyone else here, and you are decidedly a worse person overall.

Are you the one who said they will need me forever if I make every decision for them? If you are, I think you are mental. Because you make zero sense.

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Anonymous wrote:I love how all of these lazy parents claim “they don’t fight their children” when it comes to clothing. I read that, “im too lazy to be bothered with what my child is going to experience all day.” It is your job to parent them and that means directing them to seasonally appropriate clothing. If they were fully developed, rational beings they wouldn’t need us.

They will keep needing you if you make every decision for them. And then they will have anxiety because you raised them to believe they can't make their own decisions.

Try again. My child and I look at the weather app together every morning and talk about what he should wear. He is in 4th grade. We do not have battles about clothes because we've overcome a power struggle when he was 2 and 3. If you're still having to do this with your upper elementary aged kid, you need to re-evaluate.

Hi Miss Know-it-all. My child has a developmental disorder and doesnt learn that way. I parent my child in the best method that works for them.
If you go through life assuming you know everything about everyone maybe YOU should reevaluate. You're not a better parent than anyone else here, and you are decidedly a worse person overall.

Don't bother with people who will never understand what having a non-NT kid is like. Little Miss Smug can judge my parenting all she wants based on what my kid is wearing, if that's what it takes for her to feel morally superior, I'm okay with giving it to her. I have a kid who runs very cold due to an invisible health issue and often appears overdressed, and the other runs hot and drives his dad crazy wanting to wear shorts nearly year-round. We made charts for the kids to record the temperature, weather conditions, what they wore, and how comfortable they were to help gauge their on personal needs. If the Smugs are so hard up for a confidence boost, they need to judge without all the facts, no skin off my nose. We do us.

I'm the miss know it all (according to the moron above). What makes you think that I have a NT kid? My kid is also special needs but hey, assumptions are always safe right? No one is talking about your kid who has a medical condition. it has been established we are talking about kids who are clearly overheated on a warm day. You are the smug one my dear. Take that chip off your shoulder. You might learn something.

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Anonymous wrote:We had kids wearing sweatpants and sweatshirts today and some even had coats on. It was nearly 90. The kids were sweating and red faced. They were so uncomfortable. If it’s hot, please dress them in a T-shirt at least, and shorts, if possible. The ac in the classroom may not be working.

OP, I would like to report to you that the landscapers who mow our lawn in the summer wear long sleeves and slacks. Please get in touch with their mothers asap.

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Anonymous wrote:We had kids wearing sweatpants and sweatshirts today and some even had coats on. It was nearly 90. The kids were sweating and red faced. They were so uncomfortable. If it’s hot, please dress them in a T-shirt at least, and shorts, if possible. The ac in the classroom may not be working.

OP, I would like to report to you that the landscapers who mow our lawn in the summer wear long sleeves and slacks. Please get in touch with their mothers asap.

they are wearing light cotton shirts to keep the sun off their skin, not sweatshirts and coats. But nice try.

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Anonymous wrote:^ sorry but most elementary school kids do not have unfettered access to electronics with the weather app (nor should they).

So you hand over your phone and he checks the app. That has nothing to do with helping him process the information and plan his outfit, which he should be able to do himself. We use a thermostat on the wall. No electronics required at all.

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Anonymous wrote:We had kids wearing sweatpants and sweatshirts today and some even had coats on. It was nearly 90. The kids were sweating and red faced. They were so uncomfortable. If it’s hot, please dress them in a T-shirt at least, and shorts, if possible. The ac in the classroom may not be working.

OP, I would like to report to you that the landscapers who mow our lawn in the summer wear long sleeves and slacks. Please get in touch with their mothers asap.

they are wearing light cotton shirts to keep the sun off their skin, not sweatshirts and coats. But nice try.

No. They're khakis and dark green shirts. Knowing everything is hard isn't it?

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Anonymous wrote:Elementary age children? I don’t battle my kids on clothes. If they insist on shorts when it’s 45 they can be cold.

So unless you are talking about pk3/4 kids...well, it’s not a battle I’m fighting.

This... as long as the clothes are clean and match I don't care.

NP. We had a few kids dressed in jeans and sweatshirts today who ended up in the health room after recess because they felt nauseated/dizzy from playing in the heat. Do you care if you get a call from the health room because your kid threw up and you have to come get them?

I won't battle my kid on clothes, but I will tell him what the guidelines are (shorts vs. pants, t shirt vs. long sleeve) and he can choose whatever he wants within those guidelines.

You may not care but your lack of caring becomes just one more thing we have to deal with at school because you won't deal with it at home. --NP (and teacher)

WORD. -parent who does understand that my choices/my kid's choices can affect others

Such is life. I know it's hard. But, sorry. And teachers dealing with "just one more thing" is most professions. Again. Sorry. I'll do as I see fit (or not).

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Anonymous wrote:We had kids wearing sweatpants and sweatshirts today and some even had coats on. It was nearly 90. The kids were sweating and red faced. They were so uncomfortable. If it’s hot, please dress them in a T-shirt at least, and shorts, if possible. The ac in the classroom may not be working.

