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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Parenting them doesn't mean controlling them.  It means teaching them to make good decisions.  If they insist on sweatpants, and are hot, they probably won't do it again.

Whereas telling them what to wear every day means kids who can't make good decisions because they've never been empowered to make any that matter.

So you go ahead and call people lazy.  Good luck when your child rebels against all of your controlling ways. [/quote]

So if your kid wants to stay up all night playing video games you’ll let them because you don’t control them? Or leave food to rot in their rooms? Or stay outside playing all night? Ride a bike without a helmet? Where’s the line? Or do you only slack on parenting when other people have to help your child deal with the consequences?[/quote]

pick your battles, friend. [/quote]

Right, don’t fight the battles you don’t have to deal with all day. That’s what the teacher is for.  :roll:

Teaching your kids how to function isn’t a battle, it’s parenting. Pick your battles = I’m too lazy to deal with this[/quote]

We can agree to disagree. I (and many in this thread) think that teaching a kid to function involves helping them learn how to make good decisions in a variety of circumstances, not doing everything for them. My upbringing was very much about instilling values and setting good examples and then letting my 5 siblings and me make our own decisions and live with the consequences. Drawing lines when appropriate (i.e., bedtime, limits on TV, etc), but keeping them pretty broad and letting us make our decisions. It worked out fine for all of us and we are all extremely successful and responsible professionals.

And it shifts over time. I was more prescriptive about what he wore when he was 4 than I am now that he's 7. I think screen time is another decent example. He has a kindle with freetime so I can set a certain amount of time on apps, videos, etc. Once that time is done, it's done. So if he wants to spend 30 minutes on apps and 30 minutes on videos first thing Saturday morning, he knows that's it for the day. His choice, his consequence.

Ironically, he thinks I'm way too strict.

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Thank you for this.  Gotta love the posters who tell anyone who parents differently that they need to take parenting classes.   :roll:

My 4th grader gets herself ready in the morning, from waking up when her alarm goes off to getting to the bus stop on time.  She needs a few reminders here and there, but is overall independent.  To me, this is a parenting win, even if she insists on wearing long pants when it's 90.

To the PP, the fact that you might handle your mornings differently doesn't mean that I'm lazy.  It took a hell of a lot of work to get to this point.  It also doesn't mean that I don't set any limits.  For instance, I made her change into shorts and short sleeves to run a 5K this weekend because I thought that was a legitimate health/safety concern.

It also doesn't mean that I think your style is wrong.  There are a million different parenting styles, and most of them are just fine.  You know your family and your kids best, and you should trust that other parents know their families and their kids best.

As for the OP's message, I truly don't think being outside in long pants or long sleeves for 20 minutes at recess is a health risk.  There are plenty of places in the world where longs/longs are the norm, there is no A/C, and it gets hot.  [/quote]

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