I'm an Amherst grad (non-athlete) and yes, all the athletes are smart people. However, it is also true that a non-athlete is going to have to work harder to find their people. There was a report that was circulated to the Amherst community that acknowledged that sports plays too dominate a role in the social life - maybe it's available on the website? I'd make sure that there is some club or something that the kid is excited about that is offered by Amherst. |
I think a student who truly is on the outside of athletics and has no desire to participate would do fine at a top SLAC. If she follows her interests, there will be plenty of people with whom she could form friendships, including athletics. The problem usually lies with the student who loves athletics and sports but wasn't quite good enough to get recruited. It could lead to resentment against athletes and the close relationships those groups form. You don't want to be envious of 40% of the student body. |
including athletes. |
| It ain’t easy getting recruited at any NESCAC school, I would go as far as to say that the top recruits are mid/low D1 talent but focused on the academic outturn. NESCAC athletics is probably the strongest D3 conference across the majority of sports. |
I prefer to think of it less that they don’t have the commitment and more that the D1 schools that they got offered were not very academic. Our DD is going to NESCAC school as a recruited athlete and she had 3 D1 offers. Life is about more than sports so we declined the D1 offers, from what were very average schools, and she’s going D3. That’s just us though - if she’d been offered UVA, Duke or UNC, she wouldn’t have thought twice. There are a lot of D1 schools I’d never heard of with 90% acceptance rates eager to fill rosters. D1 is not all Notre Dame and Stanford. |
| DS was a recruited athlete at Williams. He certainly found that athletes were a strong social presence on campus, though I don't think it amounted to BMOC domination. However, what's important to note is that cliques were a huge presence among the non-athletes - the ones that he mentioned were the super-rich kids, the super-woke kids, and the minorities (the last two not necessarily being the same). If you're not an athlete and you don't fit into one of the other cliques, it will be socially isolating. If you are an athlete and you have to drop the sport because of an injury or you're tired of it or you need to focus on academics, then you will be socially isolated if you don't fit into any of the non-athletic cliques. Wouldn't surprise me to learn that this happens at other small schools, too. |
Ugh. Sounds awful all the way around. |
| My step sister went to Bowdoin and didn’t play a sport. She transferred out. |
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My DS is a first year at a NESCAC that has a high proportion of student athletes. His experience sounds exactly the opposite of the PP's son at Williams. My kid was always actively disinterested in sports so I worried a bit about this but it doesn't seem to be an issue at all. He's very happy and it doesn't seem to impact his experience at all. He has begun to take a slightly greater interest in playing and watching sports socially, but doesn't feel any pressure around it. He actually got offered a spot on a club sport team but decided not to do it.
I think it helps that his school doesn't have Greek life and it has a reputation for being a place with a lot of nice kids. |
I should have gone to somewhere closer to DC, with more options than drinking for fun. Bryn Mawr, Haverford, Swarthmore? I was rejected from Princeton. The rural aspect of Williams has some shades of Deliverance in the winter. It can be pretty isolating without a strong friend group. |
Thank you for responding to my question. I, too, was rejected by Princeton and I wish that I had attended another school with more social options that did not involve drinking. |
PP- I agree with this and my son is at another school. |
This is true. My DD was told she was the number one recruit by several NESCACS. Wound up not passing the pre-read at her top-choice and committing to a highly academic D1. A top 20 D1 was able to admit academically while the NESCACs were not. It was surprising. |
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An aspect that I enjoyed at a large university but did not experience at my decent sized rural LAC was the option to be anonymous at times.
At the large university, I liked that I could meet new people each day--or that I could be with a group of friends & acquaintances. Experiencing a lot of diversity allowed me to grow and to experience perspectives that I did not encounter at my LAC (which was rich, white, preppy, cliquey, and very athletic with social activities centered around drinking). I simply did not need to be around others who were just like me in order to feel safe, secure, and comfortable; I enjoyed that excitement of being able to grow each day through new & sometimes uncomfortable encounters. Options. Lots of options & differences (diversity) made the large university environment exciting to me. OP: At several LACs--especially some well known SLACs--the term NARP is used in a non-complementary fashion. NARP = non-athlete, regular person. (Very commonly used at Middlebury College, for example. And I have read and have been told that it is not an uncommon term at other NESCACs as well.) To be sure, there are sub-groups and cliques at all schools large & small. The difference is in the size. There are more options at larger schools and, if commonality is what one seeks, there are more individuals within any subgroup with which one prefers to identify & associate. |
That's great. I wonder if it's just a school by school thing. I had a similar experience to PP's kid and thought that's just what happens when half your hall is hanging out with their teammates and the other half are either hanging out with an affinity group or with people they know already. Those first weeks, when your friends are your roommates and people in you hall get harder when most already have a group. |