If a kid is wearing a COAT and can't figure out that he should take it off if he's getting hot, there are bigger issues at work here. No kid goes to school in a coat with nothing on underneath it. And it's also odd that numerous kids would wear sweatshirts with nothing on underneath them. Again, if a kid can't figure out how to take off his sweatshirt when he's hot, the problem isn't his clothes.

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Anonymous wrote:We had kids wearing sweatpants and sweatshirts today and some even had coats on. It was nearly 90. The kids were sweating and red faced. They were so uncomfortable. If it’s hot, please dress them in a T-shirt at least, and shorts, if possible. The ac in the classroom may not be working.

If a kid is wearing a COAT and can't figure out that he should take it off if he's getting hot, there are bigger issues at work here. No kid goes to school in a coat with nothing on underneath it. And it's also odd that numerous kids would wear sweatshirts with nothing on underneath them. Again, if a kid can't figure out how to take off his sweatshirt when he's hot, the problem isn't his clothes.

Agree. I honestly don't understand this. My preschooler's class walks in the door, hang up their coat, and grab their nametag, it's a basic classroom routine. An elementary school student who is wearing a coat in 90 degree weather should be told to please put his coat on his hook and if he refuses, asked "Are you feeling ok? Are you sick?" and sent to the nurse's office...for an evaluation of his state of mind. It makes no sense.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a teacher and instead of lecturing parents on clothes, I’d rather all of you buy deodorant for your kids. Many need it sooner than you think.

I understand. Kids are odd. They wore shorts all winter now they want to wear pants and long sleeves. My own DS insisted on summer clothes when it was freezing now he wants to wear his favorite hoodie every day. Fine, but he’s wearing deodorant. Yes, he’s in elementary school and needs it.

My 4th grader has been wearing it for a year and a half. It only took me smelling his armpits a couple of times to realize that he needed it.

I have a 4th grader. He showers every day. That's ia bit extreme and maybe you should bathe your kid more. That's not normal at 4th in less you held your kid back a year or two so they can be the oldest and "leaders - i.e. bullies."

All kids are different. My daughter absolutely needed deodorant by the time she was 9. It wasn’t a matter of showering. She would smell after a regular school day without. She started wearing it consistently at the beginning of 3rd grade. My son can go without it still at 11. I tell him to wear it to develop the habit but he doesn’t smell nearly as bad, even after sports.

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Anonymous wrote:Elementary age children? I don’t battle my kids on clothes. If they insist on shorts when it’s 45 they can be cold.

So unless you are talking about pk3/4 kids...well, it’s not a battle I’m fighting.

This... as long as the clothes are clean and match I don't care.

NP. We had a few kids dressed in jeans and sweatshirts today who ended up in the health room after recess because they felt nauseated/dizzy from playing in the heat. Do you care if you get a call from the health room because your kid threw up and you have to come get them?

I won't battle my kid on clothes, but I will tell him what the guidelines are (shorts vs. pants, t shirt vs. long sleeve) and he can choose whatever he wants within those guidelines.

You may not care but your lack of caring becomes just one more thing we have to deal with at school because you won't deal with it at home. --NP (and teacher)

WORD. -parent who does understand that my choices/my kid's choices can affect others

Such is life. I know it's hard. But, sorry. And teachers dealing with "just one more thing" is most professions. Again. Sorry. I'll do as I see fit (or not).

Sure. Just don’t get all butt hurt when we call you a selfish anus. Wear the badge proudly.

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Anonymous wrote:We had kids wearing sweatpants and sweatshirts today and some even had coats on. It was nearly 90. The kids were sweating and red faced. They were so uncomfortable. If it’s hot, please dress them in a T-shirt at least, and shorts, if possible. The ac in the classroom may not be working.

OP, I would like to report to you that the landscapers who mow our lawn in the summer wear long sleeves and slacks. Please get in touch with their mothers asap.

they are wearing light cotton shirts to keep the sun off their skin, not sweatshirts and coats. But nice try.

No. They're khakis and dark green shirts. Knowing everything is hard isn't it?

Oh dear, it certainly isn’t hard to be smarter than you.

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Anonymous wrote:Front office staff here and PSA: dress your kid in layers. Hoodies are fine, but make sure there's a t shirt underneath it. Consider adding in a complete change of clothes.

Yesterday a student insisted upon calling home to change clothes because she got some mud and gravel on her shorts and shirt. Huge waste of time for all involved. Mom raced in with outfit change. Kid refused to wear the school's extra clothes (gym uniform).

Do you parents have an extra ten seconds to wipe the breakfast off of your kid's face? Or shirt? How about running a damp comb through your DC's hair? Bedhead and breakfast and the stink of skipped showers and shampoos make me gag. Act like you care.

Most all kids need deodorant by 4th grade if not way sooner.

I feel bad for these kids not being taught appropriate hygiene at home. Worse for their teachers.

If the mom was ok with bringing in an outfit, why did you care?

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My granddaughter, who is 7, needs deodorant or a shower after playing hard in the heat.